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Volunteering and Happiness: Why Volunteering is The Superfood of The Positive Psychology Movement

01/12/2021 by Marie

International Volunteer Day takes place every year on 5 December. It’s an opportunity to celebrate and thank people all around the world who dedicate their precious time and efforts to voluntary service. It’s also a great opportunity to remind you that volunteering can have a huge impact on your happiness levels! 

What’s the Link Between Volunteering and Happiness? 

Volunteering is like the superfood of the positive psychology world. According to Dr Dawn Carr, author of 5 reasons why you should volunteer, volunteering has been shown to: 

  • Connect you to others 
  • Be good for your mind and body
  • Advance your career 
  • Bring meaning and fulfilment to your life 
  • Be good for society (of course!) 

Not only that but finding the right volunteering activity can also give you the benefits of other proven positive psychology activities such as finding purpose, being social, being generous and practicing kindness – which have all been shown to also improve mood, mental wellbeing, resilience, physical health and even longevity. 

Not convinced? Let’s dig a little deeper into what’s going on and how you can use volunteering to achieve a happier, healthier life. Read on! 

4 Ways Volunteering Make us Happier 

Does volunteering make us happy? The answer is a resounding yes!  

Volunteers have greater levels of happiness, life satisfaction, and psychological wellbeing than those who don’t volunteer. Here’s how: 

1. It Connects you with Other People 

Volunteering is arguably the best way to engage with your community. Making friends takes time but getting involved in an activity with other people gives you a reason to keep coming back each week while relationships deepen. Whether strengthening old bonds or meeting new people, working together over a shared interests connects you to people and that boosts overall happiness. 

In fact, economists Stephan Meier & Alois Stutzer released a study in 2004 which concluded that, “volunteering constitutes one of the most important pro-social activities and helping others is the way to higher individual wellbeing.” They found robust evidence that volunteers are more satisfied with their life than non-volunteers.  

Are you shy? Want to meet new people but hate walking into networking events alone? Volunteering is a great way to meet new people and work on your social skills in an environment with little pressure. Don’t know what to say to your new contacts? Simple. You can just focus on the task at hand until you get to know everyone a bit better. After some time, progressing to drinks at the pub or dinner after work will seem natural.  

2. It’s Great for Your Mental Health 

If volunteering keeps people connected, then it stands to reason that volunteering – and the relationships it fosters – can also help to improve mental health by combatting loneliness and depression. Having good friends and strong social contacts are buffers against depression – allowing people to talk through issues and problems before they become overwhelming.   

Not only that, but our brains are wired for social connection, so whenever we help others our brain releases pleasure hormones– further strengthening our mental health. Those meaningful connections can also lead to more empathy, which lead to more stress relief and help combat depression. Research from the UK found that volunteering was associated with a positive change in mental wellbeing, showing that people who volunteer become happier over time and those who volunteer more attract greater benefits from the experience. According to a Harvard study, volunteering at least once a week yields improvements to wellbeing equivalent to your annual salary doubling! 

Additionally, being helpful stimulates pleasure for the giver. Similar to when we experience awe, volunteering takes your focus away from self-reflection and helps to stimulate contentment and inspiration. In the Journal of Happiness Studies, researchers Douglas A. Gentile, Dawn M. Sweet and Lanmiao He found that doing good deeds through acts of charity or volunteer work can make you feel better and happier. They also found that simply wishing someone well can have a similarly positive effect on our moods. In fact, even witnessing acts of kindness produces oxytocin, which aids in lowering blood pressure, and improves self-esteem, optimism and our overall heart-health. 

A 2018 study on workers in a Spanish Company saw those giving out acts of kindness were even happier and more content than those who received the acts. “Our results reveal that practicing everyday pro-sociality is both emotionally reinforcing and contagious inspiring kindness and generating hedonic rewards in others,” said researchers, J. Chancellor, S. Margolis, K, Jacobs Bao, S. Lyubomirsky in the American Psychological Association Journal. 

3. It’s Great for Your Physical Health  

As many of us have noticed over the past few years, just getting out of the house is important for meeting the minimum movement levels we need to maintain a basic level of physical fitness…. Yet sometimes it’s just easier to sit on the couch. Having something to do and get us out of the house – such as a regular volunteering commitment – is a great way to ensure you get some movement into your days. 

We know that getting more movement and exercise into our daily lives helps to combat a raft of diseases and conditions. Movement, and volunteering in general, has also been shown help lessens symptoms of chronic pain and reduces risk of heart disease. For retirees, the results of regular volunteering are even more pronounced, with studies showing regular volunteering yields improvements in blood pressure and chronic pain, and reduced risk of developing cardiovascular disease.  

In 2017, researchers looked at data on volunteering, employment and health of more than 40,000 European citizens. They found that volunteers are as healthy as non-volunteers who are five years younger. The researchers controlled for other determinants of health (gender, age, education level, migrant status, religiosity and country of origin) and found that volunteers were still in substantially better health than non-volunteers.  

Although the researchers found that increases in health could be partly explained by higher income among volunteers (which could be explained by the benefits of volunteering on job prospects), they note that the direct association between volunteering and health was so highly statistically significant that it ruled out association by coincidence. Volunteering conclusively and positively impact our health. 

“Firstly, volunteering may improve access to psychological resources (such as self-esteem and self-efficacy) and social resources (such as social integration and access to support and information), both of which are found to have an overall positive effect on health,” said professor Sara Willems. “Secondly, volunteering increases physical and cognitive activity, which protects against functional decline and dementia in old age. Finally, neuroscience research has related volunteering to the release of the caregiving-related hormones oxytocin and progesterone, which have the capacity to regulate stress and inflammation.” 

4. It Can Help Your Career  

Want to switch careers or industries, or build new skills for your next promotion? Think of volunteering as an unpaid internship, with all the benefits of gaining valuable skills while only working when it suits you. There are many organisations that will take eager, hard workers with little to no experience, or which are willing to take a bet on a worker who brings transferable skills from a different industry.  

Volunteering in a busy environment can enhance your problem-solving and communication skills. This can prepare you for a more demanding career or give you a glimpse of the realities of different role before you take the plunge. 

Volunteering can help you earn more experience and direct job skills that are relevant to the career you want to pursue. In fact, some volunteering opportunities are designed to offer intensive training to volunteers. In some cases, if you show determination and consistent results, you might earn a referral or a direct job posting. If you are an active job seeker, volunteering can add that much-needed weight to your CV. Finally, it helps you make connections and meet more people in the same field. This exposure increases your chances of finding a mentor who can shape your career faster or a potential new boss. Career fulfillment is a huge source of meaning, purpose and life satisfaction – especially in the modern competitive job market – so any attempts to bring you closer to a job you’re passionate about are well worth the effort! 

Finally, the research showed that volunteers have a higher incomes. According to professor Stijn Baert: “This finding corroborates with previous research showing that volunteering activities on one’s CV yield higher employment opportunities, especially for non-natives.” 

Volunteer Opportunities 

It’s clear that volunteering involves more than meets the eye. All of the benefits discussed here culminate in an increased level of happiness in oneself and more satisfaction in life. So, how do you get started? 

If you’re already working for a large corporate, many of them have partnerships where you can donate your time and skills. Otherwise, just get onto Google. There are many organisations and charities that are often on the lookout for volunteers. Why not look for opportunities to: 

  • Mentor someone 
  • Donate blood 
  • Get involved in a charity day at your work such as Australia’s biggest morning tea or join in a fundraising walk or cycle, or grow a mo for Movember 
  • Find an organisation you believe in or support and offer your time and skills on a regular and recurring basis 

If you’re in Australia, check out your state-based organisation or NSW Volunteering for more ideas and active volunteer jobs listings. Or you can try my latest favourite organisation: The Australian Resilience Corps. 


Want to learn more about the science of happiness? Make sure to subscribe to my podcast Happiness for Cynics and my email newsletter for regular updates & resilience resources!  

Filed Under: Finding Happiness & Resiliency Tagged With: connection, happiness, mentalhealth, physicalhealth, volunteering

Does Volunteering Make Us Happier? (E95)

29/11/2021 by Marie

Happiness for Cynics podcast

International Volunteer Day, 5 Dec, is a great opportunity to remind you that volunteering can have a huge impact on your happiness levels! 

Show notes

4 Ways Volunteering Makes Us Happier 

1. It connects you with other people 

2. It’s great for your mental health 

3. It’s great for your physical health  

4. It can help your career  

Transcript

[Happy intro music -background]  

M: Welcome to happiness for cynics and thanks for joining us as we explore all the things I wish I’d known earlier in life but didn’t. 

P: This podcast is about how to live the good life. Whether we’re talking about a new study or the latest news or eastern philosophy, our show is all about discovering what makes people happy. 

M: So, if you’re like me and you want more out of life, listen in and more importantly, buy in because I guarantee if you do, the science of happiness can change your life.   

P: Plus, sometimes I think we’re kind of funny.

[Intro music fadeout]  

P: …Oh, I’m red-lining. Hello, viewers. …Viewers! Listeners, laugh. I have not had a glass of Rose.

