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How a sense of purpose can link creativity to happiness

16/06/2022 by Marie

link between creativity and happiness

Gareth Loudon, Cardiff Metropolitan University

There are plenty of famous artists who have produced highly creative work while they were deeply unhappy or suffering from poor mental health. In 1931, the poet T.S. Eliot wrote a letter to a friend describing his “considerable mental agony” and how he felt “on the verge of insanity”. Vincent Van Gogh eventually took his own life, having written of “horrible fits of anxiety” and “feelings of emptiness and fatigue”.

So how are creativity and happiness linked? Does happiness make us more creative or does creativity make us happy?

Most of the research so far seems to indicate that a positive mood enhances creativity. But others have challenged this argument, suggesting a more complex relationship.

For example, a large study in Sweden found that authors were more likely to suffer from psychiatric disorders compared to people from non-creative professions. Even in the corporate world, it has been suggested that negative emotions can spark creativity and that “anxiety can focus the mind”, resulting in improved creative output.

Meanwhile, the psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi conducted extensive research on creative individuals across many disciplines, which found a common sense among all the people he interviewed: that they loved what they did, and that “designing or discovering something new” was one of their most enjoyable experiences.

It seems, then, that research to date supports a variety of different views, and I believe one of the reasons for this relates to time scale.

A key factor that affects creativity is attention. In the short term, you can get people to pay attention using external rewards (such as money) or by creating pressure to meet urgent deadlines.

But it is much harder to sustain creativity over longer periods using these approaches – so the role of happiness becomes increasingly important. My experience of working with a large number of commercial organisations in Wales (and my own career in the public and private sectors) is that creativity is often not sustained within an organisation, even when it is encouraged (or demanded) by senior management.

Typical reasons for this lack of sustained creativity are pressures and stresses at work, the fear of judgement, the fear of failure, or employee apathy. One way to tackle this might be to aspire to psychologist Paul Dolan’s definition of happiness as the “experiences of pleasure and purpose over time”.

He describes purpose as relating to “fulfilment, meaning and worthwhileness” and believes we are at our happiest with a “balance between pleasure and purpose”.

Therefore, if your work is meaningful, fulfilling and worthwhile it helps in supporting your happiness. It also has the added advantage of making you want to engage and pay attention (rather than having to).

Bringing purpose and creativity together helps provide the intrinsic motivation for undertaking creativity, what has been called the “energy for action”, and enables creativity to be sustained.

So, if you want to be creative in the long term, the key questions to ask yourself are whether you are doing work that is interesting and enjoyable for you, and is that work of value to you? Or, as the American academic Teresa Amabile puts it, do you “perceive your work as contributing value to something or someone who matters”.

Performance anxiety

Another question to ask yourself is: are you helping others gain that “energy for action”, whether you are a manager in a company or a teacher in a school.

In situations where creative work has not been associated with happiness, such as the example of some prominent artists and authors, it might well be that their creative work was still driven by a sense of purpose and that other factors made them unhappy.

Another common element affecting the happiness of many creative people is the pressure they put on themselves to be creative, something I have often seen with my own students. This kind of pressure and stress can result in creative blocks and consequently perpetuate the problem.

So maybe the solution in these situations is to seek pleasure rather than purpose, as a positive mood does seem to enhance creativity, or to encourage people to be more playful. For those creative people who suffer from mental health problems, it is a much more complicated picture. But perhaps the act of undertaking creative activity can at least help in the healing process.

Gareth Loudon, Professor of Creativity, Cardiff Metropolitan University

This article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons license. Read the original article.


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Filed Under: Blog, Finding Happiness & Resiliency Tagged With: Creativity, happiness, mentalhealth, purpose, wellbeing

‘Do what you love’ could be contributing to the great resignation

17/03/2022 by Marie

“Do what you love,” is no longer just advice. 

High school students learn early on that their future careers should be passion-driven. Self-help books counsel job searchers to start with reflection on what they love. And Hollywood films teach people, in romantic fashion, to aspire to work that is intrinsically satisfying and expresses our authentic selves. 

Researchers call this way of thinking about work the passion paradigm, and studies show it has become pervasive in modern societies. The passion paradigm emerged in the 1960s. During this time, there was widespread questioning of social and cultural norms — especially among youth — which helped develop a new way of thinking about the role of work in human life. 

This trend was spearheaded by the scholarship of humanistic psychologist Abraham Maslow, who applied his theory of the “hierarchy of needs” to the modern workplace. In Eupsychian Management, Maslow argues that work should be thought of as a key source of personal growth and self-actualization. 

Maslow envisioned a world where individuals derive deep satisfaction from their working lives, and who treat their work as a sacred activity. Since early 2021, I have conducted interviews with over 90 professionals and managers in Toronto, to learn how they think about work. Although there are exceptions, what the data shows, in general, is that Maslow’s theory has increasingly become common. 

The downsides of the passion paradigm 

Because the rising popularity of the passion paradigm has coincided with both increasing economic inequality and a steep decline in the power of unions, it has attracted a host of criticism. 

Sociologist Lindsay DePalma contends that the passion paradigm encourages workers to romanticize their work while blinding them to the unequal distributions of power that characterize their working lives. In her book Work Won’t Love You Back, journalist Sarah Jaffe argues that loving your job is a bad idea because it is a recipe for (self)exploitation. 

Derek Thompson, a staff writer at The Atlantic, maintains that the passion paradigm has fuelled a new religion — “workism” — which is responsible for causing burnout and depression even among high-wage earners. These commentators rightly fear that the passion paradigm can (and does) lead workers to accept harmful working conditions, poor treatment from their employers and unrealistic expectations from themselves — basically to put up with what they shouldn’t. 

When people aspire to love their work, they may prioritize work at the expense of other important aspects of life — family, friends and hobbies. An overvaluation of work can lead people to see those who cannot work as lazy, stupid or undeserving of concern. 

And yet, despite these evident pitfalls, the passion paradigm can also have the opposite effects. In fact, I would argue that it is one cause of what has been dubbed the “Great Resignation.” 

The Great Resignation 

In August 2021, 4.3 million American workers quit their jobs, the highest ever recorded. And similar waves have hit the U.K.. In Canada it’s not clear whether the Great Resignation is taking place with equal intensity, but some studies show that Canadian workers are increasingly considering leaving or switching their jobs. There are many factors causing the Great Resignation. Among the most notable are wage subsidies which have given workers more freedom to choose the kind of work they want to do, the added work stress caused by the pandemic, the need to stay home with young children and the shift to remote work. 

However, I think another reason has to do with the expectations workers have around work — expectations which derive from the passion paradigm. 

The passion paradigm and the Great Resignation 

By disrupting people’s routines, the pandemic has reawakened in many the deep-seated desire for a job they actually enjoy — a desire that has long been suppressed. My interviews make it clear that many Canadian workers are looking at their jobs and asking themselves, “Is this really what I’m passionate about?” “Do I want to spend the majority of my waking hours doing this?” “Does my job bring me meaning?” 

And this isn’t just managers. The highest number of resignations in Canada have taken place within the accommodation and food service industries. And as a recent article in The Atlantic put it, “this level of quitting is really an expression of optimism that says, ‘We can do better.’” 

In a sense, the passion paradigm is paradoxically fuelling the demand for better, more satisfying, and more meaningful work. It is because workers expect more that they are no longer willing to put up with the status quo. The passion paradigm requires a strong safety net Of course, none of this could have happened without the government supports that reweighed the balance of power between workers and bosses. 

Since the 1980s, workers have had less and less power to negotiate. So, while the passion paradigm may have grown in popularity, it grew in economic conditions that were largely determined by employers, not employees. 

But in the wake of the pandemic this has slowly begun to change. Faced with labour shortages, employers are forced to take workers’ seriously when it comes to demands around pay, flexibility, autonomy and scheduling. They are receiving the message that “business as usual” is no longer acceptable — and, in some cases, they’re caving. 

The crucial takeaway is that the passion paradigm can fuel demands for better, more meaningful work, but this is only possible when it’s accompanied by a strong social safety net. 

Workers don’t need to stop loving their jobs. But they should ask whether their jobs are themselves loveable. And this is easier to do when you have real economic freedom.  


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Filed Under: Blog, Finding Happiness & Resiliency Tagged With: aspiration, Fulfilled, happiness, meaning, purpose, satisfaction, workplace

How to build a positive mindset 

03/03/2022 by Marie

Do you stay awake at night replaying conversations? Do you find yourself ruminating over things people said to you? Or perhaps you worry about the future, thinking about all the ways something might go wrong? 

If so, you’re not alone. Over the past few decades, around the world there’s been an increase in levels of anxiety. The world has changed dramatically, and it can be overwhelming and worrying. 

But the research is showing that you can combat these thoughts by taking more control over your mindset. If your natural inclination is to ruminate and think of all the negatives, you can balance these thoughts by proactively thinking positive thoughts throughout the day. You can train your brain to think more positively! 

There is a raft of health benefits to building a positive mindset.  

You’ll live healthier and longer: Optimists tend to live healthier lives and have a lower risk of chronic diseases like diabetes and heart disease than pessimists. On the flip side, pessimists tend to have shorter telomeres, which means they age faster. “Cells with shorter telomeres circulate and release large amounts of inflammatory proteins that contribute to inflammation, which is a mechanism of aging,” says Aoife O’Donovan, Ph.D., a professor at University of California, San Francisco.  

You’ll be less stressed: People who have positive mindsets cope with the day-to-day turmoil of life better. They are also less anxious and less likely to suffer from depression.  

You’ll be more successful: Compared to pessimists, optimists are more successful in school, at work and in athletics. They are also more successful in their marriages and tend to have more friends and more supportive relationships. 

So how can you build a positive mindset? 

  1. Get good sleep  

Is there a link between poor mental health and sleep? Could getting a bad night’s sleep really be as bad as smoking? Does driving tired really put you in as much danger as driving drunk? According to the latest science, yes! Not only that, but not getting a good night’s sleep can significantly impact your happiness levels and your ability to cope with anything life throws at you – which let’s face it, has been a lot in 2020. In an increasingly hyperconnected world, in which many companies now expect their employees to be on call and to answer emails 24/7, Global consulting firm McKinsey argues that sleep is an important organizational topic that requires specific and urgent attention.  

  1. Limit social media 

Have you found yourself turning to social media to while away the long hours of Covid lockdown? Are you noticing some negative effects? If so, you may need a social media detox. Even before Covid, social media was well ingrained in most societies around the world. In Australia, as of January 2019 there were 18 million active users of social media websites (69% of the population). Facebook is the most popular social media platform, with ~16 million monthly users of the website. In the U. S., about 70 percent of adults say they use Facebook and YouTube, while Instagram and Snapchat are growing in popularity among 18–24-year-olds. Social media can be an important part of modern life, but unfortunately, the research also tells us that it can also be destructive to our mental wellbeing. Many studies have linked excessive social media use to increased depression, anxiety, loneliness, sleeplessness, and many other mental health issues. 

  1. Spend time with positive people 

In a recent New York Times article, researcher stated that people laugh five times as often when they’re with others as when they’re alone. Peak happiness lies mostly in collective activity. Not only that, but researchers have also found that the use and appreciation of humour is positive for overall wellbeing and psychological health. Humour is observed in all cultures and at all ages. But only in recent decades has experimental psychology respected it as an essential, fundamental human behaviour. According to positivity strategist Paul Osincup, “Humour is the new mindfulness.” You can actually train your brain to see and experience humour more often. So go on, have a laugh with some positive people. 

  1. Don’t suppress negative emotions 

One of the biggest misconceptions about the positive psychology movement is that people should always aim to be happy and negative emotions are to be avoided.  

This is a load of rubbish. Firstly, only being happy is impossible. Secondly, trying to suppress negative emotions can be really detrimental for mental health. The reality of life is that it’s messy, and even the people who are the happiest, most joyful and most fulfilled experience appropriate negative emotions when the situation calls for it.  

The key is to process negative events and emotions in a healthy way so you can move forward. So how can you process your emotions when times are tough? Simple, start a practice of journaling. Over the last few decades, many studies have shown that journaling is a great tool to help you understand yourself better, unpack old issues and let them go, and give your mind the knowledge to understand how you see and react to the world around you. It has also been shown to increase happiness, help to reach goals and even have some positive physical health benefits. And if you’re someone who is generally not comfortable opening up to people, studies show that journaling might be the most beneficial to you. 

“When we put our thoughts and feelings down on paper, we’re not just transferring them—we’re also transforming them. Writing forces us to arrange our ideas into a sequence, one after another; over time, themes and patterns start to emerge; new insights and perspectives start to bubble up,” according to Kira M. Newman, Greater Good Magazine. 

  1. Movement and exercise 

There’s a whole lot of research into the physiological and physical health benefits of exercise, but exercise can also it can make us happier. It is great for our mood and our mental state. Exercising released dopamine (DA), noradrenaline (NE), and serotonin (5-HT) – the happy drugs! They’re the things that make us feel joyful and they’re present when we exercise. They increase in their production when we move our bodies and do exercise.  

  1. Learn something new 

As Einstein famously said: “The important thing is to never stop questioning.” Learning something new is an essential part of creating a happy environment for yourself and a great way to start your day in a happy mood. Our brains develop more and release happy chemicals when we learn something new or stimulate them with exciting information. This doesn’t have to be a complicated or expensive happiness habit; it can just include watching a Ted Talk during breakfast or listening to a podcast on your way to work. This type of habit will put you in a happy mood just by stimulating your brain and getting your gears turning. Multiple studies and research suggest that consistent curiosity goes hand in hand with happiness.   

  1. Get outdoors 

It’s easy to forget how the little things – like taking a walk – can have such a huge impact on our mental health and make us happier. Studies show that brain structure and mood improve when we spend time outdoors. This has positive implications for concentration, memory and overall psychological wellbeing. Also, getting outdoors means getting natural light, which may be key to improving mood and reducing insomnia. A recent study showed more time spent outside in natural light was associated with improved mood, better sleep quality, and ease of waking. 

 

  1. Practice gratitude 

The science is clear. Practicing gratitude makes you happier and less stressed. It leads to higher overall wellbeing and satisfaction with your life and social relationships. Yet many of us don’t make gratitude a part of our weekly practices.  And it can be really simple, research suggests that expressing gratitude by texting may be just as beneficial as an in-person show of appreciation.  


