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Awe-inspiring activities to bring wonder to your life

02/02/2020 by Marie

Do you ever feel like you need to get out of your own head? Maybe you need some help to deal with daily stresses or building your mental wellbeing and resilience? have you tried including awe-inspiring activities in your life? Here’s how.

Reflecting on your awe-inspiring activities

I want you to stop and think about the last time you experienced awe. Maybe you were outdoors in nature or on a family holiday? For me, it was the moment I stepped out of the archway and saw the Taj Mahal in India. I remember the goose bumps traveling up my arms and the wave of feeling that brought a huge grin to my face as I stood in front of the most awe-inspiring proclamation of love on the planet (in my humble opinion).

That moment was 5 years ago, and I can still remember it. I can still feel it.

Moments of awe are like life’s exclamation marks, punctuating our lives in rare and special moments. According to the Collins dictionary, “Awe is the feeling of respect and amazement that you have when you are faced with something wonderful and often rather frightening.”

It’s a thrill or a moment of wonder. It’s rare, and special, and because of that it is imprinted in your memory forever. Often it makes you think – about life and all that life entails. Sometimes it even energises you to act, at least in the short term, and every now and then it can even bring about longer-term change.

Some people find awe and wonder regularly, in the small and big things around them, while others only experience awe occasionally. It is different for every person.

The importance of awe

Experiencing awe is about being engaged with the wonder of life.

When you’re moving through an uneventful day on autopilot, or your mind is just wandering, the default mode network (DMN) in our brains is running things. For the DMN, it’s just another day and there’s not much effort going into our activities. But as researchers in the Netherlands discovered, when we are fully immersed in experiencing awe, it switches on our brains so we engage more with our external world and less with ourselves.

That state of immersion in awe enhances your wellbeing, gives you more satisfaction in life, sharpens your brains, and makes you feel less impatient and more time rich, according to researchers. It also impacts your physical health, with studies by University of Toronto, University of Pittsburgh and University of California-Berkeley showing that experiencing awe reduced inflammation in the body. Researchers at UC Berkeley showed that positive emotions such as awe are linked to proinflammatory cytokines, which respond to infection, inflammation, and trauma, among other things.

Research also shows that awe leads to people being more generous, more prosocial and more willing to volunteer – maybe as a result of people feeling humbled by things much larger than themselves and having a greater appreciation for larger social context and concerns.

What brings you awe?

Thankfully you don’t have to travel all the way to the Taj Mahal, Grand Canyon or Great Barrier Reef to feel awe and wonder. Awe can be experienced as a part of everyday life, but it is different for everyone.

Some people experience awe in day-to-day interactions with their kids, or on their morning jog. For others a moving piece of music, a ballet performance or a place of worship will lead to awe. Some people don’t experience awe often and need to work to remind themselves to find moments to stop and smell the roses in a hectic life.

To identify things that might bring you awe, try to think back to the last time you had goose bumps or the last time you felt small compared to the vastness of time or a place around you.

Planning for awe-inspiring activities in your life

Once you have identified the types of activities and moments that are likely to bring you awe, amazement and wonder, schedule these activities into your life. Here are some awe-inspiring activities that might give you some inspiration.

Experience the awe of ballerinas dancing

Be inspired by someone

Find people whom you respect for doing and thinking amazing things. That could be dancers in a theatre, singers at a concert, athletes at a sports event, or thinkers at a local university lecture series. Alternatively, you could find someone who has an extraordinary story and read their biography or watch them talk.

Get out into nature

Find a nature park or body of water that you haven’t visited yet and take a day trip. When you get there, plan to spend some time in reflection and contemplate the beauty of the area you’re visiting. Find something that amazes you, relax and just sit and watch in silence. And even if you don’t experience awe, simply observing nature is proven to make you happier and improve your overall wellbeing. For inspiration, check out this Lonely Planet article on where to find the most beautiful lakes.

Take a trip to somewhere with a long and proud history

Before you go, do some research into the area and history and the stories from the area. Read a book or watch a movie about that period – whatever you can do to connect with the vast history of the place and connect with the people and their stories. When you get there, visit a monument, museum or historical site and take the time to sit and reflect about the people and history around you.

Re-live your awe-inspiring moments

Simply reliving your moments of awe can have a positive impact on your wellbeing. Sit down and have a look through photos of old trips you’ve taken, or the birth of your child. Actually watch that video of your wedding! Or even better write a journal entry about any one of these moments.

Start an awe-inspiring playlist, album or journal

Researchers have shown that even reading about or watching awe-inspiring things can have a positive impact on your wellbeing. Now it’s true that this may not lead to as intense feelings of awe, but it still does have a positive impact. So why not start a journal of all the things that inspire you and bring you awe? You can paste your own photos or cut images from magazines or printed from articles online. Alternatively, you can create a playlist of music or movies that inspire awe in you. A great resource is Berkeley’s Awe video exercise, or take a look through the beautiful photos and videos at LonelyPlanet.com!

Make time for awe in your life

The research on awe is pretty conclusive: experiencing awe is powerful and comes with many benefits.

Remember, when you get there, don’t forget to be present and take the time to appreciate the moment and all its AWEsomeness. While there are still benefits to passively experiencing awe-inspiring activities, studies show you get even greater benefits when you’re mindful while experiencing moments of awe.

So, if you need to get out of your own head, deal with daily stressors or build your mental wellbeing and resilience, find a way to include awe-inspiring activities in your life.

Comment below! What makes you feel awe?

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OPINION: The future of work is failing to meet expectations

26/01/2020 by Marie

We were promised a four-day workweek and exciting creative work. Instead, we got burnout.

Let’s back this up. In the 80s, we fought long and hard against a system and way of living, called Communism, which was meant to be doom for us all.

Instead, we were fighting for a capitalist society that promised to keep delivering better outcomes for each new generation. It wasn’t hard to imagine. Post WWII, most things had been getting better and easier for everyone in these modern capitalist societies — we were just fighting for more of the same.

If we stayed the course, advances in society and steady increased in GDP would lead to wealthy nations which would provide better-quality and better access to healthcare and education. With our better health and higher education degrees, we’d be intellectually challenged in creative ways and meaningful pursuits at work, and from 55-years-old we’d retire but continue to contribute to our families and societies in ways that were less about financial reward and more about finding our passions.

More recently, they said opt-in to the Fourth Industrial Revolution. Like the previous revolutions, we could expect great change, but great benefits. These technological advances would help us reach that utopian end-point sooner. No more poverty or sickness, and we’d all be happy.