M: I’m not going to say anything. Keep going, Pete.

P: Laugh.

M: Welcome to the show everyone. 😊

P: Hi! Hi hi hi.

M: This is Marie and Pete –

P: Laugh!

M: – and Peanut butter and Jelly, the two cats.

P: Aww, we’ve referenced them, yay. Marie was all worried that her cats were making too much noise. I’m like, ‘It’s fine. Go with it! Run with it, reference it, –

M: Laugh.

P: – it’ll be amusing!’

M: It’s a family show, and I did find out this week that Biden has pardoned the usual turkeys in honour of Thanksgiving, and their names were Peanut butter and Jelly.

P: Laugh! Pardoned them?

M: Yes, so they don’t get killed for Thanksgiving. They go back and live free and happy lives on the farm.

P: He chooses two turkeys?

M: I think it’s normally one.

P: Oh.

M: I don’t know.

P: He’s being generous this year.

M: I don’t know enough; I should have read into this. I really need to research more about the things that I randomly mention on this show.

P: Laugh! Oh god. If we did that, we’d be here forever!

M: Laugh.

P: And I’d never shut up.

M: It would be a very stilted conversation, wouldn’t it?  

P: Laugh, it wouldn’t be good. And I’d be called on all my crap, laugh!

M: Yes, laugh.

P: Yeah so, I’ve been going since eight o’clock this morning.

M: My brain feels fried.

P: Ahh.

M: I’ve put a lot of my brain towards thinking today.

P: Oh.

M: Having said that, we did all of our prep for today’s show before today.

P: Laugh.

M: So, you’ll get solid research.

P: Solid research, very statistical data, very scientific data –

M: Very scientific.

P: – with no vagal tone being mentioned.

M: Laugh, very scientific. We’re moving on from that.

P: Laugh. So, what are we talking about this week, Marie?

M: Well, coming up on the 5th of December is International Volunteer Day.

P: Yay! Everybody go out and do something fun!

M: And that’s the point. Volunteering for a lot of people is something that you do because you have to, because ‘Mum said so.’

P: Oh! It’s so much more than that. And we’ve talked about this before in one of our very early episodes, way back when we were young, and green, and keen, and

M: bright eyed and bushy tailed?

P: Oh, I know! I was like a little squirrel. Squirreling, squirreling up the tree!

M: Mush… mush in our heads right now people.

P: Pootle. I meant to say pootle. Pootle is a good word.

M: …So, I say ‘absolutely’ too much, and you say ‘clock’.

P: I’m not using the C word anymore. Snigger.

M: Well, I don’t agree with the C word.

P: Laugh!

M: It’s quite offensive and sexist.

P: Laugh. So, it’s the ‘P’ word now, pootle-ing.

M: My new favourite verb. Thank you, Pete, for bringing that to our attention.

P: Laugh.

M: We will be doing far more pootle-ing from here on out.

P: Lots of pootle-ing. Pootle-ing and pootle-ing on Volunteering Day.

M: So, I have no idea what we’re talking about. But when we were wide eyed and bushy tailed, we did discuss volunteering. We’re gonna circle back on it because it’s that time of year and it is such an important catch all.

P: Mmm.

M: Really, for mental health and happiness.

P: And it’s also one of those things that you don’t realise how beneficial it is until you actually do it.

M: It’s the blueberry of happiness.

P: Oh! The blueberry of happiness!

M: It’s the superfood.

P: Wow! Laugh. Can I be broccoli?

M: Broccoli is not a superfood.

P: [Gasp] Oh! How dare you.

M: Because no one likes broccoli.

P: I like broccoli.

M: They like blueberries.

P: I’m going to be on the fence on that one.

M: Ok.

P: Give me a steamed broccoli and I’m good.

M: Right, well volunteering is the broccoli blueberry of food.

P: Laugh!

M: So good for you? And it ticks so many boxes.

P: It does.

M: So today we’re going to talk about four ways of volunteering that make us happier.

P: Oh! What’s number one?

M: Numero uno.

P: Tell me? Tell me? Tell me? Tell me?

M: It connects you with other people.

P: Ah! Good old, social pillar.

M: Yes.

P: What are the three pillars that we stand on? One of them is social connection people.

M: Social connection, meaning and purpose, which volunteering can also give you. And the third is health and happiness, which… [drumroll] guess what we’ll be talking about soon.

P & M: Laugh!

M: But back to social connection.

P: Social connection, because why? Un-social people die!

M & P: Laugh!

M: So, let’s get into the studies because there’s some really cool studies on volunteering.

P: Well, you’ve got quite a number on this one.

M: I have.

P: I’m quite impressed on your study.

M: My research.

P: Yeah.

M: So, let’s go straight to someone who is bound to be credible with the cynics… An economist.

P: Laugh.

M: So, economists Steven Meier and Alois Stutzer released a study way back in 2004 which concluded that

“Volunteering constitutes one of the most important pro-social activities and helping others is the way to higher individual wellbeing.”

P: I like that, higher individual well-being.

M: They found robust evidence, –

P: Ooh!

M: – not just evidence but robust evidence, that volunteers are more satisfied with their life than non-volunteers. 

P: I’ve got an example of this.

M: Enlighten me.

P: The Country Women’s Association.

M: Oh, it is. It is such a… like It’s a tribe. It’s crew. It’s a gang.

P: Laugh!

M: It’s scary.

P: Laugh! So, for our overseas listeners, the CWA is, for those of you in the UK, it’s the Women’s Institute.

M: Oh.

P: I’m not sure of the American Association that is the equivalent of the CWA. It stands for Country Women’s Association.

M: And they have them down south.

P: In America?

M: It is the pearl wearing, cardigan wearing country ladies’ societies. They do fundraising, and they look after the community.

P: Yes.

M: They come together and do bake sales when someone’s sick or you know they’ll, they’ll drop off a lasagne if someone’s in hospital or etcetera.

P: Laugh, yes.

M: They’ll knit booties for the new baby on the block or whatever it is.

P: Mmm.

M: So, they’re the life blood of these communities.

P: Absolutely. I mean, I come from rural Australia and my mum should have been the president of our CWA because CWA, it’s a really good organisation where these women come together, and they literally choose a charity. It’s like, ‘Who can we help this week? Who is in need of assistance?’ And it’s this lovely organisation where they can be quite large.

M: Mmm hmm.

P: I mean in the hundreds.

M: Yeah.

P: To form a community organisation and their powerful. These women hold power, I mean they can influence elections.

M: Mmm.

P: Simply by swapping a lamington recipe.

M & P: Laugh.

P: So, they had this way of being able to bring people together, or organise connections, possibly of their husbands, who one might be a farmer, the other one might be a politician. Bringing those people together because they bring them into the house, or they bring them into the home.

M: They host.

P: Exactly.

M: They’re the social lubrication.

P: Oh! Oh, I just got moist. Laughter!

M: Not that kind of lubrication, Peter!

P: Laugh, sorry.

M: My mum was with an organisation called Quota, which does something very similar.

P: Oh, yeah, yeah.

M: And for a very long time, she used to go down to the local club, the Southern Cross Club in Woden in Canberra, and she used to have conversations with migrants.

P: Ah, perfect.

M: So, they’d come in, have a cup of tea.

P: Yep.

M: It was free tea and coffee down at the local club. Sit down, and for an hour or two they just talk about everything and anything in English.

P: So brilliant!

M: So that they could practise their speaking skills and meet people.

P: Yeah.

M: And get out of the house and form other friendships.

P: Yep.

M: Such a simple, simple thing. And it led my mum to making friendships with people as well that she wouldn’t have otherwise met.

P: Mmm, yep.

M: That was really poor grammar or whatever I said just then.

P: Laugh.

M: But you get my point.

P: Absolutely. Like you see Mammut down at the local supermarket and you’re like, ‘Oh hi Mammut, remember me I’m Beryl’, that connection is really important.

M: Mmm, absolutely.

P: And if someone is struggling, it’s like I know this person. I can help. I have a connection with them already. It’s something good about integration, I fully support the CWA, they are a burgeoning society.

M: So, back to volunteering.

P: Sorry.

M: It does connect you with other people.

P: Yes.

M: And so, whether you’re in an organisation like CWA or Quota, or whether you volunteer at the RSPCA and pets are more your style, not people.

P: Yeah, exactly. Laugh, socially awkward.

M: There is still also something that gets you out of the house and speaking to other people.

P: Precisely.

M: And there’s so much value in that.

P: Absolutely.

M: All right. Number two.

P: Tell me?

M: It is great for your mental health.

P: Another pillar of our…

M: Mmm hmm. Half of pillar three.

P: Well, we can’t call it a house, ‘cause that need four pillars, four supports? Trapezoidal?

M: Well now they’ve got, like, buses that are houses.

P: On three legs?

M: What about tents and Tepees? That could be threes.

P: Yeah, that could be threes. The yurt.

M: And we digress again.

P & M: Laugh!

M: We will revert back to yurts another time.