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Filed Under: Blog, Finding Happiness & Resiliency Tagged With: exercise, gratitude, happiness, meaning, mindset, purpose, sleep

9 Ways to improve your mindset (E104)

01/03/2022 by Marie

Happiness for Cynics podcast

Join Marie and Pete this week as they discuss 9 ways to improve your mindset and live a longer, happier, and more productive life.

Show notes

Sleep deprivation and genes

Study reveals sleep deprivation is associated with lower DNA repair gene expression and more breaks in DNA. The damage to DNA may explain the increased risk of cancers and neurodegenerative diseases in those who are sleep deprived.

Sleep is your superpower – Matt Walker

Transcript

[Happy intro music -background] 

M: Welcome to happiness for cynics and thanks for joining us as we explore all the things I wish I’d known earlier in life but didn’t. 

P: This podcast is about how to live the good life. Whether we’re talking about a new study or the latest news or eastern philosophy, our show is all about discovering what makes people happy. 

M: So, if you’re like me and you want more out of life, listen in and more importantly, buy in because I guarantee if you do, the science of happiness can change your life. 

P: Plus, sometimes I think we’re kind of funny. 

[Intro music fadeout] 

P: Hi!

M: Welcome back.

P: Here we are.

M: Here we are again!

P: Laugh, and again and again and again.

M: Every week, laugh.

P: Encore une fois. [Once more] Laugh!

M: So, what are we talking about today, Pete?

P: Ooh! What are we talking about today? The nine ways to build a positive mindset.

M: Are you sure we have nine?

P: I’ll invent one, laugh. I’ll create one.

M: Laugh.

P: Just give me five minutes, laugh.

M: Love it. All right, positive mindset.

P: Mmm.

M: What are the reasons why you want a positive mindset?

P: Because unhappy people die?

M & P: Laugh!

M: I don’t know why we laugh so hard.

P: Laugh, it’s our catchphrase!

M: It’s not really appropriate, laugh. [But] yes, they tend to not live as long, how about that.

P: But a positive mindset also has positive implications for your health.

M: Yes.

P: There’s a lot of studies that support that outwardly positive and, um, uh –

M: Optimistic.

P: – optimistic was the word I was looking for. People live better quality of lives and have better health outcomes.

M: Absolutely. And the research shows that you can train your brain to think more positively.

P: Yes.

M: So, if you balance negative thoughts with positive thoughts, then you can change your mindset. So, really, this is about creating those neural pathways in your brain again that we’ve talked about to counterbalance.

P: Mmm.

M: What is a natural tendency to think things are bad in a lot of people? Some people are just natural optimists, and they born that way. Or they grow up and learn that.

P: Yep.

M: A lot of us do tend to spend a lot of time ruminating over things or thinking about all the negatives. And we’ve seen a huge increase in anxiety and depression in all people around the world since, you know over the last 20 years or so. And so actively and proactively, creating a positive mindset or balancing your negative thoughts with positive thoughts is so important to learn how to do.

P: It also creates opportunity.

M: Yes, if you see a door opening and someone else sees the door shutting. You know, there’s two outcomes.

P: There are, yeah.

M: Two very different outcomes from that.

P: Yep. It’s a positive feedback loop.

M: Yeah, absolutely. So, you mentioned that they live healthier and longer. So, we do know that research shows that optimists tend to have healthier lives and lower risk of chronic diseases like diabetes and heart disease as the pessimists.

P: Yep.

M: And on the flip side, pessimists tend to have shorter telomeres.

P: Ah ha ha ha. What are telomeres?

M: Laugh.

P: Shorter bracelets!

M: Laugh. As we discussed a few episodes ago, that means that pessimists age faster.

P: Yes.

M: So, cells with shorter telomeres circulate and release large amounts of inflammatory proteins that contribute to inflammation, which is a mechanism of ageing.

P: So, if you don’t want wrinkles, you want long telomeres.

M: Yes.

P: Add some more beads to your bracelet.

M: By changing your mindset and becoming more positive.

P: Yes.

M: All right, what else we got?

P: Oh. I’m leading? I’m going on this one.

M: So, Pete hasn’t done his homework.

P: Oh, rude!

M: Laugh.  

P: Laugh, so rude.

M: You’ll be less stressed. So, people who have positive mindsets cope with the day-to-day turmoil of life better, and they’re also less anxious and less likely to suffer from depression. And so, I think throughout Covid, there have been two very different yet typical responses.

P: Mmm.

M: There are those who have thrived throughout Covid, who have had the skills and the knowledge and the self-awareness to find ways to be positive and proactive about their mental health and their physical health and everything that their body needs. And you’ve had a lot of people who floundered.

P: It’s the same is dealing with crises in general, really, isn’t it?

M: Mmm hmm.

P: There are those people that deal with crisis better or deal with it in a proactive way in a positive.

M: Rise to the challenge.

P: Yeah, and it is. It’s the way you interpret it, as we’ve talked about before, stress is an interpretation. And some people will see a crisis as an opportunity to exercise their brain muscles or their opportunistic, outwardly going selves… don’t know where I was going with that.

M: Laugh.

P: I was reaching, totally reaching.

M & P: Laugh!

P: But yeah, it’s about looking at the situation going right, ‘I’m going to take this. I’m going to drive with this challenge and see where I end up’, as opposed to those who were running away from the tidal wave going, ‘No! Don’t come at me!’

M: Or those who don’t know that they have to take action and therefore end up in a situation that they didn’t know they needed to avoid.

P: Yes, they’re not enabled.

M: Yep, absolutely. And then, lastly, do you want to go now?

P: Yeah. I’m up to the page now, laugh.

M: You’re reading your notes.

P: I was reading Harry Potter before.

M & P: Laugh!

M: If you’re not going to be interested in our show, no one else will be.

P & M: Laugh!

P: You’ll be more successful, yay!

M: Yay, third benefit of a positive mindset. So, tell us what the science says here.

P: Well, compared to pessimists, optimists are more successful. They create social connections. They create communities, they engage with people which allows for more opportunities. They’re also more successful in issues such as marriages –

M: Marriage is an issue?

P: Issues? Yeah.

M: Laugh!

P: It’s an issue. Sure, why not?

M: I’m going to tell my husband he’s an issue. Laugh.

P: There’s a cat next to me. Of course, I’m getting flustered.

M & P: Laugh.

M: So, they’re more successful. There’s a great book by Shawn Achor that makes the case and shows the science behind optimists being more successful in school, at work and in athletics. So, people who are more positive just do better at life.

P: Mmm.

M: Not only at issues like marriage.

P: Laugh! Well, some marriages are an issue.

M & P: Laugh!

M: Very true. Maybe you don’t want to be successful at those.

P & M: Laugh.

M: Alright, so how can you build a positive mindset? Let’s get to our nine, our nine steps.

P: Oh, can we get to number nine first? Because that’s the fun one.

M: How about we leave that right for the end?

P: Aww, but it’s so good!

M: Laugh.

P: Stay tuned, folks. It’s gonna get better!

M: All right, number one, no brainer. It’s get good sleep.

P: Yes, we talked about this a lot. Just one hour of sleep deprivation has big impacts on our genetics on our ability to re-create cells, our regeneration, all those big things.

M: On our genes.

P: On our genes?

M: Not our genetics, they’re set from birth.

P: Uh, no, they do have some impact on … our genetic code.

M: On our genes.

P: Yes… Oh, I see I’m sorry. OK, I got it wrong, I’m just going to be quiet now.

M: Laugh! But we understand what you’re trying to say here.

P: Mmm hmm.

M: It impacts you right down to the cellular level.

P: There we go. Keep talking.

M: Yeah, also, I don’t know about you, but I am just grumpy as all get up after a bad night’s sleep.

P: Laugh.

M: I’m not fun to be around. And I find it really hard to be an optimist if I haven’t gotten enough sleep.

P: Mmm, yeah. Resilience is always low when you don’t have enough sleep as well. You’re just not firing on all cylinders. You’re not seeing opportunities. You’re not seeing those. You’re not resilient enough to actually turn things into an opportunity rather than going, ‘Oh my God, my life sucks!’

M: Yep, or falling apart. You lose your resilience. So global consulting firm McKinsey, has done a bit of work on this in the past few months, and they’re arguing that sleep is an important organisational topic that requires specific and urgent attention.

P: Mmm hmm.

M: And it is so true. We have this hyper connected, always on world and this expectation now that everything has gone digital, that people can answer a call or an email 24/7 and that constant low-level stress is impacting our sleep. And also, people are sending messages and emails at all times of the day and night.

P: Mmm yeah.

M: And we need to change that work culture in order to enable people to have better sleep.

P: Yeah, there’s a really good Ted talk on this by Matt Walker. If anyone wants to look it up, it talks a lot about sleep being your superpower.

M: Mmm,

P: Really good on this topic.

M: Absolutely. All right, number two.

P: Number two.

M: Limit social media.

P: Ooh, I love this one.

M: Yeah, you do. This is your favourite, isn’t it?

P: Yeah. Get off Facebook people.

M: Laugh.

P: It’s evil!

M: Even before Covid social media was well ingrained in most societies around the world. So, in Australia in January 2019, there are 18 million active users of social media websites. Facebook is the most popular with 16 million monthly users in the US, about 70% of adults say they use Facebook, and YouTube. And Instagram and Snapchat are growing in popularity.

P: Mmm.

M: It is such an important part of modern life, and I think people definitely feel FOMO [Fear of Missing Out]. They feel like they’re missing out if they’re not on these channels that everyone around them is using. But the problem is excessive social media use leads to increased depression, anxiety, loneliness, sleeplessness, and many other mental health issues.

P: Yep.

M: And so, if you want to be an optimist and positive, you really need to take control of that social media use and not let it control you and your moods.

P: Be an active user and not a passive user.

M: Yeah, absolutely. All right number three of ways to change your mindset.

P: [Mickey Mouse voice] Surround yourself with positive people, yay!

M: I think we’re doing well on this one.

P: Laugh! Like attracts like they say.

M: Yes.

P: So, bringing positive people into your sphere of influence means that you’re going to be more inclined to pick up on those vibrational, energetic connections. Oh, she’s getting down!

M & P: Laugh.

M: Talking energy.

P: Here we go, we’re going there. Cough-meditation-cough!

M: Laugh!

So, speaking about positive people, one of the best things that you can do with positive people is laugh.

P: Ah, yes. Laughter is contagious.

M: It is, it is. In a recent New York Times article, researchers found that people laugh five times as often when they’re with others, as when they’re alone.

P: Mmm hmm.

M: So, you’ll find if you’re watching a funny movie by yourself, you won’t laugh as much as if you’re watching a funny movie with friends or in a movie theatre. Because, as you mentioned, laughter is contagious.

P: See I’m the person that laughs out loud on his own.

M & P: Laugh!

M: But you won’t laugh as much as when other people are around.

P: True. I also laugh on public transport.

M: Laugh!

P: Maybe that’s my public laughter. I’ll just burst out… usually into song, but laughter as well.

M: Pete believes he’s in a musical.

P: My life is a musical.

M & P: Laugh!

M: The other thing to think about also is humour and the appreciation of humour. So, humour is one of the few things that is observed in all cultures and at all ages. And a lot of research has gone into humour more recently. And it’s one of the top five strengths of happy people, actually.

P: Ahh.

M: So, if you look at Martin Seligman and his work on strengths, you can actually do a lot of that online for free and work out what your strengths are. But if humour is one of your top five, you’re more likely to be happier and more likely to be an optimist.

P: So, Patch Adams was right.

M: Absolutely.

P: Humour is the best medicine. Or was that laughter is the best medicine?

M: Both? Both is fine.

P: We’ll take it.

M & P: Laugh.

M: All right. The next one is really important I think, especially when we talk about happiness and the importance of happiness. Really important, though number four, don’t suppress negative emotions.

P: Yep, they’re there for a reason.

M: Mmm hmm. One of the biggest misconceptions about the positive psychology movement is that people should always aim to be happy, and negative emotions are to be avoided. It’s a load of rubbish.

P: Yep, no. Can’t avoid them. They’re going to be there. They’re going to come up. You have to process them.

M: Absolutely. So, firstly, being happy all the time is impossible. We don’t live in a trouble-free world. And secondly, trying to suppress negative emotions can be really detrimental for mental health. So, the reality is, life is messy and sad and not what we expect and disappointing as well as good and beautiful and all of the other positive emotions. And we really need to make sure that we’re having an appropriate reaction to the situation.

P: Mmm yeah, that’s a good word. Appropriate.

M: Yeah, and that means processing negative events and emotions in a healthy way so you can move forward.

P: And having the skills to do that. And sometimes to have those skills, you need to do a little bit of work behind that.

M: Yep.

P: You actually need to spend some time contemplating, reading around it, going ‘how do I feel about grief? How do I feel about death? How am I going to process that when it comes to call or when it affects my life?’ And if you’ve done a little bit of that background work, it becomes a little bit easier to process your negative emotions and then by processing you get to the other side a little bit more easily.

M: Yeah, and two really good ways to help processes, journaling and talking to people, talking about it.

P: Yeah.

M: Number five.

P: Let’s exercise. [Starts singing] Let’s get physical, physical.

M & P: [Singing] I want to get physical.

P: [High pitched singing] Let’s get into physical!

M: Laugh!

P: There we go, musical theatre degree. Olivia was right.

M: Laugh, oh dear.

P: Movement and exercise if you didn’t get what that was about people.

M & P: Laugh.

P: Moving is good.

M: Absolutely.

P: Motion is lotion. Boom, Boom! Laugh. Thank you, Dan Horne.

M & P: Laugh.

M: So not only are there physical benefits to moving in exercise, but it’s great for your mood and your mental state. So, if you want to increase your positive vibes, if you want to become more of an optimist or increase your positive mindset, go get some exercise into your week or your day. And it doesn’t have to be a lot.

P: Nope.

M: But exercising releases dopamine nor-adrenaline and serotonin, and they’re all the happy drugs.

P: Happy drugs, laugh.

M: So, if we’re talking mindset and positive mindset, this is the fastest way to trick your brain into being happy.

P: Absolutely. You can do that really simply by getting yourself up and shaking the crap out of yourself, literally getting up and vibrating and throwing your arms around and getting really, really elevated with your heart rate.

M: Dance.

P: Actually, dance is one of the best ones. I wasn’t gonna go there because, you know I’m biased towards dance. But yeah, literally jumping up and down for 30 seconds is enough to actually get those endorphins going.