The Jetsons and Star Trek showed us that technology would make our lives and work easier. Automated flying cars would cut commute times, lengthy overseas holidays of self-discovery and wonder would be affordable to all, and all the mundane jobs would be done by robots so we could pursue creative careers that challenged us and gave our lives purpose. Rosie the robot maid would also do all our mundane household chores. Of course, we would also heed the danger stories, and design technology that was accessible, fair and benefitted all.

The reality is, quite frankly, the opposite.

More stress, less time, more pressures

We’re now smack bang in the middle of that Fourth Industrial Revolution, bringing together the physical, digital and biological to create exponentially growing and seemingly unending change in our lives, and it’s exhausting. We’re all burning out.

In 2019, the world finally stood up and took notice of the burnout problem. In May, the World Health Organization (WHO) added burnout to its list of globally recognised diseases, then later re-labelled it as an “occupational phenomenon” caused by chronic stress in the workplace. WHO estimates that one in five children or teenagers and one in four adults will experience burnout in their lives. This was further supported by the World Economic Forum labelling burnout a “mental health pandemic” and saying it was the new “21st century disease.”

Deloitte weighed in on our ‘always on’ work culture and a Gallup study showed that there is a global epidemic of burned-out workers who are experiencing (1) mistreatment, (2) unmanageable workloads, (3) a lack of role clarity, (4) a lack of support from their management, and (5) unreasonable time pressures.

Burnout means we’re constantly feeling busy, under pressure and like we have no time. We feel harassed by our technology and social media feeds always pinging. We feel the need to reply to work emails on our phones at 8pm or on Sunday mornings, just to keep up with our other colleagues who may actually be in the office at that time… and our bosses are answering emails then anyway. This is burnout.

We bought in, we played ball, and in exchange we got burnout. But surely we’re living better lives, right?

Not really.

For a lot of people, things haven’t gotten any better. Technological gains and efficiencies have benefitted not individuals but corporations, which are constantly striving to be more efficient, nimble and agile so they can fend off the next round of innovative start-ups.

We’re spending more time working, in increasingly demanding and stressful jobs with blurred work-life boundaries, and yet for the first time since 1930, we’re earning less relative income than those who came before us and we have less financial security.

We also no longer have job security. Instead we’re constantly on alert, waiting for the tap on the shoulder that signals we should clear out our desks along with 10% of our teammates — yet we’re told we’re not loyal anymore, and we’re “lucky” if we’re chosen to stay to work twice as hard once everyone else has left. (check out Daniel H. Pink’s classic-but-still-relevant book Free Agent Nation for more about the changing world of work).

Even though Millennials and Gen-Xers are the most highly educated generations, everything is changing so fast that we’re constantly being asked to get skills, then re-skill and re-skill again to remain relevant in the workforce. Yet, companies know that you might not stay and they might make your role redundant anyway, so they’ve all but done away with costly in-house training and we’re now asked to sort out all that extra accreditation in our own time and with our own money.

Meanwhile, the wealth gap continues to increase, many of us have huge university debt, no prospects of ever buying a house, and we won’t be able to retire until we’re 75.

This is not the future we were promised.

We’re running really fast. Who knows where, but we’re running, we’re busy, and that’s all that matters. Right?

No! This always-on, high pressure rat-race is making us sick. Burnout is proof that we can’t run the corporate hamster wheel and navigate the rotating door of mass layoffs and climb the ladder of education all at once. We just can’t do it all.

We need to fight burnout and to do that we need to regain the control and balance in our lives. We need more time for our families and friends, and more time to exercise and look after ourselves, or just more time to simply relax.

Why can’t we have that four-day workweek we were promised?

So, it’s not a cure, but seriously, why can’t we have a four-day work week?

No, I’m not talking about cramming 40-hours of work into four days and being paid less for the privilege. I’m talking about delivering on that promise that greater technological efficiency means workers see some benefits: getting to work less hours each week or getting more time off for instance.

We could do five 6-hour days a week, or four 8-hour days a week — I don’t mind, either is OK with me.

Recent news stories applauded Finland’s prime minister, Sanna Marin, for wanting to introduce a 4-day work week. “I believe people deserve to spend more time with their families, loved ones, hobbies and other aspects of life, such as culture,” Marin, 34, is quoted as saying in August last year before she took office.

Unfortunately, the Finnish Government couldn’t have run faster from these news stories, quickly clarifying that introducing a 4-day workweek was “not on the Finnish Government agenda.” The message was clear, although this is a nice idea, no one in power would seriously consider this. Gasp, think of the economy!

But here’s the thing, some companies have trialled these systems (working less) and have actually shown that employees end up being even more productive! It’s a win-win, and a no-brainer.

So, there is some hope for change, we just all have to move to New Zealand where Perpetual Guardian recently made a 4-day workweek available to its employees after a successful trial, as reported by Smart Company. Perpetual Guardian employees can opt-in for a weekly rest day while still receiving their normal salaries as long as they continue to meet their productivity objectives. And just to be clear, the trial showed that employees who embarked on the reduced workhours option were more productive and reported lower levels of stress.

According to New Europe, Sweden has also been trialling a reduced hour workweek: “In Sweden, where the 6-hour-day has already been in place since 2015, the results showed that employees were happier, wealthier and more productive as they were still fully paid and customers were more satisfied.”

Now I know that this is a small sample, and not all industries or job types will be suited to reduced work hours, but it is true that for some circumstances and some jobs, this can be made to work, both for the employer and employee — and it just might help to make a small difference to the burnout epidemic that is sweeping the world.

Plus burned-out employees are leaving corporations in droves anyway, costing organisation a while lot of money, so surely we have to try something, and why not a four-day workweek?

OK? Good.

So, now can we get back to delivering on that promise?

Unfortunately, while a four-day workweek is a nice start and possibly something that might shift the dial a little bit in the fight against burnout, it certainly isn’t a cure.

So, where do we go from here? How can we make capitalism deliver on its promise? You remember, the promise of a better life for individuals, not just stable GDP growth and bigger corporate profits.

One thing is for sure, our current democratic, capitalist approach is coming apart at the seams, in fact the world has just gone a bit crazy lately (dare I say it? … Trump and Brexit, what the heck?). Has anyone stopped to consider that maybe it’s because the current system is not delivering on that promise of a better future for our children and our children’s children?

Now, I’m not overly political, and I’m sure I don’t have all the answers, but I do know that I’ve experienced the corporate hamster wheel and the burnout that went with it, and I’m looking for change.