P: Laugh!

M: So mental health.

P: Still laughing!

M: So, our brains are wired for social connection and whenever we help others, our brains release the pleasure hormones.

P: Whoo! Where’s some Barry White.

M & P: Laugh!

P: Let’s get it on!

M: So, I love this study that was done in 2018 by Sonja Lyubomirsky and her colleagues.

P: Oh! We love Sonja.

M: I’m sorry, Sonja’s colleagues, but I know Sonja’s name.

P: Laugh! We’ve practised Sonja’s name a few times.

M: So, they published in the American Psychological Association Journal about a study they did on workers in a Spanish company, and they assigned them different roles. Some of them had to give out acts of kindness.

P: I remember this one, yeah.

M: Yep, And the results show that practising everyday pro-sociality is what they call it. So being nice and kind is both emotionally reinforcing and contagious, and it inspires kindness in others.

P: Absolutely.

M: But not only that, they found that not only the people receiving it get a benefit, but the people giving get a benefit too.

P: They get more of a benefit apparently.

M: Absolutely. So that’s the first thing. So, volunteering comes back to you two fold.

P: Yep.

M: And then there was another study in the UK that found that volunteering leads to a positive change in mental well-being, so people who volunteer become happier over time. And then a Harvard study showed that volunteering at least once a week yields improvements to well-being equivalent to your annual salary doubling.

P: Now that speaking to the money man.

M: Mmm hmm.

P: Who doesn’t want more money? Laugh.

M: Could you imagine how happy you’d be if they doubled your income tomorrow?

P: Absolutely, you’d be like, ‘Oh, my goodness, that’s amazing. What can I do?’

M: But we now know that you would adjust to that level and expect more the next year.

P: Laugh!

M: But volunteering is an increase to your happiness levels that’s maintained over time. This is what we talk about when we talk about the difference between getting a pay rise, getting a bigger car being on that hedonic treadmill.

P: Yeah, laugh.

M: Versus, doing the things that day in, day out they contribute to higher sustained levels of happiness.

P: Yep.

M: So volunteering is in that second bucket.

P: And the sustainability of volunteering is actually larger than giving someone $20 or something. Just donating. Like actually, volunteering has a longer effect from the studies that we’ve done previously. That effect of happiness is much more longer lasting.

M: Yep, absolutely. Particularly if you do something like this, Harvard study said.

P: Yep.

M: Once a week, go volunteer for Little League training or coach at your local club or mentor a disadvantaged youth for become a Big Brother.

P: Mmm, yes.

M: There are so many different organisations out there that are doing amazing work and a lot of the times they will help to train you up as well.

P: Yes.

M: And give you real skills.

P: Which leads to, oh I jumped in there! I pre-empted, laugh.

M: You could see where I was going.

P: Laugh!

M: It’s like we’ve done this before, Pete.

P: No, never. Laugh. [Whisper] We haven’t rehearsed a thing.

M: So, number three; Can help your career.

P: Yes, I can fully support this one. I had years of volunteering at my local volleyball club, which is where I met a rather fabulous woman sitting to my right. Laugh.

M: I thought you were gonna say where you met Wally.

P: Laugh. Oh Wally! Good old Wally. Wally the big, muscly, German.

M: Laugh.

P: He was a very impressive man when I first met him, I was like ‘Oh, my God. Who are you?’ Umm… Hi, Wal if you’re listening.

M: Giggle.

P: But, it really does have a huge impact on your work. I volunteered for the volleyball club and all of a sudden, I was writing spreadsheets and I was arranging events and I’ve never done any of this before.

M: Oh, you took it all in stride.

P: And then totally jumped in. And then all of a sudden, that boiled over into my career and I started arranging schedules and spreadsheets and calculations and so forth for my business, and it wasn’t even a conscious decision. It just happened because I knew how to do it. That skill set is still serving me today on so many different levels of being able to arrange my study schedule for university. I’m waiting for the Physio Socks Society to actually grab me.

M: Laugh.

P: I’m like, ‘No, I don’t know anything. I can’t do anything to help. You’re not going to pick me up.’

M: Laugh.

P: And if any of my physio students are listening to this go away.

M & P: Laugh.

P: I don’t have time. Laugh. But it is. It’s so beneficial in terms of developing your skill set.

M: And a lot of organisations will also put serious energy into training volunteers. So, I know organisations like Lifeline that do over the phone counselling will put many, many hours’ worth of training and effort into up-skilling their volunteers.

P: Yeah, mmm.

M: And a lot of those volunteers stay with them for decades.

P: Yeah, and it leads to a lot of other opportunities within organisations as well.

M: Yep.

P: I’ve got someone in mind that I know that wants to get into support counselling and so forth and that’s…

M: A perfect way.

P: A perfect avenue, yeah.

M: So, it’s not only perfectly to gain skills, it’s also a perfect way to test out a potential career switch as well.

P: Yeah, yeah. Totally.

M: It’s like an unpaid internship.

P: Mmm.

M: Not only do you gain new skills or the skills that you might need in a new role if you’re considering that, but you also get to network with people in your industry and it might be your future boss or put you in touch with your future boss.

P: Yep, yep. Yeah, I fully support that one it’s such, uh, if your feelings stayed and board in your job, volunteer and be open to those of your opportunities. That’s the other aspect of that equation, making sure that you will remain open. I digress.

M: It also. No, you don’t digress that was right on topic.

P: Oh, yay. Good!

M: I’ll finish this one out. So, it’s also back to foundation number two. It’s also a huge source of meaning and purpose and life satisfaction.

P: Mmm.

M: And a lot of us were promised these amazing lives and were told to chase our dreams. Or we’re just simply told to go for the career and the degree that would give you the most –

P: The recipe for a good life?

M: – give you the most money.

P: Yep.

M: You know. Go be a lawyer or an accountant or an actuary.

P: Stability, yep.

M: And then you’re bored out of your mind in your job. But you’ve got a mortgage and a family, and it’s a good income. And so, a lot of the ways that we can bring that, that passion for life back again is via these other commitments that aren’t work.

P: Mmm, yes.

M: Any attempts to bring you closer to a job you’re passionate about are well worth the effort. Or even if it’s just Saturday afternoons and you’re finding your passion there, that can really lift your wellbeing overall.

P: Mmm, mmm.

M: And lastly, in this category, the research shows that volunteers have higher incomes. So, according to Professor Stijn Baert,

“This finding corroborates with previous research showing that volunteering activities on ones CV yield higher employment opportunities, especially for non-natives.”

P: Ahh.

M: So, if you’re a migrant, go in and volunteer straight away.

P: That’s interesting.

M: Start building that CV out and show that you’re contributing to community. You’re more likely to get jobs out of it, and you’re more likely to get higher pay out of it.

P: Mmm.

M: And all right, we’ll move to the last one, which is the second half of the third pillar. So, back to healthy mind and body. We’ve jumped around a bit.

P: Laugh.

M: It’s great for your physical health.

P: Yes.

M: So, let’s.

P: Laugh. Well, it sparks off a physicality within us. I mean, it’s sparks off a certain…

M: It gets you out of the house.

P: Yeah, it’s an energy. You feel engaged, and that has so much to do with our brain activity and stimulating the different areas of our brain and getting that motivation to actually, ‘Oh, maybe I will go through a little jog or something, because I’m focused and I’m engaged’, and there are so many other things that are going on that it helps to propel you forward into so many other avenues.

M: Once you’ve dealt with the mental health, positive mental health aspects, it definitely does improve your motivation.

P: Mmm.

M: As we all know, when things like Covid hit and make it very apparent. There’s this thing called incidental movement.

P: Yes, Aarghh.

M: And before Covid hit, a lot of us would get up in the morning, shower, dress, walk out the house, get on the bus or get in the car, get to a train, walk between car parks or bus stops, etcetera.

P: Mmm hmm.

M: Up into the office. And then we’d go into the kitchen at some point mid-morning, we’d walk over to the bathroom.

P: Yep.

M: All of that’s incidental movement.

P: Mmm.

M: And when Covid hit are incidental movement dropped to a five-metre radius.

P & M: Laugh.

P: Yep.

M: Right, and a lot of people had negative health impacts from that.

P: Hugely.

M: And that also again, tightly linked with mental health. Right?

P: Definitely.

M: And what we find, particularly with retirees, is when you take away that morning reason to get up and get out of the house. They do what a lot of us did in covid.

P: Yep.

M: And again, unless you’re really aware of it and in tune to it, you can end up experiencing the exact same mental health implications and physical health implications as covid when you retire.

P: Yep.

M: So, you don’t have a reason to get up, you start sleeping in more. You might start drinking a little bit more or not looking after yourself as much, not moving all of that.

P: Yep.

M: So, volunteering gets you up and out of the house. It gives you a reason to move and put even just that basic, minimal level of daily movement back into your day. So that’s the first thing.

P: Yep.

M: So not only that, but then the science shows that the movement and volunteering in general has also been shown to help lessen symptoms of chronic pain and reduce risk of heart disease. So, all of this is interlinked as well, just getting that movement into your day.