M: Yep, absolutely. All right, number six,

P: Learn something new.

M: I’ve got a quote.

P: Oh.

M: Einstein.

P: Mmm.

M: Mmm hmm. So, he famously said,

“The important thing is to never stop questioning.”

– [Albert Einstein]

M: And he was really smart.

P: Laugh! He was a scientist.

M: Don’t know if he was happy.

P & M: Laugh!

M: But I love the quote.

P: Laugh, he had crazy hair.

M: It is so important to add new things into your environment. So novel things. We’ve spoken about this before and learning a new skill or giving yourself something where you have autonomy and ownership over getting deeper experience and better skills at something is a great way to do that.

P: Mmm.

M: So, when we say learning, you could simply read a book or watch a documentary, you could listen to Ted talks. You could join a class. Or a course, you don’t have to go to a university degree there’s plenty of free classes out there and lots of micro learning nowadays as well. So, you could learn how to put floating shelves on your wall. Or you could go to your local TAFE and do a mechanics course and everything in between.

P: Yep, totally agree. I’m there, laugh.

M: And you know, you’ve just started back at university again, late life haven’t you.

P: Yep.

M: Does that –

P: Oh, huge amounts of mission and purpose.

M: Yep.

P: When we talk about mission and purpose is being one of the pillars of our happiness building. It’s so true because you wake up and you’ve got somewhere to go and somewhere to be, laugh.

M: I found one of the best parts of UNI was just the conversations you have. You have these new ideas running through your head and you’re wrapping your head around your values and how they fit into these new ideas and whether you believe them or not, and you’re forming your own ideas and bouncing them off other people.

It was one of the favourite things was sitting out in the quad on the grass, sometimes with the beer.

P: Laugh.

M: Often with a beer.

P & M: Laugh.

M: And debating these new ideas that we were discovering every day.

P: Yeah, I like the idea of it being reflective. It’s around your values and beliefs. I mean, that’s a great thing, because it does challenge your values and beliefs as well. And that’s a really great way to provide self-reflective practise.

M: Yep, and there are multiple studies and pieces of research that suggests that consistent curiosity goes hand in hand with happiness.

P: Yep.

M: Yep. All right, number seven.

P: Getting outdoors.

M: Ahh.

P: [Singing] Forest bathing.

M: Laugh. It’s the little things right. Taking a walk can have such a huge impact on your mental health and make you happier.

P: Yep, yeah. Go out and hug a tree. Sniff a leaf.

M: Yep. So, the studies show that brain structure and mood improved when we spend time outdoors, and this has positive implications for concentration, memory and overall psychological wellbeing. Also, when you get outdoors, it’s not only the trees and the air, but it’s also the light. So having more sunlight in your day has been shown to improve sleeplessness and mood. So, if you have insomnia, get outside.

P: Yeah, definitely.

M: Number eight.

P: Oh, you take this one. This is yours.

M: Gratitude!

P: Laugh.

M: Practise gratitude. And as we said before, it’s about rewiring your brain so that it’s not constantly focusing on the negative, and the science is really clear on this one. Practising gratitude makes you happier and less stress… Less stressed.

P: Laugh.

M: It leads to higher overall wellbeing satisfaction with your life and social relationships, so making it part of even just a weekly practise can give you all of those benefits and help you balance that negative way of thinking with some more positive and over time, that reinforces, and you start seeing more positive things in your day to day.

P: Yeah.

M: All right, Pete, and what’s your made up number nine?

P: It’s not made up, it’s backed by science.

M & P: Laugh.

P: Drink champagne! Laugh!

M: I think, I think this is my favourite way to improve your mindset.

P: So, a recent study came out in The Guardian in the UK that was talking about when we reach the alcohol, what it is that we’re doing. And studies showed that most people will have a drink when they’re actually feeling happier. So, alcohol can actually lead us to being a little bit more contented. Sure, there is the flip side of that where we do reach for the bottle as a negative coping mechanism for depression or grief or whatever.

But on the whole, most people will have a glass of wine or a beer in the day to increase their happiness.

M: Sorry. Just to be clear, the study showed that people are more likely to drink when they’re happy.

P: Yes.

M: Not the other way around. Not the flip way. So, there’s no causality. Yeah, there’s no causality here.

P: Champagne makes me happy.

M: Laugh.

P: I hear a pop and I’m ready, laugh.

M: Unless you’re Pete.

P & M: Laugh!

P: We don’t want to be encouraging people to be alcoholics.

M: No. [meaning yes] And if you’re feeling sad, reaching for the bottle isn’t going to make you happy.

P: No, that doesn’t work. If you’re already negative, then no.

M: So, I guess what we’re saying is, if you’re happy, you’re more likely to have a drink.

P: Don’t berate yourself if you’re going to have a glass of wine out in the sunshine when you’re out sniffing the trees or being in the ocean whilst expressing gratitude and having a sleep.

M & P: Laugh.

P: All the nine steps above. It’s okay, laugh.

M: And on that note, we’ll finish up for the week. Thanks for joining us again.

P: Have a happy week.

M: And stay cynical.

[Happy exit music – background] 

M: Thanks for joining us today if you want to hear more, please remember to subscribe and like this podcast and remember you can find us at www.marieskelton.com, where you can also send in questions or propose a topic. 

P: And if you like our little show, we would absolutely love for you to leave a comment or rating to help us out. 

M: Until next time. 

M & P: Choose happiness. 

[Exit music fadeout] 

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Top Positive Psychology Research in 2021

13/01/2022 by Marie

The Positive Psychology world suffered two great losses this year, first with Edward Diener who passed away in April and then Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi in October. Diener, otherwise known as Dr. Happiness, was recognized as a leader in measuring what he called “subjective well-being.” Csikszentmihalyi was a pioneer in the Positive Psychology space and introduced the concept of flow theory in the 1970’s. These losses were great but the legacies that these two larger than life figures left behind will live on in the Positive Psychology world for years to come. 

In what was a tough year all around, there was still plenty of hope and great research into how to live a happy life, which not only helped many of us to cope with an unprecedented global crisis, but also learn more about ourselves and what’s truly important in life.  

What we Have Learnt from the Pandemic 

COVID-19’s Impact on Mental Health Hasn’t Been All Bad (Psychology Today). The COVID-19 pandemic has caused mental distress, but it has also strengthened people’s mental health in many ways. New research shows how the crisis has increased mental health through three main processes. 

A Once-in-a-Lifetime Chance to Start Over (The Atlantic). It’s time to prepare for a new and better normal than your pre-pandemic life. 

Stumbling into the Next Stage of Your Pandemic Life (Greater Good Magazine). A therapist explores the psychology of coming back from the big pandemic pause. 

How to Make Your Post-Pandemic Happiness Last (GQ). Human happiness is surprisingly resistant to change—even to positive shifts. So as the pandemic wanes in the U.S., is it possible to make these good feelings stay? 

The 9 Silver Linings of the COVID-19 Pandemic (Psychology Today). Researchers found that the average sentiment of participants’ responses was positive when describing the pandemic’s silver linings. The results of the study may help people better heal from this crisis and be better prepared to respond to potential future crises. 

Research Suggests Positive Forward-Thinking Safeguards Mental Health During Lockdowns (Mental Health Today). We all might feel nostalgic for a time when we weren’t confined to our homes or had rules imposed upon us in public spaces; however new research from the University of Surrey suggests that if we forget about 2020 or even our current lockdown state in 2021 and look forward to the future, our mental wellbeing will presently be more resilient. 

Plan to Find Happiness 

Frequent travel could make you 7% happier (Science Daily). People dreaming of travel post-COVID-19 now have some scientific data to support their wanderlust. A new study shows frequent travellers are happier with their lives than people who don’t travel at all. 

How Trip Planning and Happiness Are Directly Correlated (Psychology Today). Research reveals that planning future travel may boost mood and mindset. 

What Is Transformational Travel? Holidaying With A Purpose Is The New Switching Off (Bazaar). Explore how the power of trips taken with consciousness can emanate positivity, personal growth, and mental wellness for all. 

Be Curious and Learn 

Learning Boosts Happiness, New Study Suggests (Sci News). New research from University College London suggests that how we learn about the world around us can be more important for how we feel than rewards we receive directly. 

Curiosity and Happiness Go Hand in Hand (The Philadelphia Inquirer). As Einstein said: The important thing is to never stop questioning. Research suggests that consistent curiosity goes hand in hand with happiness.  

Happiness can be Learned Through Meditation, Philosophy and Training (Medical Xpress). Is it possible to learn to be happier? Well, it seems it is—at least according to a scientific study coordinated by the University of Trento and carried out in collaboration with Sapienza University of Rome, now published in Frontiers in Psychology. 

The Wonder Stuff: What I Learned About Happiness from a Month of ‘Awe Walks’ (The Guardian). Feeling down? You need to experience more awe, psychologists say. So, I set off every day to explore my local area, leaving my phone behind. 

Green is Good 

Green Space Around Primary Schools May Improve Students’ Academic Performance (The Conversation). Greenery around primary schools may improve students’ academic performance, while traffic pollution may be detrimental, our study shows.  

Spending Time Outdoors Has a Positive Effect on Our Brains (Neuroscience News). Brain structure and mood improve when people spend time outdoors. This has positive implications for concentration, memory, and overall psychological wellbeing. 

The Built Environment Impacts Our Health and Happiness More Than We Know (Arch Daily). The built environment is directly linked with happiness and well-being, and too often urban environments fail to put people at ease. 

Nature-Based Activities Can Improve Mood and Reduce Anxiety (Neuroscience News). Participating in nature-based activities including exercise, gardening, and conservation, helps improve mood and reduce anxiety for those with mental health problems. 

Birds and Bees ‘Secret Weapons’ to Raising Happiness Levels (Belfast Telegraph). Studies show that increasing people’s connection with nature boosts happiness. 

Embrace your Inner DJ 

20 Surprising, Science-Backed Health Benefits of Music (USA Today). Research suggests that music not only helps us cope with pain — it can also benefit our physical and mental health in numerous other ways. Read on to learn how listening to tunes can ramp up your health. 

The Unsung Secret to Stability and Happiness During The Pandemic (ZDNet). It’s been a hard year, but at least many people have found a reliable way to reduce stress and increase happiness. Netflix is great and exercise is important, but music, it turns out, has made a positive difference in the lives of many during an often-bleak and perpetually uncertain pandemic year. 

Coping With COVID-19 Stress Through Music (Neuroscience News). Study reports people who experienced an increase in negative emotion during lockdown listened to music to relieve feelings of depression, stress, and fear. Those with a more positive state of mind turned to music as a replacement for social interaction. 

Work for Meaning, Purpose and Happiness  

The ‘Great Realization’ has Inspired People to Seek Happiness in Their Jobs and Careers (Forbes). A study of work happiness commissioned by Indeed, the large job aggregation site, and conducted by Forrester, delved into how we feel about our jobs and careers. 

Why Work Is More Than Just a Job (Psychology Today). We have been conditioned to think of work primarily as a source of income. The truth is, our job can have a powerful effect on our psychological well-being. Acknowledging the benefits of work can help us better shape our careers. 

The Great Resignation is Here: How to Find Purpose in The Next Stage of Your Career (Forbes). By now, you’ve likely heard about the Great Resignation. Due to the pandemic, changes in work-life balance, childcare and other factors, an estimated 40% of the global workforce is considering changing jobs in 2021. Anecdotal evidence and data suggest that it has much to do with our values and feeling aligned with our purpose. 

How Self-Determination Can Boost Satisfaction at Work (Psychology Today). Self-Determination Theory provides a framework for understanding changes in work motivation. Motivation often decreases when core psychological needs have not been met. Work structures that support autonomy, competence, and relatedness can facilitate motivation and productivity. 

Get the Best Sleep 

The Organizational Cost of Insufficient Sleep (McKinsey). In an increasingly hyperconnected world, in which many companies now expect their employees to be on call and to answer emails 24/7, sleep is an important organizational topic that requires specific and urgent attention. 

Mindfulness Training Helps Kids Sleep Better (Stanford Medicine). At-risk children gained more than an hour of sleep per night after participating in a mindfulness curriculum at their elementary schools, a study from the Stanford University School of Medicine found.  

Natural Light May be Key to Improving Mood and Reducing Insomnia (Neuroscience News). More time spent outside in natural light was associated with improved mood, better sleep quality, and ease of waking. 

Laugh! 

How Laughing at Yourself Can Be Good for Your Well-Being (Psychology Today). Laughing at oneself is healthy when it is not motivated by self-demeaning drives. People who engage in excessive self-defeating humour may be trying to hide underlying emotional problems. Self-directed laughter can remind us of our humanness and promote positive interpersonal interactions. 

Laugh more, live better (McKinsey & Company). Naomi Bagdonas and Connor Diemand-Yauman, lecturers at Stanford’s Graduate School of Business, hilariously explore the power at the intersection of humour, business, and leadership. It’s no joke. 

Seriously Funny: Humour is a Character Strength (Neuroscience News). Researchers say the use and appreciation of humour is positive for overall wellbeing and psychological health. Humour is observed in all cultures and at all ages. But only in recent decades has experimental psychology respected it as an essential, fundamental human behaviour. 

A Little Laughter Decreases Stress and Improves Productivity (Forbes). Paul Osincup is a positivity strategist and his mission is to create workplace happiness. He does this with his humorous and inspirational style of teaching and speaking. According to Osincup, “Humour is the new mindfulness.” You can actually train your brain to see and experience humour more often. 

Viewing Memes Online Increases Positive Emotions, Helps Cope with Pandemic (Penn State). Viewing memes online may increase positive emotions which can help improve one’s confidence in the ability to cope with life during a pandemic. The recently published study also showed that people who viewed memes with COVID-19-related captions reported lower levels of COVID-related stress than did those who saw a non-COVID caption. 

Share the Love! 

There’s a Specific Kind of Joy We’ve Been Missing (The New York Times). Research has found that people laugh five times as often when they’re with others as when they’re alone. Peak happiness lies mostly in collective activity. 

Hard Times Make for Stronger Bonds and Greater Happiness: Here’s Why That Matters (Forbes). You’ve heard it before: Going through hard times is one of the things that can create bonds between people. In fact, the more difficult the experience, the more bonding that may occur. And a global pandemic certainly qualifies as a condition for strengthening bonds.  

Getting Beyond Small Talk: People Enjoy Deep Conversations with Strangers (NeuroScience News). People overestimate feelings of awkwardness when talking to strangers and underestimate the enjoyment of deep, meaningful conversations with those we have just met. 