I see some hope in New Zealand, where Prime Minister, Jacinda Ardern, announced that her government was launching a “different approach for Government decision-making all together” by delivering a Wellbeing Budget rather than the traditional budget focused solely on growing GDP. Here’s how Ardern put it during a speech in New York:

“Traditionally, success or failure in politics has been measured in purely economic terms. Growth, GDP, your trade deficit and the level of debt you carry. On those terms, you would call New Zealand relatively successful. But in the last few years the deficiency of such measures has become stark. So, we are establishing brand new measure of national achievement that goes beyond growth.”

“While at a global level economic growth has been unprecedented, the distribution of benefits has been uneven at the level of individuals and communities. …. But we also need to do better at lifting the incomes of New Zealanders and sharing the gains of economic growth.”

Ardern then goes on to outline other measures of success for her government that are focused on relieving poverty, ensuring equality, improving the environment, and supporting accessibility to education for all.

Who would have thought!? This is a government focused not only on making sure the country gets richer (GDP), but more than that, focused on making sure that its people have better wellbeing outcomes.

Is this the capitalist model that actually delivers the promised utopia, or at least moves us in the right direction?

Only time will tell.

In the meantime, I’m serious about that four-day workweek. Let’s talk!

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Is Your Mindset Holding Back Your Growth and Happiness?

24/01/2020 by Marie

The International Day of Education is the Perfect Time to Discuss the Importance of Developing a Growth Mindset

Have you ever given up because something was too hard, or avoided taking on a challenge altogether just in case you failed? Maybe you’ve been frustrated at yourself for not being smarter, or resented others for succeeding at things that seemed to come naturally or easily to them?

Don’t worry, this is normal (and typical) ‘Fixed Mindset’ behaviour, and it’s something you can change.

January 24 is the International Day of Education, and what better time to review recent research and thinking into how we learn? Since I went to school a lot has changed. Teachers can’t smoke in classrooms, kids don’t have to volunteer to change the projector slides, and computers are in the kids’ pockets not in a ‘Mac lab’ that you visit once a week to learn typing… just to name a few.

Since the 90s, there have also been a number of advances in our understanding of how we learn. One of the biggest developments in education and psychology is the work Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck pioneered in Fixed vs. Growth Mindset.

Dweck has spent her career creating a body of research and evidence that shows we aren’t born smart or dumb. Instead, in her 2006 book ‘Mindset: The New Psychology of Success’ she argues that we how we view our ability to learn and handle challenges is directly linked to how well we learn.

Here’s how Dweck described it in an interview with Harvard Business review (HBR):

“A fixed mindset is when people believe their basic qualities, their intelligence, their talents, their abilities, are just fixed traits. They have a certain amount, and that’s that. But other people have a growth mindset. They believe that even basic talents and abilities can be developed over time through experience, mentorship, and so on. And these are the people who go for it. They’re not always worried about how smart they are, how they’ll look, what a mistake will mean. They challenge themselves and grow.”

Learning is a Journey

The research into Growth Mindset shows our success at school, and even in life, is tied to our mindset, and if you have a growth mindset, you can grow your brain’s capacity to learn and to solve problems. Therefore, intelligence is not fixed, and if you believe in learning as a journey, you can grow your intelligence.

In her studies, Dweck found that some kids saw challenges as opportunities to learn, even seeing their failures as good – the more they failed, the more they learned. So, they were psyched for more challenges. However, other kids saw challenges in the exact opposite way, rather than working harder to try to improve, they gave up or didn’t try.

The good news is that further studies showed that is was possible to change people’s mindsets, and therefore impact their results at school – with some experiments showing huge turnarounds in class grades from the bottom to the top of the district or state in only a year.

Here are two such examples:

Academic achievement: A 2016 study by Susana Claro, David Paunesku and Carol Dweck, called “Growth mindset tempers the effects of poverty on academic achievement” showed that having a growth mindset is a reliable predictor academic achievement.
Reading and writing skills: A 2016 study by Simon Calmar Andersen and Helena Skyt Nielsen called “Reading intervention with a growth mindset approach improves children’s skills” showed that teaching parents that their child’s ability isn’t fixed and helping them to support their child’s effort, rather than performance, increased the reading and writing skills of all children involved in the study.

Listen to Carol Dweck talk about how ‘the power of yet’ can change kids’ mindsets.

Growth Mindset is for Adults Too

There have been many other studies in growth mindset that show the benefits for adults in professional settings. In fact, in recent years the term “life-long learning” has started making its way into corporate vernacular – aligning up with the need for employees to stay up-to-date with rapidly changing workplaces, industries and societies.

According to global consulting firm McKinsey & Company, “studies show that workers who maintain their ability to learn outpace other professionals. The people who will thrive in the 21st century will be those who embrace lifelong learning and continually increase their knowledge, skills, and competencies.”

It’s worth remembering that it’s not just the acquisition of new skills and competencies that benefit these workers. The mindset that drives people to be curious and want to learn more is also a great buffer against criticism and failure. People who have a growth mindset see failure as a part of their development journey. So, it’s not just the new skills or knowledge, but also the mindset, that helps people with a growth mindset succeed.

It turns out that developing a growth mindset and lifelong learning habits are skills that will benefit you well into retirement too. A recent study showed that people who keep their mind sharp in retirement tend to live longer.

How to Develop a Growth Mindset

If you think you need help to change your current mindset, or want to know more about this research, MinsetWorks.com is a great online resource.

Check out Mindset Works’ free assessment to identify areas in which you can work toward a growth mindset.

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How to Move on From Job Burnout

19/01/2020 by Marie

Feeling Stressed, Overwhelmed, Angry or Frustrated? Like 1 in 4 Others, You Could be Experiencing Job Burnout.

A few years ago, I experienced job burnout.

I had a good job with a well-respected brand, and I was killing it – regularly receiving awards and praise. I pride myself on my can-do attitude, and I was often the person called upon to get stuff done, the more important and immediate the task the more likely it was to come to me. I felt appreciated and important, and I was relishing it. Life was good.

Then it wasn’t.

I started getting colds and flus all the time, but I never felt that I could take the time to fully recover. There was just too much to do! I put on weight, mostly because I didn’t have time to cook or prepare meals, and I had stopped playing sports because I was just too tired after work.

I felt like I was always racing against impossible deadlines, forcing me to work into the evening or weekends. I’d always chosen to work late before – almost feeling proud of the extra hours I was putting in to get the job done well – now I felt cornered into it. I’d lost control and always felt snowed under. I noticed I was always stressed. In fact, it became my new answer when I’d walk into the office in the morning.