P: Mmm.

M: But also, depending on what the volunteering activity is, you might be adding even more movement into your day as well. Not just the getting to and from.

P: Yeah, well, it’s things like volunteering for an organisation that might put housing opportunities together so you might be moving a couch for someone or going and doing someone’s windows or –

M: Mowing lawns.

P: – yeah, all that sort of stuff. Yeah, it does have a certain physicality to it. The heart disease one is an interesting one. I mean, that comes from –

M: – lower stress, better mental health outcomes, all tied to heart disease as well. So, there is again the cross links in here.

P: Yeah.

M: Everything is connected.

P: Yeah.

M: And then we’re nearly finished. So, last study in 2017 researchers looked at data on volunteering, employment, and health of more than 40,000 European citizens, and they found that volunteers are as healthy as non-volunteers who are five years younger.

P: Five years younger!

M: So, if you want to look five years younger.

P: No need for the Botox. Go and get a little dosage of volunteering.

M & P: Laugh.

M: So obviously, there’s so much in here about causality and all of that. So, I will say that the researchers controlled for other determinants of health, like gender, age, education level, et cetera. And they found, still, despite all of that, the volunteers were still in substantially better health than non-volunteers.

P: Mmm, yeah.

M: Now it is fair to say, and it is true to say that people with higher incomes tend to volunteer more often, and people with higher incomes have better health outcomes. More often, however, they looked at all of that and conclusively volunteering has a positive impact on our health.

P: Thank you randomised control trials.

M: Laugh. They did it all proper.

P: Yeah.

M: Alright, I’m not going to do this last quote because we are well over time. But as always, it’s been a pleasure.

P: Laugh. It’s been emotional.

M & P: Laugh!

M: And on that note. We’ll see you next week. Have a happy week.

P: Bye!

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M: Thanks for joining us today if you want to hear more, please remember to subscribe and like this podcast and remember you can find us at www.marieskelton.com, where you can also send in questions or propose a topic.

P: And if you like our little show, we would absolutely love for you to leave a comment or rating to help us out.

M: Until next time.

M & P: Choose happiness.

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: community, happiness, meaning, purpose, volunteering

Finding Your Purpose (E66)

10/05/2021 by Marie

Happiness for Cynics podcast

This week, Marie and Pete talk about the importance of finding your purpose – and it doesn’t have to have anything to do with your day job. 

Show notes

The Rush Memory and Aging Project

During the Podcast Marie references the above study and sites that it started in 1979, however it started in September of 1997 and went through to April of 2005.

Exercise – Identify your strengths 

Understanding your strengths. Spend some time thinking and answer the following questions about your strengths (this is not a time to be modest!): 

• What is the best thing about you? 

• What do you like most about yourself? 

• What are you like when you are at your best? 

• What, or who brings out the best in you? 

• What is your most significant achievement? 

• How have your strengths helped you in the past? 

• How can your strengths help you in the future? 

Once you have a good grasp on your strengths, commit to using them in a new way at least once a week. 

IKIGAI (Venn Diagram example)

Transcript

[Happy intro music -background]

M: Welcome to happiness for cynics and thanks for joining us as we explore all the things I wish I’d known earlier in life but didn’t.

P: This podcast is about how to live the good life. Whether we’re talking about a new study or the latest news or eastern philosophy, our show is all about discovering what makes people happy.

M: So, if you’re like me and you want more out of life, listen in and more importantly, buy in because I guarantee if you do, the science of happiness can change your life.

P: Plus, sometimes I think we’re kind of funny.

[Intro music fadeout]

M: We are back.

P: And this week we are talking about finding your purpose.

M: Solving the world issues here.

P: Oh, solving the world issues?

M: Well isn’t that purpose.

P: Well okay, that’s your interpretation, I’ve got a different one.

M: World Peace.

P: Laugh!

M: Isn’t that where we’re going with this.

P: It’s a very beauty pageant response, Marie.

M & P: Laughter

M: Just to be clear, I’ve never been in a beauty pageant in my life.

P: Laugh!

M: There’s a reason I’m doing podcasts and not YouTube videos.

P & M: Laughter

P: Oh, I didn’t realize that I needed to dress up here. I’m in my tracky-dacks and a t-shirt, laugh.

M: Yeah, I have been since the pandemic started.

P & M: Laughter

M: So, we’re in the same boat there.

P: Laugh.

M: But today we are talking about purpose.

P: What is a purpose? What’s your purpose? There’s a song cue in there but…Ok, I won’t go there.

M: Okay, we won’t go there.

[Purpose] is, well you can think of it like an overarching sense of what matters in your life.

P: Ok.

M: So, it’s the thing that gets you up in the morning or that gets you excited.

P: Well, I like the excited bit.

M: Yeah, so some people wake up in the mornings not grumpy.

P: What!

M: Laugh!

P: Who are these strange people?

M: I know!!

P & M: Laughter

M: It’s something that you strive towards or you enjoy doing.

P: True.

M: That brings passion and excitement to your life.

P: Is it a harbinger of passion or is passion part of purpose?

M: …Yes.

P & M: Laugh!

P: Well, I guess the question is if you have passion, do you automatically have purpose? Or does passion come out of the finding your purpose?

M: Bit of both, definitely the second one. But it’s pretty hard to be passionate about stuff you don’t care about. So, having that that meaning and that purpose.

P: It’s like the cherry on top scenario.

M: Not so much. You need to have purpose or meaning. You need to care about stuff to be passionate about it.

P: So, you need to have purpose first.

M: Yes.

P: To have passion.

M: Yes. They’re very interlinked. They’re, as always, is a whole lot of research –

P: Laugh.

M: – in particular when people say that they have purpose, they are happier.

P: Ok. Why?

M: Why?

P: Why?

M: Why a lot of things.

P & M: Laugh!

M: So, purposeful people are not only happier, but they live longer and healthier lives.

P: Mmm.

M: There’s a longitudinal study that found that a single standard deviation increase in purpose reduced the risk of dying by 15%.

P: Wow, that’s big. What’s a standard deviation of purpose?

M: I have to go look at the actual numbers, but, you know, if you go up by 1% or one number.

P: Ok.

M: So, reduce the risk of dying in the next decade by 15%. That’s big, and that holds regardless of age or the age at which people identify their purpose.

P: Oh, that’s interesting because we’ve talked before about retiring and the dangers of retiring and having nothing to get up for, interesting that that transcends age brackets. I find that’s very interesting.

M: Well, I think that the statistic that we’ve quoted before is that 40% of people who retire end up depressed within a year.

P: Mmm.

M: And a lot of the time it is because they’ve taken that purpose and meaning away.

P: Yes.

M: And not only that, they also, it’s a double whammy when you retire from work, you lose not only your purpose and meaning, but you also lose the social connections.

P: If you’ve only used social connections through your workplace identity, yeah.

M: And if you only had purpose through your work, and in our Western society –

P: Workplaces can be multi layered.

M: Oh, absolutely.

P: It’s like an onion.

M & P: Laughter!

M: Are we going to quote Shrek?

P: Yeah! Laugh.

M: All right, so looking in our capitalist Western society, most people equate purpose with work.

P: Mmm.

M: It’s really important to say that they are not mutually inclusive. They do not have to be the same thing. And in fact, very few of us are lucky enough to truly find that wake up in the morning singing, happy effect –

P: Laughter.

M: – from our jobs.

P: Very few, yes.

M: It is a luxury that very few of us have.

P: Yes.

M: And so, the question then is, if you’re not getting purpose from your job, how can you tailor your job or your workplace or your industry so that you get a little bit more purpose? But also, how can you do things outside of that 40 hour workweek that will bring you purpose?

P: Yeah, definitely.

M: So going back to just a few more stats here there is a Rush Memory and Aging project, which began in 1997, found that people with a sense of purpose were:

  • 2.5 times more likely to be free of dementia, they were
  • 22% less likely to exhibit risk factors for stroke, and
  • 52% less likely to have experienced a stroke.

P: That’s a big number.

M: Yep.

P: The dementia one is an interesting one so purpose, I can see the relationship between that, because when you wake up with a purpose or if you if you find something that you have a goal or something to strive for, then you are involved in sort of a neurological activation.

M: Mmm hmm.

P: Let’s try  –

M: Using your mind.

P: You’re using your mind a lot more and your resourcing things, you’re being creative, you’re having to solve problems still and the small amount of research that I’ve done on dementia is that things like sudoku just aren’t enough. Brain training concept in terms of keeping your mind active isn’t enough to way lay the onset of dementia and Parkinson’s disease and those neurological conditions. It needs to be something more and one of those is incorporating movement with your movement patterning, so things like dancing and sport come into it, co-ordination.

M: Social.

P: Yeah.

M: Adding a social layer in there as well. So, loneliness is a real – sitting is the new smoking, maybe loneliness is the new sitting.

P & M: Laugh.

