7 Simple Steps to Happiness

7 Simple Steps to Happiness Right Now 

This past year has weighed heavily on all of us. The world was disrupted in unimaginable ways, and we’re still reeling from the impacts. After months of constant stress and anxiety, many of us are just trying to get back on track. One of the things we’ve learned through the pandemic is that we cannot afford to attach happiness to things or circumstances.  

Your happiness is in your hands, and you can influence it with the small things that you do on a daily basis. Sample these ideas that will uplift your mood and improve your day.  

1. Connect With Family and Friends  

In today’s connected world, many people spend time with people without truly paying attention to them. If we’re not busy working, then we’re engrossed in our gadgets and screens. In the internet era it is all too easy to be online paying attention to someone miles away, whom you’ll never get to meet, while ignoring the very person next to you.  

Unfortunately, while watching TV, listening to music and playing games online can be good sources of relaxation and short-term satisfaction and happiness, we often spend too much time in front of screens, to the detriment of spending time doing things that are more likely to bring us long-term happiness and joy. 

The simple answer is to make an effort to put away your gadgets ever now and then and hold conversations that count. Find out how the people around you are doing. Listen to their experiences, thoughts, ideas, and opinions. The same goes for your colleagues and friends. Call them and have meaningful conversations. Forming deeper relationships with those around you will instantly make you happier. 

One of the best things you can do to build relationships: organise a group trip! Not only can everyone participate in planning, they will also have something to look forward to, and then there’s of course the trip itself which everyone will get to share and build new memories from. 

2. Perform Acts of Kindness  

At a time when so many people are struggling with job losses or reduced hours, or the stress of the pandemic, a great way to bring some joy into your life and someone else’s is to perform an act of kindness.  

• Do you have people around you who are in isolation? Offer to pick up their groceries.  
• Do you know of a family with someone who is sick? Drop them a hot meal or send a care package. 

• Do you know someone who lost their job? Visit them with some basic supplies.  

Check on people. Hear them out. Comfort them. Donate to the community center. Just chip in where you can. Taking attention away from yourself and focusing on someone in need has been shown to leave you happier and more fulfilled.   

3. Do Something Brave  

Identify something that makes you nervous and tackle it. It does not have to be an enormous task. Have you been postponing a difficult conversation? Make that call and talk it over. Have you been meaning to apologise to someone? You may as well do it now. Maybe you can send that job application even when you feel underqualified, or unsure about moving on.  

After the initial anxious moments you’ll feel a joyful feeling of triumph, just like when you get on a rollercoaster or watch a scary movie. The small wins associated with overcoming your fears will also build your confidence and you’ll soon be attempting more challenging tasks.  

4. Start Your Day Positively  

Spend the very first moments of your day intentionally. Most of us reach for the phone even before we get out of bed, allowing whatever content we come across to set the tone of our day. Intentionality allows you to choose exactly what you want to expose your heart and mind to before anything else.  

Remember, how you spend your first moment of the morning has a significant effect of the rest of the day. Try spending 30 minutes listening to an inspirational podcast, reading, praying, meditating, exercising, journaling or anything else that will fill you with positive energy, and watch the rest of your day follow the same trajectory.  

5. Organise Your Space  

A well-arranged space instantly uplifts your moods and makes you more productive. Whereas a messy house is interpreted by our brains as a laundry list of to-do items –adding stress to our days. 

Start with your bed, which you can make immediately after getting up. It sounds like a small detail, but the sight of a well-made bed can instantly make you feel more organised and ready for the day ahead. It also reduces the tendency to slip back under the covers for a ‘few more minutes’ which just ends up throwing your day into disarray.  Similarly, every evening before bed, take a few minutes to arrange the house. If you have kids, it takes much more effort to remain neat, but it’s worth it to wake to a tidy space in the morning. Even the best mood will be dented when you’re tripping over toys and sitting on food spills. Once a week, arrange your working space as well. Get rid of what you don’t need. Decluttering makes maintaining order much easier. Just the sight of a well-organized room will help you release that stress and leave you feeling happier.  

6. Work on Acceptance and Moving Forward 

Many people are still in denial over the magnitude of loss that the pandemic has caused. If your life was disrupted immensely, you probably still have moments when you ask yourself, ‘did this really happen?’ Unfortunately, it did, and now the question is: what’s next? Grief is a natural and normal and needed reaction to loss of any kind. However, eventually we all need to find a way to move forward, and the way to do that is through acceptance.  

Accept the new circumstances of your life. Your job, income, age, weight, and all. You may not be where you’d have wished, but you’re here. Work to introduce a gratitude practice every day to rediscover what you have to be grateful for, and work to accept your current situation, and finally, set some new goals for the future to give you something to work toward and plan for.  

Remember, if you are truly struggling with how to move forward after a significant loss, please speak to a professional. Sometimes we all need a bit more help. 

7. Connect With Nature  

One of the easiest ways to bring instant happiness to your life is to step out and enjoy nature. If it’s sunny, even better. Feel the sunshine warm your skin. Soak in Vitamin D. Indulge in whatever elements of nature are around you.  

And it doesn’t have to be a 10-hour hike through rugged terrain. It could be as simple as bird watching in your backyard. Fix a bird feeder to a tree or on a pole (somewhere off the ground to avoid predators). Or you can drive to the local park, nature trail, forest, beach, and simply sit and watch. Why not try walking barefoot or just touch the trees. That simple emotional or physical contact with nature siphons away your stress and leaves you more relaxed.  

You don’t have to go for a vacation to feel happier. Neither do you have to spend loads of money. The above practices are well within reach and you can carry them out any day. Your happiness is mostly within your control and is you responsibility; gift it to yourself in abundance. 

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