“How are you?” my colleagues would ask while not looking up from their computers.

“Oh you know, a bit stressed, but OK,” I would answer as I started up my laptop, brushing it off but also secretly hoping someone would say, “oh really, how can I help?”

They never did.

Most concerning to me, I was exhausted but couldn’t sleep. Not since my university days had I lay in bed awake stressing about all the things I had to get done the next day. The difference was that at university, I knew there was an end to exam week. It was a couple of weeks of intense prep and sitting the exams, then it was all over (with a holiday to follow!). But this just wasn’t ending, and it was getting worse. I tried writing my to-do list for the next day before bed, I tried deep breathing to calm my mind, I tried over-the-counter sleeping tablets. Nothing was working.

So, I jumped ship.

I was offered another job in another team, and it was the circuit breaker I needed. I got lucky, but not everyone has such a convenient alternative waiting for them when things get too tough.

2019: The Year of Burnout

2019 was the year that the world stood up and took notice of this problem.

It started when the World Health Organization (WHO) added burnout to its list of globally recognized diseases, estimating that one in five children or teenagers and one in four adults will experience burnout in their lives.

This was supported later in the year by the World Economic Forum labelling burnout a “mental health pandemic” and then later re-labelled it as an “occupational phenomenon” caused by chronic stress.

Understandably, there was also increased discussion of stress-management, resiliency and workplace engagement as a result.

Workaholics Beware

Job burnout happens after prolonged job-related stress, and it can affect your mental and physical health. According to the Mayo Clinic, job burnout can include the following risk factors that you should look out for:

identifying strongly with work
lacking balance between your work life and your personal life
having a high workload, including overtime work
trying to be everything to everyone, or trying to do everything
working in a helping profession, such as health care
feeling you have little or no control over your work
having a monotonous job

Unfortunately, society today rewards people who put in the extra hours – the people who are first to arrive and last to leave. Also, now that many people have a work phone, the lines between work and home have blurred, meaning we’re only a phone vibration away from that latest email your boss sends at 10pm because he’s also trying to catch up.

If you’re a high achiever or simply passionate about what you do, you are at higher risk of burnout. And if you’re a workaholic, then watch out!

Job Burnout Symptoms

Burnout is a slow progressing state that you get to over time which can leave you feeling physically and emotionally exhausted as well as cynical and detached. Symptoms of burnout include excessive stress, insomnia, fatigue, sadness, anger or irritability, alcohol or substance misuse, high blood pressure, and decreased immune function leading to an increase in illnesses, among others.

If you’re experiencing any of these job burnout symptoms, you’ll definitely want to get that checked out by a professional (talk to your doctor). If you’re not experiencing these symptoms, but are nodding along to those risk factors, you might want to reassess your current behaviours.

The Ideal State

A Yale university study recently examined engagement levels in 1000 employees and found that 2 out of 5 were engaged and had positive emotions about their work and workplace. Another 2 out of 5 were disengaged, so they were at higher risk of leaving the company. The last group, 1 out of 5, were engaged but burned-out – reporting high levels of interest, stress, and frustration. Surprisingly, people in this group had a higher turnover rate than those who were disengaged. To extrapolate, high performing talent is coming into organisations, burning themselves out, then moving on.

It stands to reason for both employers and employees that the ideal state for workers is to be highly engaged, but not to the point of job burnout. Workers need challenging work, sure, but they also need support to achieve that work. In short, managers need to stop asking one person to do more than one person’s worth of work for long or indefinite periods. And employees need to stop treating constant overtime as a reasonable request. Also, if asked to do a short-term stint of long nights and weekends, the worker needs time off afterward to re-balance. As Shawn Achor and Michelle Gielan wrote in Harvard Business review, “resilience is about how you recharge, not how you endure.”

Balance. That Old Chestnut.

While recovering is important in high stress jobs, it’s also important to put time and thought into how not to get stressed in the first place. And you guessed it, it’s all about balance.

There are three focus areas you should be aiming to find balance across. With small but powerful changes in these areas, you can keep some balance in your life and stop your job from leading you to job burnout.

When we experience job burnout, we let our job (the purpose and meaning circle) take over, often to the detriment of our relationships and health

Put Work In Its Place – It Is One Part Of a Balanced Life

Remember, work is only one part of a balanced, happy life. Many studies have shown that we need to have purpose or meaning in our lives, and in today’s day and age we generally get that from our jobs. In fact, because our jobs take up so much of our times nowadays, they often become the main thing that gives us purpose and they often are inextricably linked to our sense of identity. What we do is very often how we introduce ourselves to others, and how we see our place in the world. So, yes jobs are important, but they’re not everything, and like with nearly all things in life, it’s about balance.

You need balance between what brings you meaning and purpose, and also between the other aspects of your life: your social connections and your mental and physical health.

You may only aim for balance between each of the three areas, whereas some people may also aim for balance within the three focus areas as well. This means aiming to have multiple things that give their life meaning, such as being a banker and a little league coach and a father/husband, or as we’re seeing more and more in today’s gig economy, you might be a freelance writer, a speaker and a change consultant.

If you have one job you’re passionate about, but your job has recently taken over your life (the red circle is the only or largest circle), then you should start by learning to say “no” while you are getting yourself back onto your feet. Talk to your boss about needing to find balance between work and personal life and agree that you won’t take on new tasks or responsibilities for a while until you can get back to a manageable workload. Also, take back your out-of-office life by agreeing on times you can turn off your work phone or silence alerts outside of work hours – then do it!

Prioritise Your Mental and Physical Health

One of the first things that goes when we get busy is our physical health. With this one, start small if you want to make long-term change – the easiest way to fail at change is to try to do too much all at once. So, here’s some good news. Studies show that as little as one-hour of exercise per week, regardless of intensity, can show benefits. So, why not sign up for a 6pm gym class or sports league once per week. Tell your colleagues and boss so they can support you to leave on time that day. You could also find ways to get outside during your workday. Try walking meetings, or you could actually take your lunchbreak (gasp!), and when you do, find a park to sit in and eat lunch. Lastly, why not go for a hike with friends or family on the weekends – the benefits of being in nature are many.

Mental health is just as important as physical health, and they’re both intrinsically tied. There is a lot of information out there, such as be mindful, grateful, kind and generous. But if you’re recovering from burnout, or trying to, you may wish to focus on resting and recovering – also now known as self-care. So, take your holidays, get enough sleep, have long baths, Netflix to your heart’s content. Whatever it is that helps you unwind, make it a priority in 2020. Here’s some additional inspiration if you need it. Like with all things, you don’t want to overdo it (it’s all about balance!), but when things get busy it’s easy to forget we need to rest and recover too.