Selflessness and Feeling in Harmony with Others Coincides with Greater Happiness (PsyPost). A study published in the Journal of Individual Differences suggests there’s more to happiness than feeling satisfied with one’s life. The study found that experiencing the self as interdependent coincided with increased happiness through feeling greater harmony with others. 

Why we Missed Hugs (The Conversation). Similar to regular hunger, touch hunger serves as an alert that something important is missing – in this case, the sense of security, intimacy, and care that comes with tactile contact. 

Express Yourself 

Twirl to Happiness: Does Dance Therapy Hold Promise for Treating Anxiety and Depression? (Economic Times). Researchers understand that the majority of our daily communication is nonverbal, and traumatic memories are encoded, or stored, in nonverbal parts of the brain. 

What is it That Makes Baking Such a Soothing, Evocative Pastime? (Happiful). So, what it is that makes baking such an effective mindfulness tool, and how can we harness this to support our mental health? With help from a counsellor, and the people who have explored this connection for themselves, we’re asking the rising question: what happens when you add baking into the wellbeing mix? 

How you Decorate Your Home can Impact your Happiness (Women’s Health). Google partnered with the Arts & Mind Lab at Johns Hopkins University to explore the impact of sensory input on our minds and bodies. They designed three different rooms, and participants wore bands to track their physiological responses as they moved through each room. 

Why Doing Something Different Can Boost Well-Being (Psychology Today). A neuroscience-based method to improve happiness. Experiential diversity—going to new or different places and doing different things—can boost well-being, research suggests. 

The Benefits of Texting Your Gratitude (Psychology Today). Research suggests that expressing gratitude by texting may be just as beneficial as an in-person show of appreciation. 

Art for Happiness – How Culture can Keep us Healthy and Sane (Mostly) (Evening Standard). The Wellcome Collection is exploring happiness in its new dual exhibitions, but what role can museums and culture play in maintaining our mental health? 


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Does Volunteering Make Us Happier? (E95)

29/11/2021 by Marie

Happiness for Cynics podcast

International Volunteer Day, 5 Dec, is a great opportunity to remind you that volunteering can have a huge impact on your happiness levels! 

Show notes

4 Ways Volunteering Makes Us Happier 

1. It connects you with other people 

2. It’s great for your mental health 

3. It’s great for your physical health  

4. It can help your career  

Transcript

[Happy intro music -background]  

M: Welcome to happiness for cynics and thanks for joining us as we explore all the things I wish I’d known earlier in life but didn’t. 

P: This podcast is about how to live the good life. Whether we’re talking about a new study or the latest news or eastern philosophy, our show is all about discovering what makes people happy. 

M: So, if you’re like me and you want more out of life, listen in and more importantly, buy in because I guarantee if you do, the science of happiness can change your life.   

P: Plus, sometimes I think we’re kind of funny.

[Intro music fadeout]  

P: …Oh, I’m red-lining. Hello, viewers. …Viewers! Listeners, laugh. I have not had a glass of Rose.

M: I’m not going to say anything. Keep going, Pete.

P: Laugh.

M: Welcome to the show everyone. 😊

P: Hi! Hi hi hi.

M: This is Marie and Pete –

P: Laugh!

M: – and Peanut butter and Jelly, the two cats.

P: Aww, we’ve referenced them, yay. Marie was all worried that her cats were making too much noise. I’m like, ‘It’s fine. Go with it! Run with it, reference it, –

M: Laugh.

P: – it’ll be amusing!’

M: It’s a family show, and I did find out this week that Biden has pardoned the usual turkeys in honour of Thanksgiving, and their names were Peanut butter and Jelly.

P: Laugh! Pardoned them?

M: Yes, so they don’t get killed for Thanksgiving. They go back and live free and happy lives on the farm.

P: He chooses two turkeys?

M: I think it’s normally one.

P: Oh.

M: I don’t know.

P: He’s being generous this year.

M: I don’t know enough; I should have read into this. I really need to research more about the things that I randomly mention on this show.

P: Laugh! Oh god. If we did that, we’d be here forever!

M: Laugh.

P: And I’d never shut up.

M: It would be a very stilted conversation, wouldn’t it?  

P: Laugh, it wouldn’t be good. And I’d be called on all my crap, laugh!

M: Yes, laugh.

P: Yeah so, I’ve been going since eight o’clock this morning.

M: My brain feels fried.

P: Ahh.

M: I’ve put a lot of my brain towards thinking today.

P: Oh.

M: Having said that, we did all of our prep for today’s show before today.

P: Laugh.

M: So, you’ll get solid research.

P: Solid research, very statistical data, very scientific data –

M: Very scientific.

P: – with no vagal tone being mentioned.

M: Laugh, very scientific. We’re moving on from that.

P: Laugh. So, what are we talking about this week, Marie?

M: Well, coming up on the 5th of December is International Volunteer Day.

P: Yay! Everybody go out and do something fun!

M: And that’s the point. Volunteering for a lot of people is something that you do because you have to, because ‘Mum said so.’

P: Oh! It’s so much more than that. And we’ve talked about this before in one of our very early episodes, way back when we were young, and green, and keen, and

M: bright eyed and bushy tailed?

P: Oh, I know! I was like a little squirrel. Squirreling, squirreling up the tree!

M: Mush… mush in our heads right now people.

P: Pootle. I meant to say pootle. Pootle is a good word.

M: …So, I say ‘absolutely’ too much, and you say ‘clock’.

P: I’m not using the C word anymore. Snigger.

M: Well, I don’t agree with the C word.

P: Laugh!

M: It’s quite offensive and sexist.

P: Laugh. So, it’s the ‘P’ word now, pootle-ing.

M: My new favourite verb. Thank you, Pete, for bringing that to our attention.

P: Laugh.

M: We will be doing far more pootle-ing from here on out.

P: Lots of pootle-ing. Pootle-ing and pootle-ing on Volunteering Day.

M: So, I have no idea what we’re talking about. But when we were wide eyed and bushy tailed, we did discuss volunteering. We’re gonna circle back on it because it’s that time of year and it is such an important catch all.

P: Mmm.

M: Really, for mental health and happiness.

P: And it’s also one of those things that you don’t realise how beneficial it is until you actually do it.

M: It’s the blueberry of happiness.

P: Oh! The blueberry of happiness!

M: It’s the superfood.

P: Wow! Laugh. Can I be broccoli?

M: Broccoli is not a superfood.

P: [Gasp] Oh! How dare you.

M: Because no one likes broccoli.

P: I like broccoli.

M: They like blueberries.

P: I’m going to be on the fence on that one.

M: Ok.

P: Give me a steamed broccoli and I’m good.

M: Right, well volunteering is the broccoli blueberry of food.

P: Laugh!

M: So good for you? And it ticks so many boxes.

P: It does.

M: So today we’re going to talk about four ways of volunteering that make us happier.

P: Oh! What’s number one?

M: Numero uno.

P: Tell me? Tell me? Tell me? Tell me?

M: It connects you with other people.

P: Ah! Good old, social pillar.

M: Yes.

P: What are the three pillars that we stand on? One of them is social connection people.

M: Social connection, meaning and purpose, which volunteering can also give you. And the third is health and happiness, which… [drumroll] guess what we’ll be talking about soon.

P & M: Laugh!

M: But back to social connection.

P: Social connection, because why? Un-social people die!

M & P: Laugh!

M: So, let’s get into the studies because there’s some really cool studies on volunteering.

P: Well, you’ve got quite a number on this one.

M: I have.

P: I’m quite impressed on your study.

M: My research.

P: Yeah.

M: So, let’s go straight to someone who is bound to be credible with the cynics… An economist.

P: Laugh.

M: So, economists Steven Meier and Alois Stutzer released a study way back in 2004 which concluded that

“Volunteering constitutes one of the most important pro-social activities and helping others is the way to higher individual wellbeing.”

P: I like that, higher individual well-being.

M: They found robust evidence, –

P: Ooh!

M: – not just evidence but robust evidence, that volunteers are more satisfied with their life than non-volunteers. 

P: I’ve got an example of this.

M: Enlighten me.

P: The Country Women’s Association.

M: Oh, it is. It is such a… like It’s a tribe. It’s crew. It’s a gang.

P: Laugh!

M: It’s scary.

P: Laugh! So, for our overseas listeners, the CWA is, for those of you in the UK, it’s the Women’s Institute.

M: Oh.

P: I’m not sure of the American Association that is the equivalent of the CWA. It stands for Country Women’s Association.

M: And they have them down south.

P: In America?

M: It is the pearl wearing, cardigan wearing country ladies’ societies. They do fundraising, and they look after the community.

P: Yes.

M: They come together and do bake sales when someone’s sick or you know they’ll, they’ll drop off a lasagne if someone’s in hospital or etcetera.

P: Laugh, yes.

M: They’ll knit booties for the new baby on the block or whatever it is.

P: Mmm.

M: So, they’re the life blood of these communities.

P: Absolutely. I mean, I come from rural Australia and my mum should have been the president of our CWA because CWA, it’s a really good organisation where these women come together, and they literally choose a charity. It’s like, ‘Who can we help this week? Who is in need of assistance?’ And it’s this lovely organisation where they can be quite large.

M: Mmm hmm.

P: I mean in the hundreds.

M: Yeah.

P: To form a community organisation and their powerful. These women hold power, I mean they can influence elections.

M: Mmm.

P: Simply by swapping a lamington recipe.

M & P: Laugh.

P: So, they had this way of being able to bring people together, or organise connections, possibly of their husbands, who one might be a farmer, the other one might be a politician. Bringing those people together because they bring them into the house, or they bring them into the home.

M: They host.

P: Exactly.

M: They’re the social lubrication.

P: Oh! Oh, I just got moist. Laughter!

M: Not that kind of lubrication, Peter!

P: Laugh, sorry.

M: My mum was with an organisation called Quota, which does something very similar.

P: Oh, yeah, yeah.

M: And for a very long time, she used to go down to the local club, the Southern Cross Club in Woden in Canberra, and she used to have conversations with migrants.

P: Ah, perfect.

M: So, they’d come in, have a cup of tea.

P: Yep.

M: It was free tea and coffee down at the local club. Sit down, and for an hour or two they just talk about everything and anything in English.

P: So brilliant!

M: So that they could practise their speaking skills and meet people.

P: Yeah.

M: And get out of the house and form other friendships.

P: Yep.

M: Such a simple, simple thing. And it led my mum to making friendships with people as well that she wouldn’t have otherwise met.

P: Mmm, yep.

M: That was really poor grammar or whatever I said just then.

P: Laugh.

M: But you get my point.

P: Absolutely. Like you see Mammut down at the local supermarket and you’re like, ‘Oh hi Mammut, remember me I’m Beryl’, that connection is really important.

M: Mmm, absolutely.

P: And if someone is struggling, it’s like I know this person. I can help. I have a connection with them already. It’s something good about integration, I fully support the CWA, they are a burgeoning society.

M: So, back to volunteering.

P: Sorry.

M: It does connect you with other people.

P: Yes.

M: And so, whether you’re in an organisation like CWA or Quota, or whether you volunteer at the RSPCA and pets are more your style, not people.

P: Yeah, exactly. Laugh, socially awkward.

M: There is still also something that gets you out of the house and speaking to other people.

P: Precisely.

M: And there’s so much value in that.

P: Absolutely.

M: All right. Number two.

P: Tell me?

M: It is great for your mental health.

P: Another pillar of our…

M: Mmm hmm. Half of pillar three.

P: Well, we can’t call it a house, ‘cause that need four pillars, four supports? Trapezoidal?

M: Well now they’ve got, like, buses that are houses.

P: On three legs?

M: What about tents and Tepees? That could be threes.

P: Yeah, that could be threes. The yurt.

M: And we digress again.

P & M: Laugh!

M: We will revert back to yurts another time.

P: Laugh!

M: So mental health.

P: Still laughing!

M: So, our brains are wired for social connection and whenever we help others, our brains release the pleasure hormones.

P: Whoo! Where’s some Barry White.

M & P: Laugh!

P: Let’s get it on!

M: So, I love this study that was done in 2018 by Sonja Lyubomirsky and her colleagues.

P: Oh! We love Sonja.

M: I’m sorry, Sonja’s colleagues, but I know Sonja’s name.

P: Laugh! We’ve practised Sonja’s name a few times.

M: So, they published in the American Psychological Association Journal about a study they did on workers in a Spanish company, and they assigned them different roles. Some of them had to give out acts of kindness.

P: I remember this one, yeah.

M: Yep, And the results show that practising everyday pro-sociality is what they call it. So being nice and kind is both emotionally reinforcing and contagious, and it inspires kindness in others.

P: Absolutely.

M: But not only that, they found that not only the people receiving it get a benefit, but the people giving get a benefit too.

P: They get more of a benefit apparently.

M: Absolutely. So that’s the first thing. So, volunteering comes back to you two fold.

P: Yep.

M: And then there was another study in the UK that found that volunteering leads to a positive change in mental well-being, so people who volunteer become happier over time. And then a Harvard study showed that volunteering at least once a week yields improvements to well-being equivalent to your annual salary doubling.

P: Now that speaking to the money man.

M: Mmm hmm.

P: Who doesn’t want more money? Laugh.

M: Could you imagine how happy you’d be if they doubled your income tomorrow?

P: Absolutely, you’d be like, ‘Oh, my goodness, that’s amazing. What can I do?’

M: But we now know that you would adjust to that level and expect more the next year.

P: Laugh!

M: But volunteering is an increase to your happiness levels that’s maintained over time. This is what we talk about when we talk about the difference between getting a pay rise, getting a bigger car being on that hedonic treadmill.

P: Yeah, laugh.

M: Versus, doing the things that day in, day out they contribute to higher sustained levels of happiness.

P: Yep.

M: So volunteering is in that second bucket.

P: And the sustainability of volunteering is actually larger than giving someone $20 or something. Just donating. Like actually, volunteering has a longer effect from the studies that we’ve done previously. That effect of happiness is much more longer lasting.

M: Yep, absolutely. Particularly if you do something like this, Harvard study said.

P: Yep.

M: Once a week, go volunteer for Little League training or coach at your local club or mentor a disadvantaged youth for become a Big Brother.

P: Mmm, yes.

M: There are so many different organisations out there that are doing amazing work and a lot of the times they will help to train you up as well.

P: Yes.