M: But the negative health impacts of poor social connection are so wide and varied, including negative impacts on dementia. A lot of this stuff that we talk about on the podcast is so interlinked being able to find meaning, perhaps through volunteering at an organisation that has personal meaning for you and having the connections of the people that you volunteer with and bringing new friendships and relationships into your life and maybe walking there and back on the way.

P: Laugh. Yeah.

M: That’s one activity you can do yeah, and bring it all together into one.

P: Multi factorial purpose.

M: Laugh, definitely. So we’ve talked about individual purpose.

P: Ok.

M: There’s also a huge movement there has been for years and years with corporate and companies about giving people purpose in their jobs. Now this is a little bit harder, right, because if you work for I don’t know, a mining company?

P: Gosh.

M: A big bank?

P: Yep.

M: You know, the list goes on.

P: How do you find purpose within those big corporations?

M: Exactly. How can you find purpose if you don’t necessarily, if your values don’t align with the company’s purpose.

P: Mmm.

M: There is definitely good research that shows that you can have purpose around your role in what you do in your role, even if you don’t necessarily align with the companies’ values.

P: Mmm. Yep.

M: So, it’s not an all or nothing.

P: No, it’s fulfilling an aspect of it.

M: Yep.

P: So, it’s choosing a path and purpose.

M: You might be an accountant for a mining company, and you might not agree with mining. But you can still do your job to the best of your abilities and learn and grow and do your job well and find meaning from that.

P: Yes.

M: Now, obviously, being an accountant for a company that you agree with what they do would be even better.

P: Laugh.

M: And if you wake up one day and decide you want to start your own not for profit and help with world peace.

P: Laugh!

M: Or whatever it is that you decide, nothing is going to beat that.

P: No.

M: Right?

P: Yeah, of course.

M: As far as purpose.

P: Definitely.

M: But it is really important if you lead a team, if you’re a small business owner, if you have any people working for you and around you or if you’re part of a team, so I what people take responsibility here.

P: Oooh! Initiative.

M: Not just leave it to the manager.

P: Laugh.

M: It is really important that you look for the purpose that you get out of that job, which takes up so many hours in our week.

P: Ok.

M: Because it contributes to your employee experience, which is linked to higher levels of engagement, stronger organisational loyalty. So, people will stay with the team for longer, which is very valuable in today’s day and age, where people don’t stay for very long and it increases feelings of well-being. So again, if you can find purpose at work, it’s going to impact your personal well-being and happiness and resilience levels.

P: Mmm.

M: And so, people who find purpose at work that aligns with their values. They get more meaning from their roles, they’re more productive and they out-perform their peers. And for those companies out there who are thinking this is all a load of baloney, there’s a positive correlation between employees who are engaged and have purpose and revenue.

P: Oh! Money, money, money, money, money, laugh!

M: Mmm hmm.

P: A bottom line, there it is folks. On that concept of finding purpose. When you when you first mentioned to me that we were doing purpose today, the first place I went to was small matters of purpose. So a lot of people think of purpose being this big, overarching statement that you live your life by. You should have it plastered on your bedroom wall. So you see it when you wake up. It should be this massive statement that is like, you know Martin Luther King or something like that.

M: I believe in world peace!

P: There we go. Boom! But purpose doesn’t have to be that grand. It can be really small, and it can be tiny. And I reference Rebecca Teasdale, who is an executive coach in America, on she read an article in one of her publications on recognising the small moments of purpose. And it was all about a conversation that she had in a cab after she gotten home from an overseas trip. She was exhausted, she was tired. The cab driver started to engage her, she immediately went to [thinking] ‘oh, don’t talk to me, I’m exhausted, I’m tired, I just want my space.’ But she chose to engage back, and she said the conversation was very interesting because it made her realise that those small interactions can sometimes be enough purpose for the day.

M: Yes.

P: So, don’t dismiss the retail assistant, don’t dismiss the train driver or the bus driver. Those small moments can be your purpose in terms of trying to engage with 10 people that you don’t know in a day, and that can be a big enough purpose for you to bring about the same feelings that you’re talking about with those grand sweeping ideals that we live by.

M: So you’re talking about engaging with those people when they ask, What do you do?

P: Yes, or the opportunity to engage in a cab, for example, instead of retreating into your own headspace, which we all need to do sometimes don’t get me wrong.

M: Mmm hmm.

P: There is an opportunity to grab those small one to two minute interactions and make them a win for yourself if you can recognise those wins that also can lead to other, bigger, grander purpose statements. Again, it’s like a practise session you’re practising finding the purpose in each interaction, which needs to find a purpose in a day, finding a purpose in a month, finding a purpose in life.

M: Okay, all right.

P: It’s a tool.

M: Nice. So, I had a couple of other exercises that I thought I could run you through.

P: Sure.

M: These are great exercises.

P: You always say that.

M & P: Laughter!

P: And I sit there going ‘do I have my cynic hat on now?’

M: Laugh! No, these are science backed exercises.

P: You know I don’t like audience participation.

M & P: Laugh!

M: So, if you are in the audience, maybe get a pen and paper or definitely have a look at the transcript, because these will be in there.

P: Laugh.

M: So the first thing, and this is big at the moment. This is what a lot of Positive Psychologists and Neuroscientists and HR Professionals are all looking at, and it’s about identifying your strengths.

P: Oh, ok. Laugh.

M: So the logic used to be that you should understand your strengths and your weaknesses.

P: Yes, I remember that being talked about.

M: Mmm hmm. And every person who’s ever done any training for an interview has been told, ‘what are your weaknesses? Make sure you know what your weakness are.’

P: Tell me about your weakness? What don’t you do well? ‘Nothing! I’m Fabulous!’

M & P: Laughter.

M: So that the current thinking is that you shouldn’t be spending all this time on making your weaknesses better so that you’re completely well rounded and perfect. It’s just not do-able. It’s not possible.

P: Embrace your flaws.

M: Well, understand your flaws, and maybe if it truly is holding you back, do a bit of work there. But more importantly, if you want to find your purpose, focus on your strengths.

P: Because they will lead you.

M: Because that’s what you’re good at and what you’re good at, aligns with what you want to do, then double down on that.

P: Ok.

M: So, the current thinking is focus on your strengths. Obviously, being aware is still very important. But spend some time thinking and answering some of the following questions about your strengths.

P: Ooh! Is this like a ten second thing?

M: This is not a time to be modest, and no it is not a ten second thing.

P: Ok.

M: So, sit down with a pen, I’ll ask you a couple, Pete. So, –

P: I’m ready, go.

M: What is the best thing about you?

P: … crickets, laugh.

M: Your sense of humour, great. Next –

P: Laughter! Did you just answer for me.

M: Laugh!

P: Marie, can I answer? Marie? Marie!

M & P: Laugh!

M:  – What is your most significant achievement?

P: Oooh, a career where I started like –

M: You’re a professional dancer, just for everyone listening at home who didn’t have that cryptic [insight].

P: You dropped the D word. Laugh. – where I was behind the eight ball from the start.

M: A successful career, as a professional Dancer.

P: Okay.

M: So, I won’t go into all of them, because as great as you are, Pete, you don’t need to spend the last half of our podcast talking about how fabulous you are.

P: Laugh!

M: But the rest of the questions:

  • What is the best thing about you?
  • What do you like most about yourself?
  • What are you like when you’re at your best?
  • What or who brings out the best in you?
  • What is your most significant achievement?
  • How have your strengths helped you in the past?
  • How can your strengths help you in the future?

P: I did an essay on that [last one]!

M: And once you’ve sat down and really thought through this and really been not modest, firstly.

P: Mmm.

M: But also truthful.

P: Yep.

M: And once you’ve got a good grasp of your strengths, then the trick is to commit to using them in a new way at least once a week.

P: Oh! a new way?

M: Mmm hmm. So, whether you’re good with people and so you decide to have that conversation with the taxi driver.

P: Ok, yeah.

M: Or to attend more networking events, or to mentor someone, or coach them.

P: Yeah.

M: There’s a whole lot of ways that you can use those people skills, if that’s what your strength is –

P: Yeah.

M: – in different and new ways, and to keep flexing that muscle, if that’s what you’re good at, double down on it and really become excellent at it.

P: Hmm. I like it, that kind of narrows into what I was saying before about using the small moments and using the small exercises.

M: Yeah.

P: As you were saying, flexing the muscle, doubling down on the skills. I like that. Finding your own way is challenging.

M: Mmm hmm.

P: Sometimes it’s difficult to come up with new ways to use a skill set.

M: Yes.

P: That can be some creative thinking right there.

M: Which is good, a bit of creative thinking never hurt anyone.

P: Yes.

M: All right, so the second way to find your purpose and there are a million ways to find your purpose. But if you think back to all of those vocation surveys that you did in high school. [Unenthused voice] I got gardener…

P & M: Laugh!

M: Yep. You can tell how much that suits me.

P: That’s funny! I’ve seen your herb garden.

M: I kill everything, laugh.

P: Laugh!

M: So anyway, if you want to take this a little step further. We have spoken before about the Japanese [art of] Ikigai.

P: Ah Yes.