Prioritise Relationships Outside of Work

What do people remember on their deathbeds? The people in their lives and the experiences they shared with them. Make sure you are prioritising your relationships outside of work, both at home and with friends. Find time to do activities with your friends and family, preferably face-to-face, such as taking holidays, going for walks, or having meals together. The benefits of having strong social connections are endless, and include living longer, being happier and being more resilient to illness, just to name a few. The great news is that you can roll #2 and #3 together sometimes for a double whammy.

If you don’t have many close friends and would like to have more, just remember, you need to invest the time. There is no quick fix here. The latest science shows that it takes about 200 hours to become a close friend with someone. So, try looking for a class or long-term activity that you can commit to that could help ease the awkward period between acquaintances and friends.

Why not make 2020 the year of balance? And if all else fails, you can just jump ship, like I did, and start again!

“Work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. The other four balls—family, health, friends, integrity—are made of glass. If you drop one of these, it will be irrevocably scuffed, nicked, perhaps even shattered.”
Gary Keller

Dealing with Burnout

Remember throughout it all that there are science-backed activities you can do to better manage your stress and build your resiliency. Check out the posts under the below topics for some ideas on how to manage your stress, or speak to a professional.

Community and Connection: Connecting with others and contributing to your community are proven to build emotional resiliency and make your life happier. It is so important not to neglect this part of your life, especially if it doesn’t come easily, like when work is really busy or if you’re a natural introvert.

Health and Wellbeing: Your health and wellbeing is critical to your happiness. Luckily, there is a wealth of information about how to make small changes to your life to make it healthier and improve your wellbeing.

Meaning and Purpose: Having a sense of meaning and purpose in life is critical to resiliency and living a happy life. You need it to thrive and flourish. It’s about having a reason to get out of bed in the morning, setting goals and having commitments. Some lucky people get that purpose through their job, but many of us get our purpose through other activities such as volunteering, learning or experiencing new things or caring for others.

Related content: Read Moving On article Stress Reduction Lessons from Marie Kondo, listen to our Podcast: The Importance of Having Fun In Your Life – Interview (E27)

How to be happy – 50 science-backed ways to improve your happiness

12/01/2020 by Marie

Are you looking for some ideas or inspiration to help reduce anxiety, build resiliency, cope with the stresses of modern life or lift your mood?

Positive Psychology is a fairly new sub-field within the study of psychology. It is the study of happiness and looks at how people can live a more fulfilling, satisfying and meaningful life. There has been an explosion of research over the past couple of decades, and one thing is absolutely obvious: you can practice happiness.

Happiness is not about being in a constant state of joy, or about being on a constant high all the time. It’s about positivity and mental wellbeing. It’s enjoying the good times and being able to bounce back from the bad times. It’s grieving when we need to grieve and being resilient when we need resilience.

Take a read below of the top 50 science-backed activities you can incorporate into your life that are proven to help you be happy. Try one or try them all. Try them once or make them a part of your daily, weekly or monthly habits.

But remember, as author Stephen Covey said, “The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.” So, if you want to be happier or reduce stress, anxiety and negative emotions, pick a few of the below options that work for you, and schedule them into your weekly planner.

50 tips for how to be happy

1. Get a pet or interact with animals

The research shows that interacting with pets increased cortisol levels, making you happier.

2. Build a growth mindset

Having a growth mindset means you never stop learning. Now research shows that it also impacts how you see the world and makes you more likely to thrive in life.

3. Practice smiling

Science shows that once you smile, feedback loops go back to the brain which reinforce feelings of joy and happiness.

4. Be authentic to yourself and your truth

Humanistic psychologists have shown that as their clients become more authentic, they become happier and their psychological wellbeing increases.

5. Reduce your commute time

There are many changes you can make to your life to impact your happiness levels, and one of them is moving closer to work or finding a way to reduce your commute time. It turns out that having a bigger house doesn’t make up for having a longer commute.

6. Plan a holiday

Holidays are great, we all know that — take them whenever you can. But did you know that the biggest boost in your happiness comes not from the vacation itself, but from the act of planning the vacation?

7. Take your lunchbreak and get outside in the sun

A recent study shows that spending time by the sea makes people happier. It also showed that just being outdoors makes you happier — preferably in a non-urban environment, but hey, we’ll take what we can get!

8. Make time for family

There is substantial research into the benefits of close social bonds, but this study looks at the economic impact of having a happy marriage, and a good social life. The results? Good relationships and social bonds not only make you happier, they also make you richer!

9. Meditate

There are many types of meditation, and they all help with happiness. Research shows that participants report feeling more positive emotions and more energetic.

10. Eat lots of fruit and vegies

There is increasing research linking a healthy body to a healthy mind, including this study that showed eating more fruit and vegies led to an increase in motivation and vitality.

11. Discover your purpose or meaning

This one is a no-brainer. Many, many studies have shown that having purpose or meaning is key to happiness. But how do you find your purpose? Check out this article for some inspiration.

12. Do some gardening and plant a tree

Not only does being around trees increase our mental wellbeing, it also has a positive impact on our immune system! Who knew?

13. Practice self-compassion

Give yourself a break! Constantly aiming to be better is exhausting and focusing on what’s ‘wrong’ or needs improvement can lead to negative self-talk. So make sure you balance things out with some self-love and positive talk, or even better, work to stop judging yourself altogether.

14. Be social

Humans are genetically wired to be social animals, after all there is strength in numbers! So make sure you take the time to be social, even if you’re busy or introverted. You could meet a friend for coffee or organise a group to have dinner.

15. Buy some happiness

Let’s be clear: money doesn’t buy happiness (as long as you have enough to cover your basic needs). But you can use money to pay someone else to do the things you don’t like and free up some time for you to do things that will bring you joy.

16. Cut down on sugar

I’m so sad to see this one on the list, but not only is sugar bad for our waistlines, it may also increase our long-term risk of mental health disorders according to this study. Best to limit sugar to special occasions if you can.

17. Find happy people to be around

Sometimes we need to protect ourselves and cut toxic relationships out of our lives. But, have you stopped to consider the impact your partner’s happiness has on your life? Research shows that people with happier partners live longer! A thought worth considering when you’re dating. If that ship has sailed, then why not do something nice for your partner to bring a smile to their face once you’ve finished reading this article?