M: And give you real skills.

P: Which leads to, oh I jumped in there! I pre-empted, laugh.

M: You could see where I was going.

P: Laugh!

M: It’s like we’ve done this before, Pete.

P: No, never. Laugh. [Whisper] We haven’t rehearsed a thing.

M: So, number three; Can help your career.

P: Yes, I can fully support this one. I had years of volunteering at my local volleyball club, which is where I met a rather fabulous woman sitting to my right. Laugh.

M: I thought you were gonna say where you met Wally.

P: Laugh. Oh Wally! Good old Wally. Wally the big, muscly, German.

M: Laugh.

P: He was a very impressive man when I first met him, I was like ‘Oh, my God. Who are you?’ Umm… Hi, Wal if you’re listening.

M: Giggle.

P: But, it really does have a huge impact on your work. I volunteered for the volleyball club and all of a sudden, I was writing spreadsheets and I was arranging events and I’ve never done any of this before.

M: Oh, you took it all in stride.

P: And then totally jumped in. And then all of a sudden, that boiled over into my career and I started arranging schedules and spreadsheets and calculations and so forth for my business, and it wasn’t even a conscious decision. It just happened because I knew how to do it. That skill set is still serving me today on so many different levels of being able to arrange my study schedule for university. I’m waiting for the Physio Socks Society to actually grab me.

M: Laugh.

P: I’m like, ‘No, I don’t know anything. I can’t do anything to help. You’re not going to pick me up.’

M: Laugh.

P: And if any of my physio students are listening to this go away.

M & P: Laugh.

P: I don’t have time. Laugh. But it is. It’s so beneficial in terms of developing your skill set.

M: And a lot of organisations will also put serious energy into training volunteers. So, I know organisations like Lifeline that do over the phone counselling will put many, many hours’ worth of training and effort into up-skilling their volunteers.

P: Yeah, mmm.

M: And a lot of those volunteers stay with them for decades.

P: Yeah, and it leads to a lot of other opportunities within organisations as well.

M: Yep.

P: I’ve got someone in mind that I know that wants to get into support counselling and so forth and that’s…

M: A perfect way.

P: A perfect avenue, yeah.

M: So, it’s not only perfectly to gain skills, it’s also a perfect way to test out a potential career switch as well.

P: Yeah, yeah. Totally.

M: It’s like an unpaid internship.

P: Mmm.

M: Not only do you gain new skills or the skills that you might need in a new role if you’re considering that, but you also get to network with people in your industry and it might be your future boss or put you in touch with your future boss.

P: Yep, yep. Yeah, I fully support that one it’s such, uh, if your feelings stayed and board in your job, volunteer and be open to those of your opportunities. That’s the other aspect of that equation, making sure that you will remain open. I digress.

M: It also. No, you don’t digress that was right on topic.

P: Oh, yay. Good!

M: I’ll finish this one out. So, it’s also back to foundation number two. It’s also a huge source of meaning and purpose and life satisfaction.

P: Mmm.

M: And a lot of us were promised these amazing lives and were told to chase our dreams. Or we’re just simply told to go for the career and the degree that would give you the most –

P: The recipe for a good life?

M: – give you the most money.

P: Yep.

M: You know. Go be a lawyer or an accountant or an actuary.

P: Stability, yep.

M: And then you’re bored out of your mind in your job. But you’ve got a mortgage and a family, and it’s a good income. And so, a lot of the ways that we can bring that, that passion for life back again is via these other commitments that aren’t work.

P: Mmm, yes.

M: Any attempts to bring you closer to a job you’re passionate about are well worth the effort. Or even if it’s just Saturday afternoons and you’re finding your passion there, that can really lift your wellbeing overall.

P: Mmm, mmm.

M: And lastly, in this category, the research shows that volunteers have higher incomes. So, according to Professor Stijn Baert,

“This finding corroborates with previous research showing that volunteering activities on ones CV yield higher employment opportunities, especially for non-natives.”

P: Ahh.

M: So, if you’re a migrant, go in and volunteer straight away.

P: That’s interesting.

M: Start building that CV out and show that you’re contributing to community. You’re more likely to get jobs out of it, and you’re more likely to get higher pay out of it.

P: Mmm.

M: And all right, we’ll move to the last one, which is the second half of the third pillar. So, back to healthy mind and body. We’ve jumped around a bit.

P: Laugh.

M: It’s great for your physical health.

P: Yes.

M: So, let’s.

P: Laugh. Well, it sparks off a physicality within us. I mean, it’s sparks off a certain…

M: It gets you out of the house.

P: Yeah, it’s an energy. You feel engaged, and that has so much to do with our brain activity and stimulating the different areas of our brain and getting that motivation to actually, ‘Oh, maybe I will go through a little jog or something, because I’m focused and I’m engaged’, and there are so many other things that are going on that it helps to propel you forward into so many other avenues.

M: Once you’ve dealt with the mental health, positive mental health aspects, it definitely does improve your motivation.

P: Mmm.

M: As we all know, when things like Covid hit and make it very apparent. There’s this thing called incidental movement.

P: Yes, Aarghh.

M: And before Covid hit, a lot of us would get up in the morning, shower, dress, walk out the house, get on the bus or get in the car, get to a train, walk between car parks or bus stops, etcetera.

P: Mmm hmm.

M: Up into the office. And then we’d go into the kitchen at some point mid-morning, we’d walk over to the bathroom.

P: Yep.

M: All of that’s incidental movement.

P: Mmm.

M: And when Covid hit are incidental movement dropped to a five-metre radius.

P & M: Laugh.

P: Yep.

M: Right, and a lot of people had negative health impacts from that.

P: Hugely.

M: And that also again, tightly linked with mental health. Right?

P: Definitely.

M: And what we find, particularly with retirees, is when you take away that morning reason to get up and get out of the house. They do what a lot of us did in covid.

P: Yep.

M: And again, unless you’re really aware of it and in tune to it, you can end up experiencing the exact same mental health implications and physical health implications as covid when you retire.

P: Yep.

M: So, you don’t have a reason to get up, you start sleeping in more. You might start drinking a little bit more or not looking after yourself as much, not moving all of that.

P: Yep.

M: So, volunteering gets you up and out of the house. It gives you a reason to move and put even just that basic, minimal level of daily movement back into your day. So that’s the first thing.

P: Yep.

M: So not only that, but then the science shows that the movement and volunteering in general has also been shown to help lessen symptoms of chronic pain and reduce risk of heart disease. So, all of this is interlinked as well, just getting that movement into your day.

P: Mmm.

M: But also, depending on what the volunteering activity is, you might be adding even more movement into your day as well. Not just the getting to and from.

P: Yeah, well, it’s things like volunteering for an organisation that might put housing opportunities together so you might be moving a couch for someone or going and doing someone’s windows or –

M: Mowing lawns.

P: – yeah, all that sort of stuff. Yeah, it does have a certain physicality to it. The heart disease one is an interesting one. I mean, that comes from –

M: – lower stress, better mental health outcomes, all tied to heart disease as well. So, there is again the cross links in here.

P: Yeah.

M: Everything is connected.

P: Yeah.

M: And then we’re nearly finished. So, last study in 2017 researchers looked at data on volunteering, employment, and health of more than 40,000 European citizens, and they found that volunteers are as healthy as non-volunteers who are five years younger.

P: Five years younger!

M: So, if you want to look five years younger.

P: No need for the Botox. Go and get a little dosage of volunteering.

M & P: Laugh.

M: So obviously, there’s so much in here about causality and all of that. So, I will say that the researchers controlled for other determinants of health, like gender, age, education level, et cetera. And they found, still, despite all of that, the volunteers were still in substantially better health than non-volunteers.

P: Mmm, yeah.

M: Now it is fair to say, and it is true to say that people with higher incomes tend to volunteer more often, and people with higher incomes have better health outcomes. More often, however, they looked at all of that and conclusively volunteering has a positive impact on our health.

P: Thank you randomised control trials.

M: Laugh. They did it all proper.

P: Yeah.

M: Alright, I’m not going to do this last quote because we are well over time. But as always, it’s been a pleasure.

P: Laugh. It’s been emotional.

M & P: Laugh!

M: And on that note. We’ll see you next week. Have a happy week.

P: Bye!

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M: Until next time.

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Work-Life Balance and The Great Resignation (E91)

01/11/2021 by Marie

Happiness for Cynics

This week, Marie and Pete talk about ‘The Great Resignation’ and how many people are looking for a better, more fulfilling work-life balance.

Show notes

Article in THE CONVERSATION on Work-Life Balance by Lis Ku, Senior Lecturer in Psychology, De Montfort University  

Work-life balance: what really makes us happy might surprise you

Transcript

[Happy intro music -background] 

M: Welcome to happiness for cynics and thanks for joining us as we explore all the things I wish I’d known earlier in life but didn’t.  

P: This podcast is about how to live the good life. Whether we’re talking about a new study or the latest news or eastern philosophy, our show is all about discovering what makes people happy.  

M: So, if you’re like me and you want more out of life, listen in and more importantly, buy in because I guarantee if you do, the science of happiness can change your life.  

P: Plus, sometimes I think we’re kind of funny. 

[Intro music fadeout] 

P: And we’re back.

M: And we’re back. How’s it going?

P: Oh, very well. Very well, you know, it’s a lovely spring stormy weather in October in Sydney and we’ve had thunderstorms and rain and all sorts of interesting things going on. But we are, we are out and about here in Sydney.

M: Freedom!

P: Laughter, which is lovely, even though I haven’t changed a single thing yet. I haven’t had a coffee in a cafe yet or anything like that.

M: Me neither.

P: But I can if I choose.

M: But it’s been horrible weather this week.

P: Laugh.

M: You know that photo at the end of World War two of the soldier kissing the young lady in the streets as everyone celebrates freedom.

P: Yeah, yep.

M: That has been top of mind this week for me. I feel like we’re celebrating the end of a war or some horrible period in our lives.

P: Interesting, laugh.

M: And ironically, I’ve done nothing different this week. I’ve worked from home.

P: Laugh.

M: We did have dinner, though. Last night, actually.

P: We did. We had more than five people in the house, which felt lovely because it was a birthday. Happy birthday, Michael.

M: Happy birthday Michael. But aside from that, not really much has changed, laugh.

P: Well, I was walking around the streets near my work on Monday, which was our first day of release here in Sydney, and it did feel odd. There were tables on the streets again. Everything was open.

M: Mmm hmm.

P: Oddly, the second hand clothing store was busy as anything –

M: Laugh.

P: – which I thought was hilarious, laugh.

M: ‘Cause everyone’s put on the covid 10 [pounds], laugh.

P: Laugh, yes. But it was, it was almost a surreal feeling of going, ‘Oh, that’s right. This was –

M: Normal.

P: What was normal before and there was a real… There was a happiness, dare I say it pun intended, and walking out of work that night and seeing people in the pub sitting around having a glass of wine and seeing separate groups of people sitting.

M: Seeing crowds.

P: Yeah.

M: I went to the shops the other day and I felt a bit claustrophobic or crowded.

P: Laugh.

M: You know? It feels… there’s a real lightness and party and volume of people out.

P: Which is great when you’ve had a period of denial. It’s the lovely release afterwards. It’s like, Yeah, we can do whatever we want! Well, within reason.

M: We’ll see. We’ll see if pay for this freedom.

P: Laugh.

M: But it is, it is wonderful to be feeling this finally in Australia.

P: Yeah.

M: We are lagging many other countries from that point of view, but overall have really managed covid quite well from a illness and death perspective.

P: Yes, we’re very fortunate here.

M: So that’s, that’s the price that we’ve paid, I think.

P: Yeah, definitely. But on another note, congratulations are in order.

M: Aww… Shucks 😊

P: I am sitting here in the presence of a certified Happiness Trainer, laugh!

M: Happiness practitioner, thank you. Laugh!

P: Happiness Practitioner. I’m sorry, let’s get the title right. This week Marie finished her course. Her first course happiness.

M: Not my first. I’ve done a range of other little bits and bobs, but this was a full year course.

P: This was a big one, wasn’t it?

M: Yeah, this was a big one. And now I’m… you know, life is too short, I have too many pipe dreams and I don’t know which one I’m gonna… you know, pursue next. But in my mind is how can I open a Sydney Happiness Centre?

P: Laugh, I’d love to see what a happiness centre looks like. Just fluffy things to fall on lots of furs and you know, tactile –

M: Well, happiness is subjective, isn’t it?

P: Oh, yes.

M: So, it would be a very flexible space with a lot of diversity and activities. Anyway, we are four minutes in –

P: Laugh.

M: – and have a great topic to talk about something that I’ve been watching really closely. We’re talking about work-life balance and the great resignation. And we are looking at this because of a great article on the conversation by a senior lecturer in psychology at De Montfort University, Lis Ku. And she’s had a look at how our expectations, work-life balance, have evolved over covid.

P: Mmm hmm.

M: And all of us, in Corporate world in particular, anyone who’s on linked-in with any frequency would have seen that there is this phenomenon around the world that Corporates are watching, which is called the Great Resignation.

P: Sounds like the Great Depression or something like that.

M: It is.

P: Is it a global movement?

M: Absolutely.

P: Oh, wow.

M: Australia is lagging a little bit because we’ve only just started opening up and we’re only starting to find a new normal. Whereas in the UK, they locked down, I think, in 2020 and never went back, laugh.

P: Yeah.

M: The US did a similar sort of thing. They’ve been fully open for a while now, and what all these large Corporates are finding is that people are sick of them.

P: Laugh.

M: Sick of it, done.

P: I’m done. I’m leaving. I’m leaving the building. I’m taking my ball and going home, laugh.

M: Yeah, exactly.

P: Laugh.

M: And to the point that – generally, when people quit their jobs, they would have lined up something else.

P: Ok.

M: But people are so annoyed or over it, or they’ve had this pent-up, you know, dissatisfaction with their employer for the last 18 months and haven’t been sure about the economy and have stayed longer than they normally would have.

P: Ok.

M: And they’re so frustrated now that they’re leaving without even having another job lined up.

P: Mmm.

M: And that’s the unusual part here.

P: Is that in part due to the fact that there’s been a shakeup of priorities and there’s been a change in what we value?

M: Yes! Yes!

P: Due to the pandemic.

M: We want more and women in particular want equity if we’re going to take a larger role at home. I want to work from home and not have to commute two hours so that I can put the load of laundry on.

P: Mmm, yeah.