M: Do you want to talk us through Ikigai, Pete?

P: Oh, oh. The art of Ikigai, the art of finding your purpose. Yeah, so Ikigai is all about a little place in Okinawa which is an island off the end of Japan, which is one of the blue zones of the world.

M: Yes it is.

P: With the centenarians, people who live with longest and have a great quality of life. And you have this whole concept of the practise of finding the reason for being and finding that reason for getting out of bed in the morning. And it’s about living a fulfilling and happy life and each day contributes to that fulfilment. So if your job is to sweep the floor of the house or the porch, that is what you wake up for. And that is one of the first things you go for. What you do it so well and you commit to it and you give it your all, and you even apply your, your, your best to being better at it in the future, even if it is a domestic task, you see how excited I am about sweeping the front porch!?

M: Yes.

P: And this is what these people believe in, they believe in finding the passion and purpose.

M: Well, finding the passion, yes.

P: Finding the passion in what you’re doing and committing to that and investing in it.

There is a lovely story of a makeup company that had make-up brushes and they had a little Japanese Lady. And this company was known for the quality of their make-up brushes and a guy came over from America, and he wanted to meet the manufacturer and they said, ‘Oh, we have one department for the makeup brushes’ and he took him out the back into this small little room in the back of the factory, and there was a Japanese woman, and she handmade the makeup brushes, every single hair.

That was her role. She loved it. She did that job for years, and that was the application because it was her passion to make the best brush each time she did.

M: That is a beautiful story, and I hope we can all find our makeup brush. But just to circle back on, how to find your Ikigai and what it is. So Ikigai is about, if you’ve ever looked at a Venn diagram and different things and how they intersect, it’s about identifying:

  • what you love;
  • what you’re good at;
  • what the world needs; and
  • what you could be paid for.

M: And the intersection between those four things is your Ikigai. And that could be for you making makeup brushes. It could be helping kids with cancer. It could be… world peace.

P & M: Laugh!

M: We’ll finish on that note.

P: That old nugget.

M: Laugh. But whatever it is for you. So, what you love, what you’re good at, what the world needs and what you can be paid for. And the intersection of those things is where your Ikigai is.

P: Nice.

M: All right. So that is another way. One of many, many ways that you can find purpose in life and again finding that purpose. And for some people it’s coaching little league on the weekends or giving back to their community in various ways. Volunteering is often a really good way to find that purpose and that meaning and get those social connections.

P: Mmm.

M: So, if you’re maybe not finding the meaning and purpose in your day job, look at some volunteering opportunities.

P: Look at something else.

M: Look at what has brought you joy and passion and what you’re good at and find a way to get involved in that outside of your work.

P: Ok, nice.

M: All right.

P: Enjoy finding your purpose people.

M: And living longer and happier. And on that note, we’ll see you next week.

P: Laugh. Bye 😊

M: Bye 😊

[Happy exit music – background]

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M: Until next time.

M & P: Choose happiness!

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10 Random Act Of Kindness Ideas for the Holidays

09/12/2020 by Marie

Random act of kindness ideas

10 simple random act of kindness ideas to bring some extra joy to the world

There’s no doubt about it – 2020 has been hard. 

With COVID-19 lockdowns, travel restrictions, and bans, it seems like the fun was sucked out of the world in an instant. In some cities, it’s even hard to travel across town to grab a coffee with friends!

I think we can all agree we need to spread a little love right now (instead of the virus). So, I’ve collected some of my favourite random act of kindness ideas, so this holiday season you can bring happiness to the people in your life – while giving yourself a little mental health booster, too.

Read on!

Idea #1: Give someone an unexpected compliment

“I can live for two months on a good compliment.”  — Mark Twain

I couldn’t have said it better myself. The benefits of giving a compliment go both ways – giving and receiving! The National Institute for Physiological Sciences says receiving a compliment can produce the same effect in your brain as receiving money.

Think overwhelming happiness, gratitude, excitement, and unconditional love!

It’s good for the soul and builds trust and confidence in the receiver. It’s a win-win situation – so next time a positive thought comes to mind about a friend, coworker, family member, or even a stranger on the street, reach out and let them know!

Idea #2: Let someone cut in front of you in line

We can all be a little selfish sometimes. Whether we’re sitting in traffic or waiting in line at the shops, we can be quick to lose our tempers and put ourselves first, no questions asked.

Sometimes, a random act of kindness can be as simple as letting someone cut in front of you in line at the movies, the shops, the bar – anywhere.

The receiver will feel a sudden sense of gratitude – who knows, you might even make their day, or help them get where they’re going much faster. Meanwhile, you can enjoy the endorphins that come from a simple act of kindness (a natural pain killer – goodbye, headaches.)

Idea #3: Pay for someone else’s lunch or coffee

In the same vein as idea #2, footing the bill for a friend, family member, coworker, or even a stranger’s lunch can be incredibly rewarding. 

You never know what someone else is going through. The stranger waiting in line behind you might only be able to afford a bran muffin, or a coffee… no milk, no sugar. If you’re feeling generous, consider footing the bill for the person behind you.

You might make their day, or even trigger a “pay it forward” chain reaction and leave a trail of kindness behind you.

Idea #4: Sit down and have a chat with someone experiencing homelessness 

According to recent statistics, 50 out of every 10,000 Australians are sleeping rough on the streets. The last time a global homelessness survey was attempted by the United Nations, around 100 million people were homeless worldwide. 

As many as 1.6 billion people lacked adequate housing. This was 2005 – there’s no knowing the true numbers now. 

We all get caught up in our own lives. We also get distracted by the hustle and bustle of everyday life, running to-and-fro to get things done. Sometimes, unfortunately, this can make us forget or avoid people experiencing homelessness in the streets.

“I don’t think people do it on purpose – it could be that they don’t know what to say; it could be that we are desensitised,” Major Bruce Harmer of Sydney’s Salvation Army said.

“People who find themselves on the street need our love, our care and attention. I’ve heard people say, ‘If it wasn’t for that person saying good morning to me today, it was going to be my last day’.”

A small act of kindness can be as simple as getting down on their level, saying hello, and having a decent conversation with them. Standing over someone sleeping rough can be condescending, even daunting – sit down and open up a dialogue with this person.

It could make their day – and before asking if they’d like some food, make sure it’s what they want, or what they’re comfortable with. They may not react well to charity.

Idea #5: Pay for a parking ticket and leave it in the machine for the next person

Paying for parking can be such a chore – especially in big cities where the parking prices are sky high. If you’re looking for a fun and simple random act of kindness idea, pay for a parking ticket and leave it in the machine for the next person.

An all day ticket is even better. The receiver will be stoked to have free parking, even for a day. It could be $10, $20, even $30 saved for more exciting things.

Idea #6: Donate gifts to a local charity for kids in need 

Your local charity is always looking for donations – clothes, homewares, shoes, and of course, gifts for the holiday season. The great part about this activity is that decluttering is good for the soul too!

Alternatively, you could reach into your pockets this holiday season and fill up a “Santa Sack” with lots of toys, fun activities, and “one size fits all” clothing items for kids, like fun hats and costumes. You’ll bring joy to children. 

You don’t have to spend a fortune on gifts, either. Just look for fun, cost effective toys for kids – even classics like a barrel of monkeys, or a board game like “Guess Who” or Scrabble. Alternatively, dig through your belongings and look for fun toys and activities you don’t need anymore.

Idea #7: Show your gratitude to a teacher or role model by giving them a gift

Gratitude has a number of social and health benefits. Robert Emmonds, a renowned gratitude researcher, has conducted multiple studies on the topic of gratitude and found grateful people are happier and have reduced levels of depression. 

Plus, gratitude can improve your sleep, reduce the number of doctor’s appointments and illnesses, and reduce your aggression levels, making you an easier person to befriend and be around. 

If you’re looking for ways to express your gratitude, consider making or purchasing a gift for a friend, teacher, tutor, or role model. You will feel accomplished and kind, while sharing the good feelings with the receiver of your gift. 

Gift away – and watch the health benefits roll in.

For more on practicing gratitude, read: Practicing Gratitude: Why and How You Should do it

Idea #8: Offer to help the elderly to carry their groceries 

Volunteering to help someone in need can be extremely rewarding. In fact, volunteering time and helping others has been scientifically proven to increase your own wellbeing, as well as the person you’re helping. It can help combat depression, increase confidence, and create a stronger sense of self and purpose!

You don’t have to volunteer heaps of time to experience the benefits of volunteering, though. It can be as simple as helping an older member of the community to carry their groceries to their car, or help them onto the bus. 

It takes two seconds to lend a hand. Next time you see an elderly person struggling with their shopping bags, consider asking them if they need assistance. You’d be surprised how easily you can make another person’s day.

Idea #9: Reach out to friends and family members who seem a little down

Depression doesn’t discriminate. Men and women, teens and children, rich and the poor – depression and mental illness can impact anyone in our community. 

Unfortunately, it’s also very common for people to hide their depression and put on a brave face – this is called “concealed depression”, but the symptoms are there – a lack of sleep or appetite, no interest in hobbies or activities, and going out of their way to convince everyone they’re “feeling fine”. 