18. Find time for your close friends

Life gets busy, we know, but it’s important to keep your relationships strong, particularly as you age. This recent study shows that having just one strong friendship is enough to stave off mental decline as we age.

19. Find or create moments of awe in your life

Studies show that experiencing moments of awe makes us moregenerous and patient, and helps you deal with stress better.

20. Prioritise positivity

This is a tried and tested hypothesis and it’s true: how you see the world impacts your mental wellbeing. Or put another way, your beliefs affect your emotional experiences. Why not try this little trick to bring some more positivity into your life?

21. Have a family meal

We know that being social is important, so family mealtime is a no brainer, we have to eat so why not do it together? But what you may not know is that eating together benefits your kids’ mental and physical health. So, try to prioritise at least one family meal per day where you put phones and distractions away and be present with each other!

22. Have a laugh at yourself

You might think that people who are self-deprecating have lower self-esteem, but this study shows it’s the opposite, and people who make fun of themselves are in fact happier and better socially adjusted.

23. Learn to forgive your mistakes and accept yourself

It’s one thing to practice positive self-talk, but why not take it even further and forgive yourself altogether and accept your faults. In this study, acceptance was the habit that was most strongly linked to life satisfaction.

24. Try yoga

Yoga is a mind-body practice that has risen in popularity over recent decades, and it has also recently been proven to help people with depression.

25. Get creative

Find a passion and get creative, you could try writing, dancing, acting, cooking, painting or any number of other creative pursuits. No matter what you choose, one thing is sure, being creative helps people deal with trauma and is helpful to both physical and mental wellbeing.

26. Have (a little bit of) chocolate

Studies into how eating chocolate impacts mood showed either an improvement in mood or a reduction of negative mood.

27. Get a dog

Having a dog has been proven to increase physical health — after all you have to take them for walks. But dogs are also good for mental health too. Studies show that owning a dog reduces a person’s risk of premature death by up to a third!

28. Be kind

Kindness increases happiness, energy, the love hormone (oxytocin), pleasure and it even increases your lifespan. It’s also really easy to practice and has recently started a global movement you can get involved in #RandomActsOfKindness

29. Attend a spiritual retreat

A study showed that people who attend spiritual retreats report greater psychological well-being and show retreats may increase levels of “feel-good” hormones in the brain.

30. Build your work friendships

Positive and warm relationships at work can make us feel happier and healthier, while also increasing productivity.

31. Take a break or limit overuse of social media

We’ve all heard the doomsday reports on the negative effects of social media. It turns out the key to social media is to be active in your use (not passive). When used actively to build or maintain social ties, social media can be a positive force, but beware of passively scrolling through feeds for hours — this can lead to liking yourself less and feeling envy. Also taking a week off can boosts well-being too. In the end, the research says to use social media wisely, deliberately and sparingly.

32. Take a moment to look at nature

On your way to work? Popping into the shops? Wherever you are, be sure to stop and smell the roses, or at least notice them. Research says that observing nature — wherever you may be — will make you feel happier.

33. Cook a new recipe for dinner

Cooking is a form of self-care and cooking for others is a way of nurturing people and sharing a meal is a great way to create deeper social bonds.

34. Practice loving kindness

Research has shown that helping others through acts of charity or volunteer work can make you feel better and happier, but more recent research finds that simply wishing someone well may have a similarly positive effect on our moods.

35. Get active

A study that examined data from almost 34,000 people has found that as little as one-hour of exercise per week, regardless of intensity, can help to prevent depression. So, get out there and something, anything, for just an hour and you can reap the benefits!

36. Give up smoking

Sorry smokers, I know it feels like everyone is ganging up on you, and I don’t have good news for you either. Research shows that giving up smoking is linked to greater happiness and elevated mood.

37. Get enough consistent sleep

Recent research has suggested sleep should be considered a major public health concern, and shows that the effects of a good night’s sleep are as beneficial for our happiness and well-being as winning the lottery might be!

38. Play some happy music

Music has not only been proven to help people with anxiety and depression, but it is also a major key to happiness, alleviating pain, keeping your brain healthy and improving mood.

39. Take control over your life

Developing greater control over your life can help you make important life decisions and feel less overwhelmed, stuck and lost. Read on for 7 ways to take control of your life.

40. Go for a hike in the mountains or a walk along the beach

Researchers have found that simply going for a leisurely walk can improve mood and boost subjective well-being, particularly for adults who are normally sedentary.

41. Go outside

The findings are in: the more green space in the neighbourhood, the happier people report feeling. Quite simply, if you want to feel better, just go outside.

42. Be generous

Research shows giving to others activates an area of the brain linked with contentment and the reward cycle. So, performing selfless acts makes you happier.

43. Get a cat

You either love ’em or hate ’em, but the benefits are clear, cats make our lives happier and healthier.

44. Join a choir or sing with friends

Music helps to synchronise our bodies and our brains, making it the perfect social glue. Participants in a sing-along reported feeling closer and more connected because of the experience of singing together.

45. Do some volunteer work

Research has shown that volunteering is rewarding in and of itself, and helping others is a way to higher individual wellbeing.

46. Set some goals and work to achieve them

Research shows that people who are making progress toward or are achieving meaningful goals are happier. Whether they’re health and fitness goals, or family goals, or work goals, the key is to be making progress.

47. Practice gratitude

In positive psychology research, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships. One tip that has shown results is to keep a gratitude journal.

48. Forgive others

Forgiving others is a great way to let go of negativity. Follow this guide to work through the 9 steps to forgiving someone.

49. Have sex with someone you love

A number of studies have shown that sex is a key ingredient of a happy marriage — producing and ‘afterglow’ that can last up to two days.

50. Chasing happiness can have the opposite effect!

Beware chasing happiness for the sake of happiness. The above tips are all great activities you can pursue that have been proven to increase happiness and/or decrease negative moods and feelings. But it’s worth pointing out in our last tip that simply chasing happiness is not the way to find it.

Conclusion

The research shows that you can’t chase happiness, but you can fill your life with new and novel experiences, preferably shared with friends and family, that bring meaning to your life and the lives of others. If you can find the balance between the activities that you choose, and those you must do (often your day job), you might just succeed in finding happiness.

Ever wondered how to be happy? Are you looking for a few ideas or some inspiration to help reduce anxiety, cope with the stresses of modern life, or lift your mood? Here are 50 science-backed activities you can incorporate into your life that are proven to help you be happy.

Try one or try them all, try them once or make them a part of your daily, weekly or monthly habits.