M: And I can’t cook a healthy meal for my family, for instance. Now, I’m not going to make this about gender.

P: Laugh.

M: Get back off my soapbox.

P: Laugh.

M: But what working from home has allowed many people to do is better balance their own personal needs.

P: I couldn’t agree more, I’ve noticed it in health. We have been flat chat, and I’m not just talking about myself. I’m talking about every health professional that I know has been super busy because people can manage their days better and they’re much more flexible so they can come in for the three o’clock appointment –

M: Mmm hmm.

P:  – and be able to see their Chiro, Dr or Physio or Massage Therapist, because they have that flexibility and that ability to stack their day out.

M: Yep.

P: And I think that’s –

M: And why would we give that up?

P: Well, I don’t think we should. The Scandinavians have been proving this since the year 2000.

M: So, someone needs to tell the CEOs.

P: Laugh, really?

M: Really… The Tech industry CEOs have cottoned on.

P: Oh, really.

M: A lot of them have said, ‘we’re actually going to get rid of our office’, and unfortunately, that is not going to serve the needs of the extroverts who have been craving more team time.

P: Contact, yes.

M: Yes.

P: And people time.

M: So that’s one extreme. The other extreme is organisations that are led often by extroverts who have been craving that team time and missing the communication and the incidental discussions and conversations and ideas and innovation that happens when –

P: Around the water cooler.

M: Yep. And so, they’ve decided that everyone needs to come back in for five days a week, as we used to do, starting Monday. See you all then.

P: Laugh. But that’s a little bit unrealistic in this new climate, isn’t it?

M: You would think so. These people run large corporations –

P: Laughter!

M: – and they haven’t cottoned on to it yet despite ‘The Great Resignation’. And people are leaving in droves. So, you’ve got those people who are keen to come back into the office and even the extroverts – often the stats are showing – don’t want to come back in five days a week.

P: No, that’s what I’m hearing. Everybody wants a 2-to-3-day split.

M: Yep. And then you’ve got those who just don’t want to come back into the office.

P: Laugh!

M: They’ve been more productive.

P: Yes!

M: So, this big experiment that we went through has shown that people are more productive when they work from home than they were in the office because they get in and they do their work. They’re not having those water cooler conversations.

P: Mmm.

M: So, the work may not be as good a quality, but they’re pumping through it faster. So, there is a trade-off for both things, right?

P: Oh, ok.

M: They’re getting more done and they’re sick of their leaders telling them, ‘It’s good for you to come in.’ For a lot of people –

P: It’s not.

M: Well, I’m one of them. I’ve had better mental health during Covid than I did before because I’ve got two hours back a day.

P: Yes, and that’s a lot of time.

M: It is.

P: I’m acutely aware of having 15 minutes to myself with my schedule.

M: Mmm hmm.

P: And an hour, an hour goes quickly. But when you’ve got that extra hour, there’s so much that you can actually achieve.

M: And I’ve got a heavily scheduled week and giving two hours back a day.

P: That’s huge.

M: Yep, it means a lot of things that I do for my well-being, I will no longer be able to do.

P: Mmm.

M: That’s what it means to me when someone says, ‘come back into the office and it will be good for your well-being.’

P: Sarcastic laugh.

M: Weellll….

P: Laugh. So, what is the balance between the Great Resignation and what it’s, what it’s done for our work-life expectations?

M: So, our expectations have changed, and I think that we’re now we’re entering a period of our human history where individuals and equity are a much more palatable conversation.

P: Mmm.

M: So, people are voting with their feet, just like they are voting with their money. When it comes to corporations that don’t follow the expectations that we have of them.

P: Yep, or investments, or all those sorts of financial decisions that used to be all that you go with the safe option now it’s like no, I go with the ahh… what’s the word I’m after?

M: The ethical option.

P: Yeah, that’s it.

M: Yeah. So, just like people are using their spending money to influence change. The Great Resignation is people walking from these companies to others that are willing to offer them five days a week from home if that’s what they want, or two days a week in the office, not five, or an organisation that will treat them well like a human being –

P: Laugh.

M: – during the most significant period of upheaval and change that a lot of people will face in their entire lives.

P: Yeah.

M: So, there’s two things going on here. There’s the change in expectations and the mismatch between what some organisations are expecting people to go back to and what people actually want.

P: Mmm.

M: There’s also a backlash against those organisations that didn’t manage the change well during Covid.

P: Mmm.

M: So, a lot of people are just fed up with the big machine of these Corporates and being treated like a number and not having good management or good bosses and good team environments. All of those things that make up what we would normally call employee engagement.

P: Right.

M: But really, no one wakes up and says, ‘I’m really hoping to be engaged at work today.’

P: Laughter! Well…

M: No one does that, but what they do do, and what I’ve done is, ‘you know what? I’m really not happy here. I’m going to go to another employer. I’m going to start looking for another job.’

P: The concept in this article that I find interesting, is that people are packing up and leaving without the option of another job to go to. That speaks a lot to that there’s been a… This happens when we have great events in society and history. This happened at the end of the World War, Great Depression, even fiscal crises. People make, not rash decisions, but they’re more inclined to make riskier decisions. Would that be fair to say?

M: You’d have to wait for a bit for a rebound out the back of those because of your economy. So, people feeling… What people are feeling right now is a certain level of confidence in their economies that there will be another job out there.

P: Right, ok.

M: And that safety net is there. That means they can take that risky move.

P: Is it just an economical perspective, or is it a ‘We’ve gone through… We’ve had our parameters change, we’ve had our thought processes changed about what’s important and what’s valuable. I haven’t got something to go to, but I’m going to make the jump and create it or create the opportunity.’

M: ‘I’m going to make the jump, and I trust there will be something there because the economy hasn’t tanked.’

P: Mmm.

M: I think if the economy had tanked, people would continue and that’s why they didn’t move for 18 months, right?

P: Yeah.

M: Because they were waiting to see whether you know you don’t want to start a new job. First one in, first one out, rule. Right?

P: Yes.

M: So, there is a little bit of that play into this, but you’re absolutely right, historically, traditionally, most people prefer to line up another job before they quit their current job.

P: Yep. And that’s not happening.

M: And we’re not seeing that.

P: Yeah, interesting.

M: Sorry, with a larger proportion of people, we’re not seeing that.

P: I like it. I’m a bit of a chaos believer and dive in the deep end.

M: Laugh!

P: So, I like it. This is my comfort space. I’ll just pack up everything and move to London without a job and, you know, I’ll figure it out when I get there, laugh.

M: I’m definitely an optimist when it comes to that uncertainty, however, I am also a planner.

P: Mmm.

M: So, I would… Again, it would depend how fed up I am.

P: Yeah, right.

M: And I’m not currently fed up, so if I was looking for another job. I’d probably wait to find it before I quit my current one.

P: Ok.

M: But there are many people out there who are so dissatisfied with the work life balance and also the virtual office environment that they’ve or physical office environment that they’ve been in for the last 18 months –

P: And they’ve chosen to opt out.

M: – they’re just walking, yep.

P: Let’s speak to the other part of the article, which actually talks about balancing our leisure time and our work time and that, that kind of idea that all you want to do is walk on the beach all day. Does that actually bring about true happiness for us Marie?

M: I love where this article goes, and we’ll post a link to it. But this is what is discussed further on, is work life a tension that we shouldn’t have it all?

P: Mmm.

M: Right, so Lis talks about how there have been studies in which people look at whether or not people would prefer to not work at all.

P: Yes.

M: And there’s also just moments in life where you don’t work at all. So, if you’ve been made redundant, if you retire, there’s been lots of work with people who have won the Lotto and don’t need to work.

P: Yes, yes.

M: And time and time again, these studies show that people get less life satisfaction. Your ego takes a hit. Your sense of self-worth takes a hit if you don’t work.

P: Mmm.

M: So, you really do need work to contribute to your happiness.

P: I think this goes back to a conversation in one of the episodes we’ve talked before about having purpose and meaning.

M: Mmm hmm

P: And also I’m going to throw the word passion in there.

M: Yes.

P: I think the people that negotiate these changes and you’re… you can speak to this with a lot more authority than I can Marie. But people who go through retiring, winning the lottery, for example, if they find a passion that they can invest their time and energy into that, gives them purpose.

M: Mmm hmm.

P: That makes them wake up in the morning going ‘right, I’ve got this to do today’, and it gives them a certain amount of structure that leads to greater life satisfaction ergo happiness.

M: Absolutely. There are so many studies that show having purpose not necessarily having work is important.

P: Mmm.

M: Contributing and being a part of something bigger than yourself, serving others. There are so many different ways that you can bring that to life.

P: Mmm.

M: Or, you know, working for a pay check where you feel pride for the contribution that you make towards whatever it is your organisation does or your company or you know, you’re whatever work it is you do.

P: Yeah.

M: That has such a big impact on our well-being and also contributes a large part to our identity, particularly in Western society.

P: Yeah, pretty much.

M: So, America, Australia, England. You ask –

P: You are you’re job. ‘What do you do for work?’

M: Exactly. So, without that, we lose not only, you know, the well-being part of that we lose part of our identity and then part of the pride that comes with being able to answer that question well.

P: Mmm.

M: “What do you do?”

“I’m unemployed.”

P: Laugh.

M: Comes with a sense of shame in our society.

P: Yes, yes, definitely.

M: Back to your question about work-life and the false-tension that we’re implying by putting that dash between those two words.

P: Yes.

M: There’s another study that talks about how much free time is a good amount of time. So, when we talk about work life, the thing that we’re often complaining about is that work takes up too much time and we don’t have time to do all the other things we want to do.

P: Yes. ‘I just want to read a book all day.’

M: Yeah, I want to read a book, I want to see my friends, I want to travel the world, I want to go play sports. I want to, you know, if have had more time I’d go to the gym.

P: Laugh!

M: Uh huh… No, you wouldn’t let’s be really, really frank here Marie.

P: Laugh.

M: I can’t remember the last time you got off your ass and went to the gym.

P: Laugh.

M: So, we… But we think and we convince ourselves that if we just had more work-life balance. In other words, if we worked a five-hour day or if we work three days a week, not five days a week or, you know, skin a cat however you want. But what the studies show is that there is such a thing as too much free time.

P: Mmm, I like this idea.

M: Mmm hmm. And anywhere more than five hours of free time in a day starts to impact on your well-being.

P: Yep.

M: And that is, you know, an eight-hour workday and five hours on either side and a good night’s sleep. That’s pretty much meaning that if you work a 40-hour week, that’s where your optimum work level should sit.

P: Yeah.

M: I don’t think I believe it.

P: Laugh, really? I kind of do.

M: It’s the science though sometimes Pete.

P: See I wasn’t looking from the scientific perspective at all. I’m looking at it from my own experience. I know I’m happier when I am busy and doing things, so when you’ve got things to sink your teeth into, it’s like I can’t wait to get home. And even with my study.

M: Mmm hmm.

P: It’s like sometimes I’m really keen to get home and open the anatomy books and go, Yeah, I’m enjoying this. I’m enjoying engaging with this content.

M: So, I think that’s where I’m struggling in that I have so many side projects.

P: Laugh, yeah you do.

M: So many side projects that give me that same sense of well-being and passion and purpose and meaning and identity that sit on top of my 40-hour day job. So maybe I’m in a different situation here, yeah.

P: So, Lis Ku talks about the idea of eudaimonic happiness.

M: Mmm hmm.

P: And the definition that she gives is that this is derived from optimal functioning and realising our potential.

M: So that’s one way that you can fill your week, I think.

P: She does give a couple of… there’s three different types of happiness that she talks about.

M: Yeah and there’s a study that she references, which aligns nicely to a topic we discussed, The Psychologically Rich Life, a few episodes ago.

P: Yes.

M: So, in this study, they say, across nine countries and tens of thousands of participants, researchers found that most people, so, over 50% are still unfortunately aiming towards a happy life typified by hedonic happiness.

P: Mmm.

M: So that’s that treadmill we were talking about.

P: Yeah, yeah.

M: Bigger house, bigger car, etc.

P: Getting, getting the goals instead of a [meaningful life].

M: Mmm hmm. And that shows that little podcast here is not reaching enough people.

P: Laugh!

M: Right?

P: Yet. Yet!

M: Yet, laugh. The second is that about a quarter prefer a meaningful life embodied by eudaimonic happiness, that you just mentioned. And that’s meaning and purpose and all of the good things that we talk about. And then there’s the third group of people. So, about 10 to 15% in each country who choose to pursue a rich and diverse experiential life.

P: I’m so in that category.

M: Well, I kind of think two and three are sort of mixed in for me. I think they’re both just as important.

P: I think there’s a difference. I think there’s a very chaotic, throw caution to the wind attitude in that last experiential category that doesn’t exist necessarily in the eudaimonic happiness one.

M: Ok. Well, I want both. I want my cake and I want to eat it too.

P: Laugh. Well, you can have both.

M: And you know what? I’m happy with a bit of hedonism thrown in.

P: Laugh! I get into my car and I always say, ‘Good morning, gorgeous, it is so nice to sit in you.’

M: Aww.

P: Laugh. That was actually my surviving mechanism for covid in my five-minute commute to work for 2.5 kilometres, driving with the top down, I was in a happy space.

M: So, I think that that balanced with your studies, balanced with your work, balanced with all of these different things. So having a little bit of hedonistic happiness in there as well as a meaningful life and also that experiential life and having the balance across all of that and work can play in all three of those spaces at different times.

P: Very true. It can give the passion to drive a little bit in there.

M: Yep, work can feature in all three. That is work-life balance.

P: What a lovely way to finish the episode, from our accredited Happiness Practitioner.

M & P: Laughter!

M: All right, well on that note, wishing you all a happy week and we’ll see you next time.

P: Chow, chow.

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M: Until next time. 

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Work-Life Balance – What Really Makes Us Happy Might Surprise You

13/10/2021 by Marie

Work-Life Balance

Lis Ku, De Montfort University

Finding the right work-life balance is by no means a new issue in our society. But the tension between the two has been heightened by the pandemic, with workers increasingly dwelling over the nature of their work, its meaning and purpose, and how these affect their quality of life.

Studies suggest people are leaving or planning to leave their employers in record numbers in 2021 – a “great resignation” that appears to have been precipitated by these reflections. But if we’re all reconsidering where and how work slots into our lives, what should we be aiming at?