“Concealed depression is sometimes called ‘smiling depression’ because the sufferer seems fine,” Sally Winston, PsyD, a member of the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, said. 

“They go about their lives fulfilling their responsibilities, interacting apparently normally, and do not complain or share with others how they are feeling. They may be so used to being silently depressed that it is just experienced as ‘this is just the way I am; I am just a loser’ or ‘this is the way life is’ rather than ‘I am depressed.'”

If you have a feeling one of your friends or family members might be struggling, a simple act of kindness could be to reach out and offer to take them out for a coffee or a walk in the park for some fresh air. Give them the chance to share their thoughts and feelings, and encourage them to get the help they need to recover.

Be someone’s rock for a day, and make sure to follow up on their feelings and progress as time goes on.

Idea #10: Donate time, flowers & nick-knacks to a nursing home

This might be less of a random act of kindness idea, but a simple and rewarding activity nonetheless. According to a study by the Corporation for National and Community Service, Americans over the age of 60 who volunteer have higher levels of well-being compared to those who did not volunteer. 

Nursing homes are always looking for volunteers to spend time with the residents. Consider volunteering at your local nursing home – host bingo and art lessons, baking sessions, or set up an in-home cinema. Alternatively, donate a stack of flowers and bouquets to bring nature to the resident’s rooms, or surprise them with gifts.

These little acts of kindness can help reduce age-related depression and loneliness, while you bridge the gap between generations, learn new things, and improve your own mental health.

Have you tried any of my random act of kindness ideas? Let me know in the comments – or sign up to my email newsletter for new ideas!

Filed Under: Finding Happiness & Resiliency Tagged With: gratitude, kindness, random acts of kindness, volunteering

The Benefits of Volunteering (E22)

15/06/2020 by Marie

Happiness for Cynics Podcast

This week’s episode is all about the benefits of volunteering. From living a longer and healthier life to having deeper friendships, there really is nothing volunteering can’t do to make your life better and happier!

M: You’re listening to the podcast happiness for cynics. I’m Marie Skelton, a writer and speaker focused on change and resilience.

P: And I am Peter Furness, a recycler, a composter and a reactionary environmentalist. Each week we will bring to you the latest news and research in the world of positive psychology, otherwise known as happiness.

M: Thanks, Pete. You can find us at marieskelton.com, which is a site about how to find balance, happiness and resilience in your life. We talk about a lot of the same research recover here on the podcast, including some really practical tips for bringing joy and happiness into your life.

P: So on to today’s episode, which is all about volunteering.

Happy intro Music] 

M: Okay, so we’re talking about volunteering today. A big one, a really good one. Why should we volunteer Pete? 

P: So much good things come from volunteering, things that you might not think about it initially. But essentially, we know that volunteering works well for bringing about meaningful, purposeful lives and also for bringing out feel good things like oxytocin and progesterone.  

M: Isn’t progesterone one of the female chemicals?  

P: No that’s Oestrogen.  

M: Ok, alright… 

P: It’s in there though, I’m not exactly sure of the ratio but hey we could all do with some female stuff. 

M: Volunteering doesn’t make you more feminine? 

P: [Laugh] It makes you wussy. 

[Laughter] 

M: We take that back. [More laughter] 

P: No, no, no. The good benefits of volunteering are numerous and magnanimous.  

M: Sure and it’s also, so we are definitely going to focus in on volunteering today, but it does cross over into so many of the other areas, like so many things we talk about that we’ve discussed in the past. So it helps you to find purpose in your life. It often can help you be more social, depending on the activity you pick. It also helps you to be more generous and practise kindness and all of those things in their own right without the volunteering component are proven to have positive benefits for your life.  

P: I think that volunteering as well deserves its own episode because it’s a practical thing that we can do. It’s one of the techniques that we can actually do that leads to happiness. So whilst you’re not consciously going ‘I’m going to have a meaningful purpose in my life.’ You are just going down and helping out at the cake store, so it’s something that we could just do again. Like the self-care is church from non-believers episode. That was a great example of something really practical that we can do that gives us the benefits and leads to happiness without us really even trying. 

M: For me I think the real benefit out of this one is in helping to combat the loneliness epidemic.  

P: Yes. Very good. 

M: This is a topic that’s been around the last couple of years, and there’s been a lot of discussion over many years about the loneliness levels of our elderly populations. But more recently, we’ve been discussing how lonely our millennials are. 

P: Yes, we have talked about that. 

M: Yeah, yeah, and I think that this gives you something to do, especially if you’re an introvert and not so comfortable with rocking up to networking events to meet people, it gives you something to do, and you meet people secondarily and conform really close bonds. While the focus isn’t in that awkward trying to meet someone. 

P: It’s not speed dating people, that’s not volunteering.  

[Laughter] 

M: No [laugh]. So you can go in and volunteer, and that’s why you’re there, and it gives you a reason for being and in the meantime, you forge strong relationships depending on the activity, and I think that’s another benefit that we don’t necessarily need to deep dive into, but another reason why you might choose volunteering over some other self-care or positive psychology activities.  

P: It’s funny because I think when you approach people for that; I’ve been on that side of the equation where I’m trying to get people to volunteer and often the responses that come back are ‘oh no, I haven’t got time. I’ve got such a hectic lifestyle. I couldn’t possibly commit to that sort of stuff.’ 

M: Mm-hmm 

P: This is going to be the episode for you because it’s going to show you exactly the huge amounts of benefits that will come out of this that might surprise you and actually have some selfish, selfish additions in there as well. You can be selfish and volunteer. Sure, so I was having a look and on Psychology Today, which is a really accessible site, and I encourage you to have a look at some of their articles as well. It’s not psych babble. It is, as I said, really accessible. So Dr. Dawn Carr published an article on ‘Five Reasons Why You Should Volunteer’.  

1. Volunteers live longer and healthier.

2. They establish strong relationships, as we said before

3. It’s good for your career.

P: Ah, there’s that selfish reason.

[Laughter]

M: Well so far, they’re all pretty selfish. He’s the nice one, the warm and fuzzy one.

4. It’s good for society.

P: It benefits everyone.

M: Yeah, and then the last one, number 5 is:

5. It gives you a sense of purpose.

And again, we’ve shown how that can also directly lead to increased happiness levels.

P: Yeah, definitely. 

M: So there are studies, so many studies that show all of all of this stuff and you’ve been looking at a few studies as well haven’t you Pete?  

P: I have yeah. A couple, Professor Stijn Baert, I think I pronounced that correctly, talks a lot about how research shows that volunteering can increase employment. It can increase your employment opportunities and increase your skill base, which is one of those lovely selfish reasons. The idea of paying it forward, which has actually come about in the Random Acts of Kindness Foundation in 1995.  

M: And they’ve got a website. Just look up Random Acts of Kindness, they’ve got so many great tools there but we’re going to cover that another time actually.  

P: Definitely. There was also a study in 2018 on a Spanish company where they had a control group that was a generosity group. They were giving out acts of kindness within the workplace, and what they found was that people were even happier and more content than those who actually received the acts of kindness. So by people giving out those acts of kindness by being generous and volunteering their time and so forth they get, they got more benefits than just receiving it.  

M: I wonder if that also translates to giving gifts. Because I know at times I look really closely at the person’s face when I give a gift.  

P: [Laugh]  

M: Because I’m a horrible gift giver and I can’t help it. I’m so bad.  

P: [Laugh] Do you really like it? Do you really like it? Do you really? 

M: Oh, and I’ve just got this complex now, I can’t get over it. 

P: Do you keep every receipt and like hold onto it for a year?   

M: Yeah and I shove receipts in people’s hands and go, please, please exchange if you don’t like it? Please don’t, don’t feel bad. I want you to. Go exchange it, I know you hate it.  

P: [Laugh] 

M: You know, I’ll talk myself into a frenzy. But I wonder. Gift giving comes with so much anxiety for me.  

P: There’s your introverted nature.  

M: I just want them to like it.  

P: Yeah, I know. But the benefit does come about and even if it doesn’t work for them, they can always pass it on to somebody else. 

M: All right. And then there’s a few other studies that I was looking at as well that are quite interesting I thought. There’s one in the Journal of Happiness Studies that says that acts of charity or volunteer work can make you feel better and happier, which we just have mentioned. But this study goes even further, and it shows that even simply wishing someone well can have a positive effect on your mood. And in fact, even witnessing someone else performing an act of kindness produces oxytocin so it aids in lowering your blood pressure, improves self-esteem, optimism and overall heart health. So even if you just surround yourself with people who are doing good.  

P: You don’t even have to do it yourself. You can just be a quiet observer. ‘I’m just here for the tea and bickies.’ 

[Laughter] 

M: I love it. So there’s another one that I really love. There are two more and I’m going to share them because these are just great little studies. So there’s one from Harvard. I know the one that you’re wanting to talk about Pete. We’ll get to that one in a second. There’s one from Harvard that says that volunteering at least once a week yields improvements to wellbeing equivalent to doubling your annual salary.  