But remember, as author Stephen Covey said, “The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.”

So, if you want to be happier or reduce stress, anxiety and negative emotions, pick a few of the below options that work for you, and schedule them into your diary to make them habits.

“Work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. The other four balls—family, health, friends, integrity—are made of glass. If you drop one of these, it will be irrevocably scuffed, nicked, perhaps even shattered.”
Gary Keller

Share your tips for a happier life below! We’d love to hear them.

Don’t miss out! In 2020, we’ve got a jam-packed editorial calendar of science-backed content on topics like ‘the power of being bored’ and ‘the importance of finding ‘flow.’’ There will be reviews of books, research and talks in the positive psychology space, and we’ll be launching a new podcast called Happiness for Cynics. Don’t forget to subscribe so you don’t miss out!

TED’s top 11 positive psychology talks

05/01/2020 by Marie

Are you new to the field of positive psychology? Maybe you’re overwhelmed with all the content out there and not sure where to start?

It’s not surprising. Positive Psychology is a fairly new sub-field within the study of psychology. It is the study of happiness and looks at how people can live a more fulfilling, satisfying and meaningful life, and there has been an explosion of research and content over the past couple of decades.

To get you started on all you need to know, here’s a look at the best TED talks by some of the top positive psychology superstars around the world.

Martin Seligman: The new era of positive psychology (23:42), July 2008. Commonly known as the founder of Positive Psychology, Martin Seligman is a leading authority in the fields of Positive Psychology and resilience.
Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi: Flow, the secret to happiness (18:55), October 2008. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi is a Hungarian-American psychologist. He recognised and named the psychological concept of flow, a highly focused mental state conducive to productivity and happiness.
Dan Gilbert: The surprising science of happiness (21:16), September 2006. Dan Gilbert is an author and Harvard psychologist who says our beliefs about what will make us happy are often wrong.
Robert Waldinger: What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness (12:46), December 2015. Robert Waldinger is a Harvard psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, Zen priest and director of the longest study on adult life and happiness.
Carol Dweck: The Power of Believing That You Can Improve (10:24), November 2014. Stanford university psychologist Carol Dweck researches “growth mindset” — the idea that we can grow our brain’s capacity to learn and to solve problems verses having a ‘fixed mindset.’
Emily Esfahani Smith: There’s more to life than being happy (12:18), September 2017. Emily Esfahani Smith is a writer who draws on psychology, philosophy, and literature to write about the human experience—why we are the way we are and how we can find grace and meaning in a world that is full of suffering.
Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability (20:19), December 2010. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston where she studies courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy. She is the author of five #1 New York Times best sellers.
Shawn Achor: The happy secret to better work (12:20), February 2012. Shawn Achor is an American author, and speaker known for his advocacy of positive psychology. He authored The Happiness Advantage and founded GoodThink, Inc.
Angela Lee Duckworth: Grit: The power of passion and perseverance (6:12), May 2013. Angela Duckworth is co-founder and CEO of Character Lab, a nonprofit that uses psychological science to help children thrive, and a professor of psychology at the University of Pennsylvania.
Adam Grant: The surprising habits of original thinkers (15:25), April 2016. Adam M. Grant is an American psychologist, author and professor at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania specializing in organizational psychology.
Susan David: The gift and power of emotional courage (16:48), January 2018. Susan David, Ph.D. a renowned psychologist and expert on emotions, happiness, and achievement, believes that one of the keys to a happy life is knowing yourself. She talks about recognising your feelings and understanding what they are really telling us.

Got a favourite Ted talk that’s not on this list? Share it below.

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Wait! Here’s Why You Should Keep Giving This Holiday Season

29/12/2019 by Marie

Another Christmas is over and for many people this means they have a lot more stuff they don’t need or want. But did you know that donating your unwanted Christmas stuff will make you happier and sexier?

With an increased awareness of the impacts of global warming on our planet, it’s no surprise that this year has seen an explosion of zero-waste, DIY and minimalist Christmas gift tips.

Despite being far more conscious of the ecological impact of our Christmas shopping, in Australia $980 million in presents will not be used, and in the UK it is estimated that £2.2 billion worth of presents are unwanted, whereas in the U.S. Americans return nearly $90 billion worth of gifts every year.

So, as you start to pack down your Christmas tree, box those decorations for next year, and vacuum the tinsel from the corners of every room, it’s a great time to also do a clean out of your wardrobe, garage and cupboards to see what you could donate.

Decluttering is good for the soul

As bestselling author and tidying expert Marie Kondo says, if it doesn’t spark joy, let it go.

The Konmari method aims to help people live a life that sparks joy by making room for meaningful objects, people and experiences.

“Tidy your space, transform your life.”
Marie Kondo

In our house, we have a one-in-one-out motto for non-essential items, which means that for any item of clothing, entertainment or decoration that we buy, we have to let go of an old item. It’s amazing how this has changed how I shop. I used to pick up items I liked off a shelf and if I could afford it, I’d buy it. Now, I often find myself picking up an item off a shelf and saying, “It’s nice, but I don’t need it.” …much to the amusement of my husband who always thought that way.

I also don’t find myself at shopping centres as often, and find I am more content with what I have. It’s also far easier to clean my house when there’s less stuff lying around.

So, while you’re already cleaning up and packing down after Christmas, why not take a look at what you received this Christmas, and what you already have, and see what you could let go of.

Giving also makes you sexier

If the above reasons aren’t enough to convince you to donate, then consider that being altruistic makes you sexier to the opposite sex. A 2016 study by the British Journal of Psychology found that participants who were given $100 in potential monetary winnings and who were willing to donate that money, also reported having more lifetime and/or casual sex partners over the previous year. In short, altruists get more sex.

Here are some fabulous charities that could use your ‘gently-used’ donations

Dress for Success improves the employability of women in need by providing free professional clothing, a network of support and the career development tools to help women achieve self-sufficiency. Donate your work clothes to give a woman a new start.

The Red Cross* provides clothing for victims of natural disasters, and the Red Cross Shops sell new and donated clothes, accessories and homewares to raise funds to help people in need.

The Salvation Army* serves 130 countries around the globe. It is an evangelical part of the universal Christian Church which aims to meet human needs in His name without discrimination. Donations help serve the most vulnerable members of your community.

Ronald McDonald House* was an absolute saviour for my family, allowing my mother to stay for free within minutes of the hospital at which my 12-year-old sister was being given the treatment she needed to save her life. These homes away from home serve all types of families, so your donated games, toys and household items could go a long way to bringing some joy to these families during a tough time. Make sure you call ahead before dropping off goods.