It’s easy to believe that if only we didn’t need to work, or we could work far fewer hours, we’d be happier, living a life of hedonic experiences in all their healthy and unhealthy forms. But this fails to explain why some retirees pick up freelance jobs and some lottery winners go straight back to work.

Striking the perfect work-life balance, if there is such a thing, isn’t necessarily about tinkering with when, where and how we work – it’s a question of why we work. And that means understanding sources of happiness that might not be so obvious to us, but which have crept into view over the course of the pandemic.

Attempts to find a better work-life balance are well merited. Work is consistently and positively related to our wellbeing and constitutes a large part of our identity. Ask yourself who you are, and very soon you’ll resort to describing what you do for work.

Our jobs can provide us with a sense of competence, which contributes to wellbeing. Researchers have demonstrated not only that labour leads to validation but that, when these feelings are threatened, we’re particularly drawn to activities that require effort – often some form of work – because these demonstrate our ability to shape our environment, confirming our identities as competent individuals.

Work even seems to makes us happier in circumstances when we’d rather opt for leisure. This was demonstrated by a series of clever experiments in which participants had the option to be idle (waiting in a room for 15 minutes for an experiment to start) or to be busy (walking for 15 minutes to another venue to participate in an experiment). Very few participants chose to be busy, unless they were forced to make the walk, or given a reason to (being told there was chocolate at the other venue).

Yet the researchers found that those who’d spent 15 minutes walking ended up significantly happier than those who’d spent 15 minutes waiting – no matter whether they’d had a choice or a chocolate or neither. In other words, busyness contributes to happiness even when you think you’d prefer to be idle. Animals seem to get this instinctively: in experiments, most would rather work for food than get it for free.

Eudaimonic Happiness

The idea that work, or putting effort into tasks, contributes to our general wellbeing is closely related to the psychological concept of eudaimonic happiness. This is the sort of happiness that we derive from optimal functioning and realising our potential. Research has shown that work and effort is central to eudaimonic happiness, explaining that satisfaction and pride you feel on completing a gruelling task.

On the other side of the work-life balance stands hedonic happiness, which is defined as the presence of positive feelings such as cheerfulness and the relative scarcity of negative feelings such as sadness or anger. We know that hedonic happiness offers empirical mental and physical health benefits, and that leisure is a great way to pursue hedonic happiness.

But even in the realm of leisure, our unconscious orientation towards busyness lurks in the background. A recent study has suggested that there really is such a thing as too much free time – and that our subjective wellbeing actually begins to drop if we have more than five hours of it in a day. Whiling away effortless days on the beach doesn’t seem to be the key to long-term happiness.

This might explain why some people prefer to expend significant effort during their leisure time. Researchers have likened this to compiling an experiential CV, sampling unique but potentially unpleasant or even painful experiences – at the extremes, this might be spending a night in an ice hotel, or joining an endurance desert race. People who take part in these forms of “leisure” typically talk about fulfilling personal goals, making progress and accumulating accomplishments – all features of eudaimonic happiness, not the hedonism we associate with leisure.

The Real Balance

This orientation sits well with a new concept in the field of wellbeing studies: that a rich and diverse experiential happiness is the third component of a “good life”, in addition to hedonic and eudaimonic happiness.

Across nine countries and tens of thousands of participants, researchers recently found that most people (over 50% in each country) would still prefer a happy life typified by hedonic happiness. But around a quarter prefer a meaningful life embodied by eudaimonic happiness, and a small but nevertheless significant amount of people (about 10-15% in each country) choose to pursue a rich and diverse experiential life.

Given these different approaches to life, perhaps the key to long-lasting wellbeing is to consider which lifestyle suits you best: hedonic, eudaimonic or experiential. Rather than pitching work against life, the real balance to strike post-pandemic is between these three sources of happiness.

Lis Ku, Senior Lecturer in Psychology, De Montfort University

This article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons license. Read the original article.


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What Makes a Job Meaningful and Why That Matters

14/07/2021 by Marie

Andrew Bryce, University of Sheffield

One of the most iconic memories of the first lockdown of the pandemic is the sound of applause echoing across our cities and towns each week as the people of Britain said thank you to the NHS and all key workers doing essential work in challenging times. That “clap for carers” reveals a lot about how we value the work done by ourselves and others. Work is not just something we do to put food on the table. It does – or at least can – mean much more than that.

Work provides many things over and above the monthly pay cheque: status and identity, community and social connection, doing tasks that we find stimulating, and the opportunity to make a positive contribution to society. All of these things make work feel meaningful.

My research explores how paid work is experienced as meaningful compared to the other activities people do in their everyday lives. I also identify the types of job in which people experience the most meaningfulness and explore how these results can be explained by the particular qualities of different occupations.

The research uses the American Time Use Survey, which collects data on how people in the US spend their time. The survey asks people not only to report what activities they did in a given day, but how meaningful they felt these activities were on a scale of 0-6.

For the average American, work is not the most meaningful thing they do in their everyday lives. In fact, it is significantly less meaningful than many other activities classified in the survey, including caring for family members and others, volunteering, sport and exercise, and religious and spiritual activities. However, work is significantly more meaningful than shopping, housework and leisure activities.

What Jobs are the Most Meaningful?

This picture changes when we take into account the type of paid work that people do. People in community and social service occupations (which includes social workers, counsellors and clergy) experience the most meaningfulness in their work.

The other top-ranking occupations are: healthcare practitioner and technical occupations; education, training and library occupations; and, perhaps surprisingly to some, legal occupations. More broadly, people working in the non-profit sector and self-employed people report significantly more meaningfulness in their work than those employed in private sector for-profit firms.

These results suggest that jobs where people have more control over their work tend to be more meaningful. However, the type of good you produce also matters. Jobs where the main output is helping others with important aspects of their lives (for example, their health, education or legal problems) are also the most meaningful.

I found similar results for the UK, using the Annual Population Survey and the Skills and Employment Survey. There is a significant correlation between occupations deemed worthwhile and those where there is a high level of organisational commitment. This suggests that employees who believe in what their organisation is doing and are committed to the mission of their employer are also those who find their work meaningful.

Meaningful Does not Always Mean Pleasurable

Another interesting finding from the American data is that you do not have to enjoy something to find it meaningful. Even though their work is meaningful, people working in the health and education professions are ranked lower than average in terms of how pleasurable their work is relative to their other daily activities.

More strikingly, on this indicator for “pleasure” (which combines assessments of happiness, sadness, stress, tiredness and pain), the legal profession is by far the lowest-ranked occupation of all. This implies that work can be difficult, stressful or tiring but at the same time meaningful.

Nevertheless, community and social services occupations are both the most meaningful and the most pleasurable of all occupations, showing that it is possible to have the best of both worlds.

Why we Clap for Carers but Don’t Pay for Them

As we emerge from the pandemic and life gets back to normal, the clap for carers will soon become a fading memory. But what have we learned about the true value of work?

In 2021, the UK government was widely criticised for offering a 1% pay rise to NHS staff in England and freezing pay for other public sector workers. The prime minister cited budgetary constraints, but maybe there are more basic laws of supply and demand at play. When work is meaningful, then that becomes a reward in itself and generous pay offers are not prioritised to motivate people and retain staff. In contrast, less meaningful work has no such intrinsic value, so a monetary reward is needed to get people to do these jobs.

This of course leads to the perverse situation where the most socially useful jobs are those that are paid the least. It may seem unfair but it’s the reality of how the labour market works.

Related articles: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life: Ikigai


Andrew Bryce, University Teacher, University of Sheffield

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From Languishing to Flourishing (E70)

07/06/2021 by Marie

Happiness for Cynics podcast

This week, Marie and Pete talk about how to go from languishing to flourishing in our super busy, stressful and complicated world.

Show notes

During the podcast Pete talks about a segment he heard on Triple J by Dr. Karl Kruszelnicki.

Transcript

[Happy intro music -background]

M: Welcome to happiness for cynics and thanks for joining us as we explore all the things I wish I’d known earlier in life but didn’t.

P: This podcast is about how to live the good life. Whether we’re talking about a new study or the latest news or eastern philosophy, our show is all about discovering what makes people happy.

M: So, if you’re like me and you want more out of life, listen in and more importantly, buy in because I guarantee if you do, the science of happiness can change your life.

P: Plus, sometimes I think we’re kind of funny.

[Intro music fadeout]

M: And we’re back.

P: Howdy, howdy, howdy!

M: Hi, hi!

P: Laugh. So, I’d like to start off the episode this week Marie with an acknowledgment of country.

M: Aww.

P: It’s reconciliation week this week in Australia, and for those of you who aren’t aware reconciliation week in Australia is about our shared history. Acknowledging our first Nations peoples, acknowledging the shared history that we have [and] addressing some of the issues that have come out of the acknowledgement that shared history in terms of the things that have happened and how we can move forward in a reconciliation format.

M: Mmm hmm.

P: If I could speak our native language, I’d do it but I’m not going to insult our first nations people by attempting that.

M: Laugh.

P: I was thinking about it in terms of a happiness scale, and this is one of those things that you can get involved with, which is going to bring more happiness and more joy into your life. This is an opportunity to go and do something and be involved in a community endeavour.

M: Mmm hmm.

P: And we know, and we’ve talked about how volunteering your time and taking part in ethical actions can sometimes bring about good feelings. And those good feelings are sustainable. Going along to a local ceremony or going along to an event showing your support is one way of doing an ethical thing which is going to give you back tenfold in terms of what you put in.

M: Absolutely. And so I would like to pay my respects to elders past, present and emerging, and we live here in Sydney in the Eora nation. So, I did know that. Thank you for springing this on me!

P & M: Laughter.

M: But there are some great activities you can do, and the other thing we talked about is novelty and bringing novelty into your life.

P: Mmm.

M: We haven’t really explored our indigenous history. There are so many fabulous things you can do, particularly around Sydney here.

P: Mmm.

M: We did a wonderful tour through the rocks area and learned about how our ancestors ate and the fish and the ways that they communicated with other tribes that came through and to tell them what was poisonous and what was not.

P: Yep.

M: And learn about the plants and the agriculture and horticulture and all of that …culture.

P & M: Laugh!

M: Not my area of expertise, just throwing that out there!

P: Laugh.

M: Alright, and how they lived as well. And it was a fascinating walk-through modern-day Sydney with learning about past culture.

P: Mmm. There was a wonderful programme I heard this morning on JJJ which is a local youth National Broadcasting Channel, Radio Channel in Australia. Dr. Karl, who most people will know.

M: Mmm hmm.

P: Karl Stefanovic.. not Stefanovic. What was his name?

M: Uh, I don’t know. Dr. Karl.

P: I can’t remember, laugh.

M: Does anyone even know their last name?

P: Laugh! Anyway they had a couple of First Nations People on the program this week and one of them was an astronomer who looks at the stars through an indigenous lens.

M: Aww, I love it.

P: And I though, oh that would be really cool, but unfortunately I had to go and do an exam.

M: Oh.

P: Listening to those sort of things or going and experiencing some of the fantastic performances and celebrations that are around and just choosing to be part of that.

M: Mmm.

P: It’s a good way to bring happiness and joy.

M: Absolutely, well thank you for bringing that up.

P: That’s alright, [Super excited voice] what are we talking about this week, Marie?

M: Laugh! We are talking about a really hot topic –

P: Oooh, I like a hot topic!

M: Yes, everyone’s talking about languishing,

P: Oh!

M: and what it is to languish.

P: Oh, I feel like I need to repose in a pool with a gin and tonic.

M: Mmm hmm.

M: So last year, or maybe the year before flourishing, flourishing and thriving were the buzzwords in positive psychology, particularly Arianna Huffington, launched her website Thrive and it’s all about living your best life.

P: Mmm. Now flourishing post covid or during covid we’re still in covid, let’s be honest and sorry for all you Melbourne people down there who are very much still in covid and in the lock down Flourishing is a word that’s come out in the last year to mean just kind of surviving, just living.

P: Oh, really!

M: Uh, not flourishing, languishing!

P: Oh, ok right. I was just gonna say [flourishing] has been dumbed down, laugh.

M: And really is reflected in the fact that in the past year, a lot of us have just been.

P: Existed.

M: You know, I am.

P: Yeah.

M: Yeah, exactly, exactly. So we’re talking about how to get from languishing to flourishing.

P: Flourishing! It just makes you want to sing “Laaaaaa.”

M: And I love that the study that we’re looking at today came from an Aussie!

P: Laugh! Oh, I’ve got to do this haven’t I?

M: You do and how do you pronounce Geraldine’s last name?

P: Geraldine Przybylko. She’s Polish by the look of it.

M: In Australia, yes.

P: So, Geraldine I hope I got that right.

M: Laugh. Ah, yep. It was too much for me, I say that with all the respect in the world.

P: Laugh.

M: Her and her colleagues have just published a new study in the journal of Positive Psychology, which suggests that happiness comes with practise, which we’ve said quite a few times on our show.

P: Yeah.

M: And that you’ve got to put work into being happy. So if you want to go from languishing to flourishing, you’ve got to put in the work.

P: Do the work people. It’s like wanting to play an instrument or be a good sports person and only reading the books or listening on the podcast not actually getting out practising.

P & M: Laughter!

M: And happiness is like that. You can’t just read a book about volleyball and not ever go into a gym and play.

P: Laugh.

M: And unfortunately, a lot of people are buying self-help books and are doing that reading and coming out all inspired, and they’re wondering why they’re not happy three week later.

P: Yeah.

M: So, this study is actually looking at what we need to do, to go from languishing to flourishing.

P: And they’re talking about the combination of two different aspects. One of positive psychology, but combined with lifestyle medicine.

M: Yes.

P: What is the lifestyle medicine Marie?

M: Things like eating well, getting enough sleep. All the things your doctor tells you to do.

P: Or your allied Health Professional?

M: Yes, and positive psychology adds in the positive affirmations.

P: The mental aspect of lifestyle medicine, would you say?

M: Yeah. Mental and emotional.

P: Hmm, ok.

M: Yeah. So, adding those two together in a 10 week program showed a 17% increase in happiness or moving from languishing to flourishing.

P: That’s higher than interest rates in the eighties!

M: Laugh, sure is.

P: Laugh.

M: And not only that, up to 12 weeks afterwards, people were still showing higher happiness levels.

P: So, it’s lasting change.

M: Yes.

P: Ah, ok.

M: It is 10 weeks will give you at least another 10 weeks after that of change.