P: And who doesn’t want a double salary? 

M: I think I’ll take the money thanks.  

P: [Laugh] Pay off that mortgage.  

M: Yep, they say money can’t buy happiness, but I’m sure I’d make a go of it.  

P: [Laugh] It’s a good relative indicator, isn’t it? Would you like to go and volunteer? Or would you like double your salary?  

M: Yep, no one’s giving you double your salary, so you may as well go volunteer. 

P: There you go.  

[Laughter] 

M: And then the last study that, Pete is jumping at the bit – 

P: volunteering gives you more sex!  

[Laughter] 

M: I think you’re leaping. 

P: Yes, is this where we share our personal stories? 

M: Yeah, um I edit the podcast Pete so… 

P: Damnit.  

M: It is a very big leap to say that volunteering makes you get more sex – 

P: But come on the science says so. 

M: Well, kind of, kind of. For those who are the cynics and you actually care about the detail of the studies. So being altruistic makes you sexier to the opposite sex.  

P: [sexy cat purr] 

M: And in a study that was published by the British Journal of Psychology, they gave people $100 in cash and asked them what they would do with the money and those who are willing to donate the money. So those who would naturally or genuinely more altruistic also reported having more lifetime and or casual sex partners over the previous years. 

P: Bada bing bada boom! 

[Laughter]  

M: So, I am going to say that it doesn’t talk about cause and effect here, but 

P: we’re running with it [laugh]. 

M: What they’re saying here is altruists get more sex.  

P: There we go, I can see why it’s an attractive quality it makes, it makes someone be attracted to you because they can see a noble quality that makes you go ‘oh they’re going to be generous. They’re gonna be generous in the relationship, they’re going to be generous in their life.’ 

M: Well, particularly from a female point of view, it is something that you would want your husband particularly if you have very limited choice about who you’re marrying. It’s a trait you would be looking for, depending on the country you’re from or the century you’re in. I would imagine that altruism and generosity would be positive traits that you’d be very grateful for having and then, secondly, it also would reflect well on the type of person you want to raise your Children.  

P: This is an interesting point because this is one of the points that I came up with is that volunteering as a family is a thing.  

M: Yes  

P: It sets good examples. It shows Children, you involved in acts of generosity, which they then emulate, especially if they’re involved in volunteering at a young age. So if you’re going along to the weekly cake store, take your three year old with you because they’ll go along. They’ll see you having a fun time. And I’ll make that Connection without even really thinking about it in their conscious thought of ‘Oh yeah if I give this then that’s going to create a good connection with these other people.’  

M: Yep, I think one of the easy ones to do is soup kitchens with kids. 

P: Hhmm well you told, there’s a point that you talked about in terms of one of the greatest acts of volunteering is food. 

M: Aarghh, That’s my quick fact.  

P: Oh sorry, I – 

M: – jumped ahead. So just a quick fact for all of you out there who didn’t hear what Pete just said. Most volunteer activity involves the collection and distribution of food. 

P: I like it. I mean, I give cakes to my personal trainer.  

M: My, what’s the word I’m looking for? a person who helps with my rehab at the hospital.  

P: Physio. 

M: Physio [Laugh]. They’ve got the physio that’s attached to the hospital, so there’s a bunch of them that all work in the same clinic, and unfortunately they get a lot of people out of the Osteo[porosis] ward. So, Grandmas and grandpas who have torn ligaments in their shoulders or you know as you get older things wear and tear a bit more, and they’re always being given cakes and baked goods. Always the poor things.  

[Laughter] 

M: They’re like ‘We are going to be so fat by the time we’ve finished this career.’  

P: [Laugh] that’s the whole point making my PT just a little bit chubbier, you know so I can feel good about myself. [Laughter] If you’re watching [listening] that’s not really the reason.  

M: It’s selfish that one.  

P: I like this. I like the idea of being volunteering as selfish. I mean, I’m going to throw some more at you.  It lessens the symptoms of chronic pain.  

M: Yes, so much of this stuff does it’s the oxytocin. 

P: It’s the neurotransmitters. It’s all those happy drugs that go into, you flood your body with when you’re involved in acts of kindness and volunteering. So that’s another good one. The Increase in your job skills, which leads to a higher income. Now, I really liked this one. This again comes back to the study that was done by a number of American psychologists in the American Psychological Association Journal, and they said that having volunteering on your CV is attractive to people who might employ you.

And also it is associated with being in a position to be able to be a volunteer because you are on a higher income. But they actually did a study that negated those influences and found that people who do volunteer end up being offered higher incomes within their organisation.  

M: Maybe I should, um, mention ‘Hey, boss if you’re listening?’  

P: [Laugh] well I think that’s essentially, it is attractive to people and they will see that sense of altruism is being a characteristic they want to promote within their business.  

M: You can also get such different and varied experience. So I was on the board of New South Wales volleyball, and that was a very different level of conversation. Well I was in my early thirties then. I worked for a really large corporate, so it wasn’t in that same board level type of discussion at the corporate. But it has definitely rounded out my experience and understanding and helped me in my career.  

P: Hugely, I had the same reference of volunteering on a sports committee and learning skills of how to do Excel spreadsheets. Now, you don’t think that that’s going to be something you pick up but I became a spreadsheet demon!  

M: Yep, I have too. 

P: And that’s all through volunteering and learning how to run a meeting, learning how to show leadership when it’s necessary, all those sorts of interactions and also learning how to interact with people. We had a very interesting ethnic mix and it took me a while to be able to deal with each individual ethnicity and approach it in a certain way that was beneficial for everybody. So it does, it really does give you tangible skills that you can use and that was my big platform when I was trying to get people to volunteer for that board, I was like guys you have no idea, this is going to be good for your job. 

M: Even just running an event, having ownership of running an event. 

P: Event management. It is not easy people. [Laugh] 

M: No. A place in heaven for people who run events and call centres, I have to say those poor, poor people. All right, so let’s maybe move on to some ideas or things that we can do to bring volunteering into our lives. Do you have any Pete?  

P: …  

M: Alright I’ll go. So the easiest one is that there are always organisations, mostly charities who are looking for volunteers.  

With the organisations that look for soft skills that can complement your career, you do generally need to be willing to invest a bit more time. It’s really a huge tax on a lot of these small, low funded organisations to constantly be training new people who only want to pop in three hours. So they are looking for a longer term commitment a lot of the time. But if you’re not willing to put a time in every week or every month, you can do things like donating blood.  

P: I like that one. 

M: Which is something could only do every few months. It’s a really easy thing to do, if you can, and mentoring someone so you don’t necessarily have to meet with your mentee more than once every three months. And there’s so many great benefits that come back to you. And it goes both ways, really, the mentor mentee relationship. As we’ve established.  

P: Yeah  

M: Yep and then the last one is just get involved in a Charity Day at your work. If you’ve got an organisation or a big enough workplace, there’s things like Australia’s Biggest Morning Tea, which we did yesterday in my office and that was for Cancer raising money for Cancer research, and then you could join in a fundraising walk or cycle or grow a mo for Movember. 

P: He he 

M: So there’s lots of these days, and particularly in larger corporations there’s a way to just jump in and join one of these things. But the benefits are not only to these charities or organisations that you’re supporting. They come back to you. 

P: Yeah, hugely. On a more individual level to look at what you’re doing. Look at the activities that you’re involved with and look at if those organisations need a hand. So for both of us, volleyball was a big one. I jumped into the volleyball committee with eyes completely shut and not knowing what I was getting into and 10 years later they had to force me out because I had been there for too long.   

M: You were ready to go. 

P: That was, when I first did it, I was like ‘Oh I should give something back to the club that has given me so much’ and that was the initial idea behind it. It was so beneficial in so many different ways. And I, it really did open up so much opportunity for me and it became a 10 year commitment. So it turned into something that was quite a lot.  

M: So you hated it the whole time, didn’t you? 

P: Well yeah, I got a nickname out of it, so that was good.  

M: What was the nickname? 

P: Madam President.  

M: Ah. 

P: [Laugh], there has only ever been one. Now it’s Mr President.  

M: Yeah OK, fair enough.  

[Laughter] 

M: All right, well, I think we’re done talking about volunteering for this week.  

P: We are. Get out there, people. It’s so much better for you, and it really does come back to you tenfold. They do say that volunteers look five years younger.  

M: I like that. The other thing to mention, to circle all the way back to the beginning is you mentioned that a lot of people say ‘I just don’t have time to volunteer’.

Now I would really be challenging that and asking, what do you prioritise over your own life and health and bonds with your family potentially or friends?  

P: It can be such a social thing.  

M: That means you don’t have time for those things that I just mentioned, because that’s ultimately what we’re talking about here.  

P: True, we’re preaching to the converted on each other here so. 

M: Yep 

P: Find something people, get out there and have a look and connect with something that connects with you, no matter how small you’ll get the benefits.  

M: All right, see you next week.  

P: Stay happy. 

[Happy Exit Music] 

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