*Australian links provided, but you can Google these charities in most countries around the world.

Leave a comment below if you know of other worthy charities!

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How to make New Years’ resolutions you might actually keep

23/12/2019 by Marie

Have you ever set New Year’s resolutions but after a few days, weeks or months, forgotten all about them or let them drop because they’re too hard to maintain? You’re not alone.

According to research by the University of Scranton, only eight per cent of people actually achieve their New Year’s goals, with 80 per cent failing to keep their New Year’s resolutions altogether.

With such depressing stats, you might be thinking about giving-up on the whole institution altogether, right? No!

Goals are really important for mental health

“Happy people have more self-esteem, sense of control, optimism, and a sense of purpose derived from having goals,” says Michael Argyle, author of The Psychology of Happiness.

Setting goals you’ll keep

The first of January is only a random date in a calendar and there’s nothing that says you can’t set goals at any time of the year. But if you’re going to set New Year’s resolutions, you have to do the right thinking and planning before that day to set yourself up to succeed.

Here are some proven techniques you can implement to give yourself the best chance of succeeding…. And the best thing is that you can start this process at any time of year.

Commit to your goals. If you want to succeed, you must have input and take ownership for achieving your goals. Write them down and even tell a few people around you, this helps you to truly commit to your goals and leads to greater motivation.
Make them SMART goals. Being specific about what you want to achieve is critical. Your goals should be: specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timely (SMART). If your goal is to ‘lose weight’, instead try to define what that means, maybe it’s something like “I will only eat dessert on weekends and special occasions (birthdays or public holidays). On weekdays, I will make myself a cup of herbal tea to replace my mindless TV eating.”
Plan for incremental change. It’s not realistic to expect to be a marathon runner overnight if your usual level of activity only involves walking to the car and back. But if you plan for incremental change, over time, who knows what might happen? Remember it’s better to do 10 minutes of exercise a couple of times per week, instead of starting with 60 minutes of exercise five times per week then quitting. Start with small incremental actions that will lead to larger change over time. Once you’ve mastered the small steps, add more complexity or challenge to give you motivation when things get boring or too easy.
Aim for Goldilocks goals. Your goals shouldn’t be too easy or too hard. If your goal is too easy, you can easily lose motivation and give up. If it’s too hard or complex, it can be overwhelming. A goal that’s challenging but achievable is just right to keep you motivated throughout the year.
Be forgiving. If your goal is to write 3,000 words per week for your new novel, but you don’t achieve your goal that week, then forgive yourself and catch that up at the end. Don’t add more work to your following week as it will only add more stress and might lead you to give up altogether.

It’s about the journey, not the outcome

Goals will help you to set a path, but remember it’s about the journey, not the outcome. Enjoy the challenge and set your mind to a task or activity, but remember to be mindful and enjoy the moments. Otherwise, you may end up setting and achieving goals and always waiting for the achievement of the goal to bring happiness, and the next one and the next one.

Remember that having goals allows you to enjoy the process and take satisfaction in daily or small accomplishments along the way, it’s not only about achieving the goal.

If you’re looking for some inspiration for goals to set next year to be happier, have a read of this article on Three Habits of Positive People, and don’t forget to share your SMART New Year’s resolutions in the comments below!

What’s coming up in 2020?

In 2020, we’ve got a jam-packed editorial calendar of science-backed content on topics like ‘the power of being bored’ and ‘the importance of finding ‘flow.’’ There will be reviews of books and the top TedX talks in the positive psychology space, and we’ll be launching a new podcast called Happiness for Cynics!

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5 Easy Projects to Rediscover Your Christmas Spirit

18/12/2019 by Marie

Life’s busy, and it gets even more busy toward the end of the year. As the calendar switches to December, the demands on our time seem to double overnight. From the catch-ups with old colleagues and office Christmas parties, to trying to get something personal and meaningful (and appropriately priced) for everyone on your list, to trying to tie up everything at work while planning travel arrangements for the family, while juggling the usual life to-do list. Quite simply, it can all just be a bit much, and what should be a happy time of year with friends and family can turn into a burden to ‘get through’ as quickly as possible so life can return to normal.

It’s a shame though. Consumerism aside, there are so many good things about the Christmas holidays, regardless of your faith. It teaches gratefulness and giving, and it strengthens social connection, which are all scientifically proven to increase your happiness and mental wellbeing.

Christmas is also the perfect time to dust off those craft supplies, or buy some new ones, and immerse yourself in an activity for a few hours while creating something for others.

The good news is that it doesn’t take much to re-centre yourself and start feeling those Christmas happy vibes. In positive psychology, the state of flow, coined by Mihály Csíkszentmihályi in 1975, is when a person is fully immersed in performing an activity that gives them a feeling of energized focus, full involvement and enjoyment in the process of the activity.

So, find your flow! Here are five easy and cheap homemade gift ideas to help you find your Christmas mojo and rediscover your appreciation of the festive season.

Self-Care Box

If you have friends who are going through a tough time, or who might have to spend Christmas alone, what better way to show you care than making them a self-care box. Charleigh at Charleighwrites recently posted a few ideas you could try.

Mason Jars Succulent Box

Why not build a box filled with a selection of budding plants. This versatile gift will brighten up someone special’s place or it’s also a relatively safe gift for someone you don’t know well. LifeStorageBlog has a great tutorial for making these, and it’s a great way to reuse old glass jars.

Flavoured Vodka

Throughout the year, keep all your empty glass bottles and jars so you can make some flavoured vodka gifts bottles. These are great as economical thank you gifts during the festive season for all those parties you’ll be going to! Make sure you also create your own bespoke label for your new vodka inventions, so people know what’s in there. Check out this GoodFood article for tips.

Scented Candles

Candles are another easy and cheap project you can tackle to create a personalised present for someone these holidays. Just pop into your local craft or hobby store or go online to buy the ingredients and supplies. All you need is a few leftover crayons from the kids to colour the wax, or about 10 to 15 drops of essential oil per pound of solid wax for fragrance. Watch this great video from Jami Ray Vintage with some insider tips to help first-timers.

Christmas Cookies

Nothing says homemade Christmas present like a plate of Christmas cookies. This is a great activity that you can also do with family and the kids, with everyone getting to express their creative side while decorating the cookies. Check out I Am Baker’s list of the 40 best Christmas Cookies for inspiration.

Do you have other ideas for activities to get into the Christmas spirit? Let us know below!