P: Makes sense though, because in anything that you’re trying to do in terms of habit forming if you’re going to do 10 weeks, you’ve set the practise in motion and you’ve got the habit formed by 10 weeks.

M: Well, the interesting thing about this – I’d say yes, definitely – But they did 10 different things over 10 weeks.

P: Mmm.

M: So, they weren’t setting habits necessarily. So, they did 10 different things over 10 different weeks and combined all of those 10 things, added to people’s happiness or flourishing levels.

P: Oh! So how does one measure our flourishing level?

M: Well, why don’t you tell me?

P & M: Laugh.

P: Well, it’s funny because when I first read this, I went and put my cynic hat on.

M: Mmm hmm.

P: The flourishing scale… And the first thing that came into my mind was ‘how can you rate flourishing scale because it’s very subjective, like pain. My pain is different to your pain.’

M: They have a scale for pain too! And actually, Jo and Francis, when I was in hospital used to hold up the scale to me in the morning.

P: Laughter! But the nature of pain is very subjective, so in terms of comparing data, it’s very difficult.

M: Mmm hmm.

P: So, what they’ve done to maybe get past that subjective measure is they’ve created 10 different measures of flourishing, they start with:

Most days I feel a sense of accomplishment from what I do.

M: That’s engagement with your life.

P: Ok yep, next one is:

In the past week I felt calm and peaceful.

M: Again, that’s a measure of not feeling manic and like a lot of people do in today’s day and age.

P: Mmm hmm.

I love learning new things.

M: This would go along with the growth mindset, which has been proven to make people happier than people who don’t have growth mindset. Yep, love it.

P: Yeah.

I generally feel that what I do in my life is valuable and worthwhile.

M: Purpose, yep purpose we know that one.

P: Laugh.

Always optimistic about my future.

M: Always is a strong word, isn’t it?

P: Laugh, yeah. Well, I don’t know anyone who’s always [optimistic].

M: We’re reading these on a scale right? So perhaps for this one a 7 is good.

P: Yeah.

Taking all things together, how happy would you say you are?

There are people in my life who really care about me.

M & P: Social connection, laugh.

P: We know you love that one, Muz.

When things go wrong in my life it generally does not take me a long time to get back to normal.

P: Resilience!

M: This is resilience, Pete!

P: Laugh. Geez, I’m getting good at this, I only went over this today.

M: Look at us, we know what we’re talking about!

P & M: Laughter!

P: [gunshot noises] Pew, pew, pew!

M: That’s a bit of a surprise, research that we’ve actually talked about!

P: Laughter, ok last two:

In general, I feel very positive about myself.

P: Projection.

M: There’s something Aussie and cynical in me that’s like ‘stop being so arrogant!’

P & M: Laugh.

P: And the last one:

In the past week, I had a lot of energy.

M: [Lack of energy] Is an early sign for depression. Just feeling really lacklustre and not feeling like wanting to do anything.

P: It’s one of the markers for leading to different conditions.

M: Interesting.

P: So, asking yourself those questions is a really good way to measure your flourishing. And I guess you would collate the points score together and measure it out of 100 see where you’re sitting. So, if you are 66 okay, my flourishing level is above average, above 50.

M: I don’t think that you would compare it average. I think the key point there is subjective happiness like you said before happiness is subjective. So, you start at 66 which is neither good nor bad.

P: Ok, yep.

M: And after the end, have you gone up?

P: Oh, ok.

M: You know, is your level at 88?

P: Just like a remedial exercise program, laugh.

M: And after 10 weeks if you continue and do another 10 weeks of it do you get more gain?

P: Aahhh, that would be interesting. Or to do it spasmodically. Spasmodically?

M: Laugh.

P: Periodically, like throughout year at different points or a three-monthly exercise. We can re-visit our goals once a year, maybe we could revisit our flourishing level once a quarter, when do your tax return, laugh.

M: And you know what, they say you can’t prove what you don’t measure.

P: Mmm, I agree.

M: And I think it needs to be something that we’re more systemic, systematic and put more attention towards.

P: And this is a really, easy tool to do that. It’s a really easy way to come up with a measurement without going ‘Oh, where do I rate myself today?’ This is just answering questions off the cuff.

M: Yep, absolutely. So, let’s move to the activities because that’s really where it’s interesting, I think.

P: Ok.

M: What can you put in practise that is going to tangibly improve your happiness levels? And these 10 things, so one a week is what they did, they had a daily challenge and a weekly challenge.

P: Ok.

M: So every day there was something little. And then over the week they had a lot more, like bigger things, that they needed to do. So, week one – really, really easy, Speak positively.

P: Ahh, yeah, the inner voice. Change the inner voice.

M: Yes, and now the first one, if you’re not someone who likes to look in the mirror and tell yourself you’re beautiful, wonderful, smart, and intelligent –

P: Laugh.

M: – this might make you breathe a sigh of relief; It is offering a genuine compliment. So once a day for a week offer a genuine compliment to someone else.

P: That’s pretty easy to do, yeah.

M: It is, as long as you focus on doing it, you remember to do it.

P: Yeah.

M: Put it in the diary, put a reminder in your phone, whatever it is and then make sure that you do it. And then the weekly challenge was memorize an inspirational text or saying.

P: I love that.

M: Absolutely and I love that, because when was the last time you actually sat down and memorised text?

P: All the time, laugh!

M: Memorized?

P: Yeah.

M: So, you can quote it back later?

P: Yeah.

M: I’m so 21st century brain, I consume so much and retain and remember so little, laugh.

P: Yeah, right-o ok.

M: To be really honest.

P: That’s possibly something I have done a lot of through my positive psychology training, remembering things that I can pull out of a hat or let inspire you.  

M: It’s about mindfulness in a way. It’s really connecting deeply with something in the moment that’s, that’s beautiful and ironic that I don’t do it more often, laugh.

P: It was also part of my blog, I used to always end with a quote.

M: Mmm hmm.

P: So, I had that in there, that I had a weekly task of finding a quote. You do that.

M: I have a quote for my weekly newsletter, do I remember them?

P & M: No, laugh!

M: I love them in the moment.

P & M: Laugh.

M: But I don’t commit them to memory because it’s about going that next step.

P: Yep.

M: So, that was week one. Week two, this one’s for you, Pete.

P: Oh.

M: Move dynamically.

P: Woo hoo! Dance, dance, dance.

M: Yes.

P: Dance naked around the kitchen! It’s really fun! Just do it when your flatmate’s not coming home from volleyball.

M: Laugh, sorry Charlie.

P: Laugh!

M: So, for one week only, you’re going to really commit to some exercise. So, they say 30 minutes of moderate exercise or 10,000 steps.

P: Yeah.

M: Yeah, we do that every single day for one week. And then the weekly challenge is really quite easy. So on one of those days, do 20 minutes of guided resistance exercise, that’s like weights.

P: Yeah, Thera-bands, body-weight work, some gymnastics, handstands!

M: All right. Week three – Immerse in an uplifting natural environment.

P: Aahhh, forest bathing!

M: Get out into nature.

P: Forest bathing, it’s a thing.

M: 30 minutes a day. Essentially, what they’re asking is for 10 weeks, put 30 minutes aside to be happier.

P: Yes.

M: So 30 minutes a day, you know, out near a lake, the beach, the mountains.

P: Find a local park, there’s so many of them around in Sydney.

M: Yep or go to the beach. And then the weekly challenges to experience a sunrise.

P: Oooh, that’s a hard one.

M: It sure is.

P: Laugh! Mind you I’ve been getting up really early.

M: Eeuggh, sunrise early?

P: Yeah.

M: It’s the middle of winter.

P: Yeah, I know, it’s not hard ‘cause it’s later, laugh.

M: …Okay, all right. Week four – Immerse in a positive social environment.

P: Mmm.

M: So daily, do something intentional, to show you care.

P: Ok.

M: And weekly, this one’s a good one, forgive someone who’s hurt you.

P: Oh, that’s opening up a can of worms.

M: Yeah, and we’ve spoken about forgiveness before. Forgiveness is not about that person.

P: Mmm.

M: It’s about you letting go of things and your anger.

P: Yeah, and it’s not about you saying ‘I forgive you.’ It’s just the action and you don’t have to express it.

M: Yep.

P: I think that’s what people fear, ‘I simply can’t do it!’

M: No, no, no, you never have to talk to them again.

P: Yeah.

M: And you don’t have to approve of their behaviour, or anything like that. It’s about you.

P: Yeah.

M: Alright, week five – Look to the positive. So spend 15 minutes reflecting on three things that went well everyday.

P: Oooh.

M: That’s gratitude.

P: Yep.

M: We talked about that before and then weekly, write a letter of gratitude to someone and share it with them.

P: Aww.

M: Again, we’ve spoken about the power of that well.

P: Yep.

M: Week six – Eat nutritiously.

P: Yeah, we know this works.

M: Oh, this is my downfall.

P: Gasp!

M: Laugh! Eat eight servings of plant based food a day.

P: Yes.

M: it’s really… You’re not going to be hungry.

P: No.

M: Eight servings of plant-based food, unless your choosing lettuce each time.

P: Laugh, even lettuce will fill you up.

M: Absolutely. You know you can definitely feel full off that.

P: Yep.

M: And then the weekly challenge is to prepare a high fibre, plant based meal with one or more friends.

P: Yes!

M: Make it social.

P: Sook socially, it’s good fun.

M: It’s very, the weekly challenge is very 21st century, isn’t it?

P: Mmm.

M: Plant based, that wasn’t even a thing 20 years ago.

P: Yeah, definitely.

M: So, we’re definitely not only doing what’s better for our bodies, but being environmentally conscious about it.

P: Laugh.

M: Okay, Week seven – Rest – sleep.

P: Sleep, sleep more! So, many studies done about this.

M: Yes.

P: And it always comes up. If we don’t rest, we don’t regenerate.

M: Mmm hmm.

P: And one hour sleep deprivation is enough to downgrade your immune system by 50%.

M: Look at you and your course knowledge.

P: Laugh.

M: Or stats, that you remember.

P: Laugh.

M: So, this is about committing to spending eight hours in bed without a device.

P: Mmm.

M: It doesn’t count if you’re watching cat videos.

P: The better way is to plug it into a wall socket away from you bed.

M: Yep.

P: Put it in another room and make your room device free.

M: Or go to bed early, and so I read on my device, I know it’s not good, and then I’ll put it away, but I’m very good at getting my eight hours of sleep. I’m a cranky –

P: Laugh!

M: – person if I don’t. And then the weekly challenge to add to that was to spend an evening by firelight.

P: Oh, oh, candle-light, does that work?

M: Yes.

P: Alright, that’s easy.

M: Alright, week eight, I’m loving seven and eight, these are right up my alley. Week eight is –

Rest – from stress.

P: Oh.

M: So your daily challenges is to spend 15 minutes in a quiet place, relaxing and being mindful of your surroundings.

P: Ah, a bit of meditation time.

M: Yes.

P: Go, sit under a tree, hear the birdies tweeting. Sit in church, go and sit in a church, you don’t have to pray. Churches are great for that, they’re wonderful places –

M: They’re really beautiful.  

P: – and they’re quite, great to sit in and be awed and inspired.

M: Yep. And then the weekly challenge for that one is to take a day off work and have a digital Sabbath.

P: Mmm.

M: So, so offline for 24 hours to recharge.

P: Yeah, escape.

M: So, I guess if you can, you know, go camping or find somewhere just quiet and away from all your stresses and be quiet for a day.

P: Mmm, mmm.

M: All right, keep going. Number nine is – Serving others. So, your daily challenge is to perform a random act of kindness.

P: Laughter! Done.

M: Mmm hmm. And your weekly challenge is to use your signature strength to perform an act of service, so I don’t think we’ve actually covered signature strengths yet.

P: Not yet.

M: But the VIA [Values In Action] signature strength test [The VIA Character Strengths Survey], so, that’s from Penn University in the States, it’s a really good way to just understand yourself better.

P: Hmm.

M: And the thinking used to be in the corporate world in the nineties and early two thousand’s that you wanted to understand your strengths and weaknesses and work on your weaknesses so that you were a well-rounded human-being.

P: Yeah, yeah,

M: The thinking nowadays is screw that –

P: Laugh.

M: if you’re not good at it don’t bother!

P: Laughter!

M: Unless it’s really holding you back.

P: Yeah.

M: And to really focus in on what your strengths are and double down on that.

P: Oh, ok.

M: If that’s what you’re good at, go do that!

P: Yeah.

M: And make sure that that’s part of your job.

P: Well, that taps into purpose as-well doesn’t it? And that concept of Ikigai, where you’re doing something you’re passionate about that you’re good at.

M: Passionate about, yeah. Because we’re normally not passionate about stuff that we don’t… that we’re not good at.

P: Mmm. Yeah, no, true.

M: So this is, again VIA strengths assessment, and you can go do that for free online and just get a better understanding what your strengths are.

P: Mmm.

M: And last one, week 10, the question is – What does it take to flourish? So your daily challenge is continue the challenges that you found to be helpful.

P: Ok.

M: And your weekly challenge is to continue the challenges that you found to be helpful.

P: Laughter!

M: It’s a bit of a cheat week, isn’t it? Laugh.

P: Yeah, it’s a week off. Laugh, ah we’ll give you a break!

M: So, I guess before we wrap up. The whole point of talking about this in today’s episode is to say that we talk about so many of these things every week, don’t we?

P: Mmm, yeah.

M: But just like exercising or learning an instrument, we can’t just talk about it and we can’t just listen to a podcast.

P: Mmm.

M: You’ve actually got to put this stuff into the practise.

P: Yep.

M: And if you do, this latest study here shows that you can improve your happiness or move away from languishing and more towards flourishing and loving life by up to 17%.

P: Yep, that’s a decent figure.

M: Sure is. Who wouldn’t want to be 17 percent happier?

P: Definitely.

M: I think Dan Harris, wrote a book 10% Happier.

So, this is like kicking you ass down, laugh.

P: Hey, we’re one up! Laugh! Throw that challenge glove down!

M & P: Laugh!

M: Absolutely, well on that note we’ll end for the week.

P: Enjoy your tasks people.

M: Wishing you a happy week.

[Happy exit music – background]

M: Thanks for joining us today if you want to hear more, please remember to subscribe and like this podcast and remember you can find us at www.marieskelton.com, where you can also send in questions or propose a topic.

P: And if you like our little show, we would absolutely love for you to leave a comment or rating to help us out.

M: Until next time.

M & P: Choose happiness.

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